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2026-03-17 23:38:05 UTC

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Crazy idea it will never work

2026-03-17 08:23:10 UTC

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Haven't used blixt but Phoenix is a great first wallet. You'll experience lower fees and more control with Zeus. Zeus also supports cashu, your own channels (don't have to use their lsp if you don't want) etc
You do not need your own lightning node to use Zeus, it comes with its own built in.

2026-03-17 06:07:29 UTC

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Tried to zap your comment but looks like you don't have zaps setup

2026-03-17 05:13:49 UTC

Wanting your man to just "listen" and "validate" but not "offer solutions" is like taking your grocery list to the hardware store. It's like getting mad that every time you go to the Subaru dealership, they don't try to sell you a Toyota.
When I want emotional insight? I talk with women, because they tend to be better at listening, validating, and helping me understand what I feel. When I want solutions? I ask men. Don't ask people for things they are innately not good at providing and then get frustrated when they can't. I don't ask my mechanic friend about my taxes, and I don't ask my tax guy about my dating life.
Play to your respective strengths and you'll have a prosperous, mutually beneficial relationship. Insist the other person act exactly as you would and at best you will get someone who can do what you do, but not quite as well.
The therapy industry, which is compromised almost entirely of women, and which in many cases offers the service of "validating but not solving", unsurprisingly tells women that their men should do this as well. They say that this feminine form of listening is the "right" way. And when male partners don't listen the "right" way, their female partners get frustrated, which means more listening work for the therapist.
Outside of having a diagnosable reason why you should need it on an ongoing basis, therapy should be something you enroll in for a limited period of time to help you gain better insight and coping skills for navigating everyday life and difficult transitions. Yet I know many people, mostly women, who are in "forever" relationships with their therapists with no end in sight. And take a cocktail of antidepressants and anti anxiety meds as well (1 in 5 women). The antidote to anxiety is ACTION. You gain confidence by DOING and surviving and knowing you will survive the next challenge. Talking about it should be the preparatory stage, not the ultimate one.
Listening without solving has its virtue, but in the long run, someone who endlessly validates you while not holding you accountable or asking why you don't eliminate a persistent stressor in your life which has obvious solutions isn't someone being helpful, it's them enabling behavior patterns that are harmful to your well being and causing you recurring stress. Real love means wanting the best for someone and asking why they don't reach for it. It's asking hard questions. It's holding them accountable. It's not enabling. Listening and validating without challenge on a recurring basis is enabling.
#relationships #dating #anxiety #therapy #growth

2026-03-16 23:42:05 UTC

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Bitcart supports lightning but you must manually manage liquidity and it doesn't give you a lnurl

2026-03-16 23:40:38 UTC

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Zeus

2026-03-13 03:07:41 UTC

Powerful speech on Iran from 11 years ago from now Secretary of State Marco Rubio. #politics #iran
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=_UHgUlLKAgU

2026-03-13 00:01:47 UTC

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I personally also don't worry about this, if they leave then probably wasn't anything I coulda done about it. I just be myself and if that isn't a compatible enough match then obv it wasn't meant to me

2026-03-13 00:00:45 UTC

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Sounds like you are very secure in your relationships which is a great thing, many of the people I've dated have this anxiety. Though the ones with the highest levels of this anxiety I notice tend to be the monogamous types

2026-03-12 06:45:49 UTC

🤔 Who are they texting?
🤔 Who is this friend of the opposite sex they have?
🤔 What about that one at work who they seem to be getting a little too friendly with?
🤔 Is their behavior crossing the line into "technically" cheating? Am I crazy for being worried about it? Maybe it's "micro-cheating".
💝Monogamy sells us a story that it is valuable because it quells the anxiety that our partner may leave. But all it does is push that anxiety to another place.
⏩Instead of worrying about how you compare to their other partners or options they're interacting with, you worry about whether they're cheating
🚨And if you ask them? Your relationship structure incentivizes them to lie about it, which gives you even more good reason to worry. Instead of an honest answer, which they could give in a polyamorous context, they now may act weird even if nothing weird is going on simply because they worry you're going to interpret it wrong.
🎯In polyamory, you worry your partner may leave you for a better option. In monogamy, you worry your partner may leave you for a better option and lie to you the entire time about it before they actually do. It's clear to me which of those is worse.
😎Your anxieties and insecurities are the problem, not the relationship structure. Choosing monogamy over polyamory to solve your anxieties is no more effective than insisting you can go through your partner's phone, it gives you a very temporary feeling of control but ultimately will likely only end up fueling your anxieties in the long run and doesn't solve the root issue. A partner who knows their phone gets looked through likely isn't going to let themselves get caught cheating this way, but what is likely to happen is for you to see a text your anxiety can latch onto and spiral with.
😘 Real security comes from recognizing and fighting your own anxieties and choosing partners who demonstrate security and commitment on a regular basis. It comes from being the best partner you can be so that your partner never wants to leave. People who put energy there instead of into anxiety have much happier relationships and reduce the chance of cheating in the first place.
🔐 Security also comes from acknowledging that most relationships are temporary, so we should enjoy them while we have them, and that some day we probably, statistically, will be replaced. Or at the very least, even if we stay together, the person we know now will not exist in ten years because they will have changed, loss is inevitable.
#relationships #monogamy #polyamory #dating #anxiety

2026-03-10 00:31:06 UTC

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Doesn't support lightning

2026-03-09 10:27:58 UTC

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They said the privacy functions were nice but that all the normal day to day stuff worked as normal

2026-03-09 10:27:15 UTC

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I haven't gone down the setup route, that's just the answer I got when asking someone I knew who runs graphene

2026-03-09 10:20:08 UTC

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My answer from asking someone else this same question this week is "yes, you'll just have to click accept on permission prompts as they happen and it's all fairly graceful"

2026-03-09 04:57:56 UTC

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It's like a square, but smoother and more enjoyable to touch

2026-03-08 21:03:13 UTC

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Tbh could easily be half the people I've met on nostr

2026-03-08 21:00:42 UTC

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Just zapped ya

2026-03-07 09:53:27 UTC

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The new ones may too, idk.

2026-03-07 09:53:19 UTC

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All the nostr dm protocols encrypt content, older ones leaked metadata.

2026-03-07 09:49:47 UTC

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What's the proton news this week?

2026-03-07 09:49:27 UTC

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Oh cool, I've heard about your project before actually! In the age of AI driven spam, gates like this are going to be crucial.
I like to keep my nostr and work identity separate, but broadly speak I'm working in the Bitcoin dev space.
I have the sysadmin skills but the time tradeoff just isn't worth it, I have other things I want to do aside from manage a hundred different docker containers just so I can have a shared notes app that talks to our password app that talks to our spreadsheet repo.

2026-03-07 09:02:18 UTC

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Thanks for the response, very insightful! Business, just trying to go as oss/private/sovereign as we can without sacrificing significant usability or requiring a bunch of sysadmin overhead.
Tried to zap ya but no zaps setup

2026-03-07 06:19:19 UTC

Interested to hear from people who have gone all in on the proton stack vs Google for business. Particularly interested in how sheets functionality and email deliverability compare? #proton #privacy #google #asknostr

2026-03-05 10:41:30 UTC

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Ultimately routing fees are determined by who you have channels open with. Some wallets force you to open a channel to their node and charge more routing fees (like Phoenix). But other like Zeus do not, even if they do offer their own node/lsp as an option.

2026-03-05 10:40:10 UTC

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Open a channel: same cost as an on chain transaction so.. ten cents US.
Make lightning transactions using channels: limitless transactions back and forth at 0-1%, sometimes literally zero.
Close a channel: on chain tx, another ten cents

2026-03-05 10:37:43 UTC

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No, put it on different hardware or in a VM.

2026-03-04 22:04:20 UTC

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My understanding (in case of activation without chain split) is that the technical risk is shutting out some use cases which are in current or planned use such as BitVM. Im not knowledgeable enough to say feature x or y won't work, but generally, if we want more complex scripting abilities, limiting the place that information can live will limit that ability.

2026-03-04 12:38:54 UTC

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I bought Bitcoin in 2026, I won't need to make money in 20 years.

2026-03-04 12:04:56 UTC

For anyone on Linux who wants a good desktop #bitcoin #lightning wallet and has been frustrated that there were one, electrum just got an upgrade that makes lightning work way better than before. It was literally unusable before due to routing failures, now it at least works. Still crazy that it's the only viable option for desktop users.
Though if you can run waydroid and run Zeus in it, that's still your best bet. #zeus #waydroid

2026-03-04 11:54:30 UTC

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Just wanted to report a bug, I'm on this version from play store. Idk if this was happening before but I just noticed this week. I don't see any transactions since Feb 28 in the activity window, though I know I've sent a couple thousand sats in a couple different transactions. I wonder if I've hit some kind of limit because I've been using this wallet for 1+ year w at least one zap a day. So there's a lot of history.
Lightning channel balances seem correct, just seems to be an issue with the tx list.

2026-03-03 01:14:32 UTC

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There aren't really best practices yet aside from isolate as much as you can to prevent against prompt injections/bad results

2026-03-02 09:14:26 UTC

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We can't seem to convince many of these countries to take back their own citizens, their descendants are a non-starter. If you think birthright citizenship is bad, the place to prevent it is at the border, not at the birth end.

2026-03-02 06:32:57 UTC

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Logistical reality matters more here than philosophy. Even if birthright citizenship was dumb and we didn't want it, what are we going to do with those people? We can't deport them, no other country wants them either, especially since they're not from any country except for this one.
We could pay another country to keep them as prisoners, that raises obvious ethical issues as well as economic ones, isn't it better to roll the dice that they might contribute to GDP instead of guaranteeing they're a net negative on it? Worst case scenario, they end up being bad citizens and then we can pay ourselves or someone else to jail them.

2026-03-02 06:29:28 UTC

I feel conflicted about voting/donating strategy in my area (US) and would appreciate some outside perspective. One party here is absolutely dominant, regularly winning with 70%+ of the vote and one or nobody running against them. They occasionally have completive primaries. I am currently registered with this party so I can vote in their primaries since the primaries essentially determine the outcome of general elections.
I don't like the other big party here either. They don't have competitive primaries at all, and whoever wins the primary has no chance of winning in the generals.
There is a third party I like a lot more, but has the same problems to an even greater degree. I feel most aligned with this party, both of the two major parties feel pretty equally aligned/misaligned with this party. I would register with this third party, but doing so would prevent me from voting in the primary for the dominant party.
I have no desire to donate to the main political party or the second, but donating to the third feels like pissing in the wind. I could see donating to primary candidates or maybe it makes more sense just to donate to causes/PACs around specific issues instead of candidates.
Which primary would you vote to participate in? How would you vote in the generals and how would you decide who to donate to? Give me your perspective #asknostr

2026-03-02 06:22:52 UTC

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Most hardcore privacy security/privacy features disappearing in 3..2..

2026-03-02 06:20:29 UTC

Someone help a dev out please 🥺 🥺
#nevent1q…ux06

2026-03-01 07:17:58 UTC

2026 is the year of #Bitcoin merchant adoption. My city's merchant map on BTC map has gone from zero to doubling in density every month or so, we have three separate hairdressers that take BTC now. And unlike last time BTC got a bunch of merchant adoption, we have lightning now, so it's not going to suddenly stop because of high fees or long payment delays.
Future is now. Big love to BTC Maps and square for pushing to make this so seamless for merchants.

2026-02-28 08:53:52 UTC

Best ways to find online merchants that take #Bitcoin and search their inventory? Spendabit.co works but doesn't seem to have much. What do you use? #asknostr

2026-02-28 03:08:12 UTC

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Opencode

2026-02-27 05:51:21 UTC

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Every day homie 😎

2026-02-27 00:06:44 UTC

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I believe they do actually see your replies

2026-02-26 21:04:35 UTC

"Child safety" has always been one of the four horsemen of the erosion of civil liberties, but this is getting ridiculous. We now have a government-run pedophile ring so expansive that prosecuting the people involved would potentially collapse our entire government, and at the same time, we have California passing a law requiring your operating system (Android, Linux, Windows, whatever) to verify your age and provide that information to apps installed on your own devices. The irony here is that the developer of the world's second most popular operating system (Bill Gates) is implicated in all this too as a customer of Epstein's. As are execs at other major tech companies.
Their rationale for this bill is of course "to protect children". This is absolute tyrannical bullshit that will do nothing to increase the safety of children but grinds the gears forward to the total elimination of free, private speech. If anything, laws like this will make it easier for children to be targeted for abuse. You shouldn't need to provide an ID to use your own computer or access the internet. The internet is the single greatest tool for human speech, communication, and democracy since the advent of the printing press, and we cannot let them rip it away from us or gate it behind ID checks.
Gavin Newsom, who is considered a presidential frontrunner for dems in the next presidential election, signed this into law. There is zero chance I am voting for him after passing this bill.
https://www.eff.org/deeplinks/2025/12/year-states-chose-surveillance-over-safety-2025-review
#Newsom #politics #democrats

2026-02-26 04:10:17 UTC

A friend of mine runs a gun store, is there any US Bitcoin exchange that will let him open an account for his business? #asknostr #bitcoin #2a

2026-02-24 23:30:54 UTC

Here's your interesting bias for the week: Ascertainment bias.
You will hear from people working in roles where they frequently interact with the public like cashiers or customer support reps that "people are idiots". One variant I hear a lot is "people can't read". It's easy to see why one might come to this conclusion, especially given concerning trends in American literacy, but they're actually wrong and here's why.
Imagine you are a customer support rep being asked the most basic-ass question you can imagine from your customer. You know this question was covered in BIG BOLD LETTERS at the top of the email you JUST SAW THEM READ. How could they miss it? And how could customers so consistently miss this? Because it's not the first time a customer has asked you this question. Let's do a thought experiment to explore.
Imagine that your customers are EXCELLENT readers. Let's assume that 99% of the time, they will have a perfect recollection of what they read and that every time, without fail, they read the e-mails you send them.
Even in this unrealistic scenario, 1% of readers will still need you to repeat something they read. 1 in every hundred of these nearly perfect readers will ask you a dumbass question. If you are interacting with hundreds of customers a week, you will inevitably encounter a few of these customers and you will reasonably come to the conclusion that "people can't read". On some days, even if you only interact with 100 customers, you will get multiple customers with this problem because streaks are inevitable in random draws.
The larger your sample size, the greater the chance that you will encounter a rare event (the 1% of customers who can't recall what they read). Because this is rare and notable, you are more likely to remember it vs the 99 customers who passed through without incident, which causes you to perceive it as more common than it is.

2026-02-23 19:57:36 UTC

I will die on the hill that Bitcoin continues to miss a MAJOR opportunity with having lower programmability. Having sovereign money is cool, having sovereign money you can program is even cooler. Eth was only allowed to grow and flourish because Bitcoin didn't have these features. We now have BitVM and other solutions but I don't see anybody building on them, and I'm not sure why. And now BIP110 crowd seems adamant about closing the hay doir. It's a shame, there is no reason Bitcoin shouldn't be the L1 for everything. Money isn't just money. Money is also loans, money is also group decision-making about how to spend money. That requires programmability. Eth is centralizing garbage, we obviously can't store full smart contracts on chain, but they should be pinnable to base chain and should be able to use BTC natively. We also wouldn't be having this debate about "spam" if main chain was full of transactions from useful smart contracts, Eth currently gets those fees instead. #bitcoin
#nevent1q…42d9

2026-02-22 23:29:44 UTC

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Hours?? This has not been my experience.

2026-02-22 23:11:21 UTC

It's not red vs blue it's the system vs you

2026-02-22 21:12:25 UTC

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Absolutely, the problem is so few wallets support anything aside from ln. Cashu feels like the wild west to me, but I would regularly keep funds in fedimint is there was decent wallet support. Having to manage inbound liquidity is a pain. I don't mind some trust if that trust is spread across multiple parties.

2026-02-22 21:07:20 UTC

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Basically the choice comes down to trust. Lightning is best when you want no trust, ark, fedimint, and cashu offer higher usability in exchange for some trust/risk.

2026-02-22 20:47:47 UTC

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All coin join transactions occur on chain. Ark, lightning, etc keep the transaction data off chain and only record final states of those utxos/coins, not intermediate states.
Coinjoin: me and x other people sign a joint transaction containing all of our relevant utxos.
Ark/lightning/etc: me and another party open a channel using two relevant utxos. Infinity transactions take place within those channels (off chain) and through other channels. Final balance of channel is recorded to onchain.

2026-02-22 03:30:41 UTC

Got my tetanus shot today 💪 so if y'all were planning on killing me w tetanus y'all gonna have to go back to the drawing board

2026-02-20 23:53:06 UTC

#nevent1q…djvv

2026-02-17 14:08:27 UTC

Every once and a while I will create a note in #amethyst, click publish, and it just... Disappears. Isn't shown on my profile. My relay list has several outbox relays, none of which have a bunch of errors in them. Any fix for this? #asknostr

2026-02-13 18:04:37 UTC

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Thanks! 🙏

2026-02-12 23:52:34 UTC

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Super productivity is amazing 🤩

2026-02-12 19:16:43 UTC

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For kyc use strike, no trading fees if you DCA. Bitcoin only. Rad CEO.

2026-02-11 08:56:17 UTC

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This was going to happen no matter which team championed Bitcoin first. During Trump's election, Dems ignored crypto lobbying money, and crypto outspent big pharma and swung elections. Dems won't be making that mistake again, big pharma never loses a legislative fight. They may not want to take the orange pill, but Bitcoins every growing lobbying arm is going to shove it down their throats.

2026-02-01 21:41:21 UTC

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Facebook groups/meetup replacement

2026-02-01 08:31:50 UTC

📆 4 years ago this week: Canadian trucker protests get de-banked and turn to Bitcoin, raising over $1 million worth of funds. No bank, no centralized platform, no politicians deciding how much they can receive or how they can spend it. 🗽
💛 💙 Shortly after, Russia invaded Ukraine, and Ukraine becomes the first country to crowdfund a war with Bitcoin. When banks abandoned service in Ukraine due to "risk" and "liquidity issues", Bitcoin was there for Ukraine. To date they have received $51M worth of Bitcoin, receiving over ten whole BTC in the past six months alone 😲. No middlemen, no NGO taking a cut, no international wire fees and delays, no "explain why you're sending money to Ukraine or we won't let the transaction through", just money going exactly where it needs to go with no interruptions.
Bitcoin is freedom money, it will be there for you when you need it. Nobody can stop a Bitcoin transaction no matter how rich or powerful they are. 16 years, 24/7, 365 days a year.
#bitcoin #truckers #ukraine #freedom
Ukraine official BTC address https://www.blockchain.com/explorer/addresses/btc/357a3So9CbsNfBBgFYACGvxxS6tMaDoa1P
https://bitcoinmagazine.com/culture/how-bitcoin-fueled-canada-trucker-convoy

2026-01-31 17:06:20 UTC

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Thanks for your help!

2026-01-30 08:30:54 UTC

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Would send some sats to this

2026-01-26 16:43:56 UTC

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I don't know much about primal, but if you're on iOS you may want to try damus I think that's an iOS client. You can login with your nsec and all your follows etc should pop up automatically.
Some clients have a concept of "feeds" like "followed" (only people you explicitly follow), "global" (all posts), "trending" etc. I wonder if primal does and if you're in global or something and mutes don't apply there for some reason. Hope someone chimes in with a useful answer

2026-01-23 11:06:33 UTC

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Never had it happen but I have had accounts frozen for being too close to some coins the govt didnt like. Told them to kick rocks w their questions and eventually they unfroze it. Other good mainstream solutions include square and open node. If you want to host your own wallet, btcpayserver and Bitcart are good options or you can just any old Bitcoin wallet.
The problem isn't so much that funds are non-kycd but more than they may be within x transactions of a coin join or a blacklisted address.
Do not use Bitpay, they are the worst of the worst.

2026-01-16 15:49:13 UTC

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Just zapped you

2026-01-16 13:47:32 UTC

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Main thing in amesthyst to check is make sure you aren't getting tons of errors on your relays. If you see more than a couple errors on a relay, remove it so it doesn't slow down your app.

2026-01-08 10:33:59 UTC

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Just sent you a test zap

2025-12-06 06:30:19 UTC

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Coinos is custodial but works well.