Why do you assume setting high standards in a marriage is "an attitude of contempt"?
Wishy washy, feminine men who overaccomodate their wife are comforting themselves instead of loving their wife by *doing their duty*.
Why do you assume that the wife has no sin in such a manner? That wanting to leave a man's house and reenter the world... must be the man's fault?
You are making an idol of feminism, sir.
