Someone asked what advice would I give to someone dealing with a narcissist.
Here is what came to mind:
Slowly, if you live together, make a plan to leave unnoticed to a place where you will be safe. Disengage from common friends and family. Then when in your safe place, slowly change your thought patterns from him, back to yourself. Ask yourself why you allow from them behaviours that what you don't allow from anyone else?
Cry, and tell yourself it is not love, it's limmerance.
Day by day, strength and peace will start to surface again.
First small pieces, then to the point that you are the one not wanting to go back. Remember always to tell yourself that this person does not like you, its just using you. You are only a "toy".
I know, it will hurt, and it cuts deep this realization but it will also give you rage enough to choose you.
Don't think about revenge or have bad thoughts about them. If you do, You are projecting their karma into your life.
Just focus on you and what is in you that allows yourself to accept the bare minimum. Don't become one, by infection.
Remember that you are loved, safe and protected.
It is a lonely dark road, but returning to self is a greater gift
You will rise again, in the end, stronger, with healthy boundaries.
In due time, the memory of them, the shared illusion will dissipate and in that space, your inner child will laugh again.
#AboutHealing
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