purrs_for_Her on Nostr: thanks, fren. intimacy is such a tricky subject because its meaning varies so much. ...

thanks, fren.

intimacy is such a tricky subject because its meaning varies so much. but it's also something we (i'm guilty of this too) tend to internalize the experience of instead of the connection. just an observation.

i don't doubt how you feel because i have and still do feel similarly at times. as guys, i think we do experience a large amount of intimacy through physical contact and especially sex. it's often equated with love because the feeling between a loving connection and an "empty" orgasm is just so stark.

so maybe in the moments when a deep connection is present—when we feel seen and understood and all that—physical touch amplifies it. but in the moments when that deep connection is missing, it's sought after as a fill in. because that experience is what we know it *feels* like.

but i know for me, when i have felt needy and perhaps a bit neglected due to the ceaseless nature of family life, that just a close moment of recognition was more than enough to pull me through. not touch, not kink, just recognition, acknowledgement, and gratitude.

these things are just difficult to parse out because we're different individuals and our spouses are different as well. but it's never too late to start throwing some points into the other stats to connect with her. :3

thanks again, fren. <3