AnnSofiNovelist on Nostr: Just came across a post staying, "things a good husband does without being asked", ...

Just came across a post staying, "things a good husband does without being asked", 🙄 wow, whomever wrote that loves codependence!

The reality is, you get what you ask for!
If you want a healthy marriage, you make deals and verbalize what you want! You don't expect the other person to read your mind, or to do things for you that you haven't asked for.
Share why you want them to do it and what it contributes to you, and they're way more likely to want to help you get what you want.
Unverbalized expectations are almost guaranteed to lead to heart ache and conflict in the long run.

I learned some great techniques on how to do this practically from Alison Armstrong, and added it in our book, "How to Prepare Yourself for Marriage", because all the good tools you learn before you're married can be used directly once you're married, instead of needing to try to figure them out as you go! 🤗