2026-07-27T21:12:16Z https://nostr.ae Joscelyn Transpiring https://nostr.ae/npub1x5ew8pmdm55jjv7r5wg07l6v7gtva5ppyay2qm2a0ue564mt6ssqtz5sp7 https://chaosfemtw.files.fedi.monster/accounts/avatars/109/592/674/606/584/563/original/a4136de1a1f68011.jpeg https://chaosfemtw.files.fedi.monster/accounts/avatars/109/592/674/606/584/563/original/a4136de1a1f68011.jpeg https://nostr.ae/nevent1qqsvvpgs8scu2fk0c5qrh4lh208f9z2sujlat8hdef68gau77rcncrszyq6n9cu8dhwjj2fncw3eplmlfnepdnksyyn53grdt4lnxn2hd02zqgvncz2 In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqs00kry4kuvj2l4xpvynlyd27jqzp87hvs9aaprlze40lynmp44xmqk0lujx'>nevent1q…lujx</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>Anyone know a safe, open source way to do basic word processing documents that doesn&#39;t hoover up my writing into an LLM these days? And that doesn&#39;t spontaneously decide that I&#39;m not allowed to write in the basic ways I&#39;ve been writing for three decades???<br/><br/>Fuck, do I have to go back to pen and paper to just do basic writing anymore? 2026-05-17T19:44:11Z https://nostr.ae/nevent1qqs00kry4kuvj2l4xpvynlyd27jqzp87hvs9aaprlze40lynmp44xmqzyq6n9cu8dhwjj2fncw3eplmlfnepdnksyyn53grdt4lnxn2hd02zq3dh9y2 In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqszyhtj8ndgxu4s2dflsvpnvv5s0nx29j88my3tm98cntkarja9wdq409tjc'>nevent1q…9tjc</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>While I&#39;m complaining about tech, what the hell has gone wrong with Libre Office?<br/><br/>Somehow, in the last two months, it started erasing tabs at the beginning of paragraphs, which I had to go into styles to fix, and now it has decided if I hit tab that I want to tab over 5.63 inches? The fuck is this?<br/><br/>Also, I tried to reset the amount tab is supposed to do. And I tried to tab twice...and it then reset the tab style to 5.63 inches.<br/><br/>I DON&#39;T WANT TO USE MICROSOFT WORD OR GOOGLE DOCS WHY ARE YOU DOING THIS?!?! 2026-05-17T19:42:11Z https://nostr.ae/nevent1qqszyhtj8ndgxu4s2dflsvpnvv5s0nx29j88my3tm98cntkarja9wdqzyq6n9cu8dhwjj2fncw3eplmlfnepdnksyyn53grdt4lnxn2hd02zq3pgqe9 Somehow, my new grad school login credentials are an unholy trinity of microsoft, canvas, and gmail. As a result, if I log in with them anywhere, it means any other outlook login gets fucked in the browser as it tries to log into outlook with gmail credentials. And because I also have canvas login credentials for a community college, it often fights between those two as well.<br/><br/>Why oh why would someone do this? I am convinced that the IT systems of California State University were conceived of and are administered by Satan himself. 2026-05-17T18:56:52Z https://nostr.ae/nevent1qqs9z8e0yqrl5nxdj5hg83t88wulg7e34vf8k5wngh32enx9mwkr9lgzyq6n9cu8dhwjj2fncw3eplmlfnepdnksyyn53grdt4lnxn2hd02zqx2u0kw Looking for recommendations: does anyone know of any decent to good t4t romance novels?<br/><br/>I have two collections of erotica short stories that do have some, but I haven’t really come across any that are on the more romance side of that. But I’m sure there’s gotta be some out there, right? Bonus if it involves polyamorous folks<br/><br/>#trans #queer #t4t 2026-04-11T23:41:03Z https://nostr.ae/nevent1qqsdpry67r2n32jnmhmmz3ylmygl2lqjvqt0f25e7ryvp7a54qgvwggzyq6n9cu8dhwjj2fncw3eplmlfnepdnksyyn53grdt4lnxn2hd02zqsxq657 Ouch, beware that Batwoman comics are out here just throwing deadly shade at lesbians 😅😅😅<br/><br/>#Batwoman #Lesbian #Queer<br/> <img src="https://chaosfemtw.files.fedi.monster/media_attachments/files/116/375/904/411/389/353/original/cb4e1f328b04827d.jpeg"> <br/> 2026-04-09T17:25:09Z https://nostr.ae/nevent1qqsv4557dgjzw0alq45dzkzyrk9nytu783s92tewjhuns474q8lns7gzyq6n9cu8dhwjj2fncw3eplmlfnepdnksyyn53grdt4lnxn2hd02zqth3s0m TRANS MASCS &amp; MEN: I want to start a “Buy a trans guy a pizza day” to parallel the “buy a trans girl a pizza day.” What date do you think would be a good date for that?<br/><br/>Similar to how the latter helps us celebrate Mira Bellwether, it would be lovely to pick a day that lets us celebrate a trans man or trans masc who has been important to the community, but is maybe underrecognized.<br/><br/>#TransMen #TransMan #TransMasc 2026-04-03T15:36:31Z https://nostr.ae/nevent1qqsypayc04yw65a49ztza77p3cadjk7t33l6ellyqq29dz9kuqxptzgzyq6n9cu8dhwjj2fncw3eplmlfnepdnksyyn53grdt4lnxn2hd02zqu633wv Anyone know an easy way to convert a video on one’s phone to a smaller file size?<br/><br/>Recorded something today and would love to share it, but the file is too big for most platforms. Uploading to YouTube would mean figuring out having a YouTube channel, and I’d rather not bother yet 😅 2026-04-03T00:25:20Z https://nostr.ae/nevent1qqsgwla2z6fnq9ea29qqfulmp9huqfz2t8jtm274y8rycf60yr090qgzyq6n9cu8dhwjj2fncw3eplmlfnepdnksyyn53grdt4lnxn2hd02zq98fvu4 In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsx4tm5zsmjs827vm5nm33aklnvhqql9gqqcnzsf333deafm3jh8qqd0wx50'>nevent1q…wx50</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>given that the majority of people are on the feddy because they have a problem with authority or people trying to control how they use things, it is literally the exactly wrong demographic to try to yell at people to change their behavior. Instead, appeal to their anti-authoritarian tendencies by pointing out how shitty mainstream social media spaces are to disabled people and you know this cool way people can stick it to Zuckerberg and Elon, and it just takes 10 seconds to do. 2026-03-31T04:24:18Z https://nostr.ae/nevent1qqswq5gmjrnerax2em4yyyt56fcweglxsxjh25fmktscy2nl8xpyqzgzyq6n9cu8dhwjj2fncw3eplmlfnepdnksyyn53grdt4lnxn2hd02zq6atv2j Hey, if you are #trans and began transitioning in the 2016 - 2019 era, can you reply and let me know!<br/><br/>There are apparently way more of us here than I realized, and I would like to be closer friends with those that remember the before times and trans twitter and the discourses and the excitement before we all got burnt the fuck out. 😅 2026-03-25T21:30:00Z https://nostr.ae/nevent1qqs9jzhqmuyfeysky2lfesjg79875u7jusmjav742mzuuyytnn0yyjczyq6n9cu8dhwjj2fncw3eplmlfnepdnksyyn53grdt4lnxn2hd02zq2wgpka Does anyone know how to turn off or hide the AI summary of emails in gmail without turning off all “smart” features like sorting emails into the promotion or social inbox? 2026-03-25T00:47:17Z https://nostr.ae/nevent1qqspg3fgjpruw5hf27z7hhcyd6hm2c09858z8y8zm9fmu54m0pqnvmszyq6n9cu8dhwjj2fncw3eplmlfnepdnksyyn53grdt4lnxn2hd02zq9szlq6 Anyone know of any job openings for someone like me?<br/><br/>Not a tech girlie, but have a masters in public policy and social research, two decades of experience in the nonprofit world with community and youth development, and I speak Japanese and Moroccan Arabic in addition to English. I am open to almost anything, at this point. 2026-02-26T17:41:28Z https://nostr.ae/nevent1qqsqxq4gwe3nm0uulqfxs3w38fvwreryy03t66cdht655atx67zfsyczyq6n9cu8dhwjj2fncw3eplmlfnepdnksyyn53grdt4lnxn2hd02zqm2s3tc In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqs0fc0gpxdw6s7tmfkaeacgncam6cjhh2h9nd35r80w60wtz8e8reqhsqvqy'>nevent1q…qvqy</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>The infamous &#34;3-items rule&#34; that was used to arrest transfems in New York in the mid-20th century wasn&#39;t an actual law. It was a rule of thumb that if you were wearing at least 3 items that matched your AGAB, you wouldn&#39;t be arrested for &#34;cross-dressing.&#34; Thing is, there was no specific law against the practice nor requiring 3 items, but it became the effective practice of the NYPD, making it a de facto law. 2026-02-19T19:29:13Z https://nostr.ae/nevent1qqsf4wlnaazs9ev0hw2huhw7dvtkm4f8zh8v5ygslpr7vzlexx2kvpqzyq6n9cu8dhwjj2fncw3eplmlfnepdnksyyn53grdt4lnxn2hd02zqqjgpde I’m kind of loving the moment in horror we’re in where everyone is a monster fucker. Like, since Shape of Water, it feels like more and more directors have decided that we can all be horny for monsters…and we are.<br/><br/>This brought to you by reflecting once more on Del Toro’s once more doing this with Frankenstein…cause that twinky monster can get it 😅😅😅 2025-12-01T03:14:33Z https://nostr.ae/nevent1qqs203v0xnxptzp0afwhpn9ulzx68ejfzl0svslaf39f439sagne95qzyq6n9cu8dhwjj2fncw3eplmlfnepdnksyyn53grdt4lnxn2hd02zq0sfzmy If you have ever had a social psychology experiment told you as a poignant story that illustrated a theory or idea, it has probably been debunked.<br/><br/>In the last 5 - 10 years, almost every famous 20th century social psychology experiment has been revealed to have been not reproducible, misrepresented, misinterpreted, or straight up wrong. This list includes:<br/>-The Standford Prison Experiment<br/>-The Milgram Experiment<br/>-When Prophecy Fails 2025-11-28T17:28:04Z https://nostr.ae/nevent1qqs2kuq2knezkhhkhym3ycg9qgdrqla5xyu7sxjl88m2zu70mr0vlmgzyq6n9cu8dhwjj2fncw3eplmlfnepdnksyyn53grdt4lnxn2hd02zqgc5rc8 If you’re in the US and can: go to a protest today and make a racket! Go out and make sure there is not quiet acquiescence to what is happening.<br/><br/>Some of us are not in a position to, whether because of immigration status, disability, or other reasons. Get out there for us please even if you’re on the fence for yourself. 2025-10-18T16:33:39Z https://nostr.ae/nevent1qqs9d9ptl47ht49lkfuuu9cauzcz6z2s5n7mc2muyngc0dzhu689wfszyq6n9cu8dhwjj2fncw3eplmlfnepdnksyyn53grdt4lnxn2hd02zqtgr4wa In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsgg24q944khmdnkw35sfu6j830lg9d3lyeenqezr3jgrwrh4ckyksqkmc5c'>nevent1q…mc5c</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>I’m going to reply once and not going to engage further because you seem to be arguing with someone in your head and not us.<br/><br/>Up thread, the whole point was that testosterone and masculinity is not inherently bad or violent, and that was the point. Ain’t none of us arguing men are bad for having a libido (hint hint: several of us are trans women and lived being seen as men for decades and actively parse the difference), but for some reason you’ve decided that’s something we’re saying? So who is it you are actually arguing with?<br/><br/>And the reason you might think that way is exactly in what you just said: “men shouldn’t feel bad for wanting to do stuff TO women”. Not WITH but TO….that’s it right there. Woman aren’t objects, we’re people. The men who want to do things WITH women will often find straight women who very much want to do things with them too. The ones who want to do things TO us are the ones who give off vibes that they don’t differentiate between sex and violence, and that’s something we pick up on and want nothing to do with. So, if you have folks saying you’re being creepy, I suggest reflecting on that and doing the work on yourself to learn how to do things with people and not to them.<br/><br/>Anywho, going to mute but best of luck in unpacking your baggage. 2025-10-15T20:18:55Z https://nostr.ae/nevent1qqszqllcdlsa7g9p5upy76la65aldejvek434uzqvg44a0p54vla8tgzyq6n9cu8dhwjj2fncw3eplmlfnepdnksyyn53grdt4lnxn2hd02zqsthaq9 In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsqq5hz3tpchzea0wg4d9j6xg8k5hywutlsl4p4l54czpcl8dsrqjch0p8tp'>nevent1q…p8tp</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>yeah, I think that plays the double role, especially for white cis women, of making themselves inherently the victim and innocent…while they do awful shit to BIPOC and trans people. Like, the number of white cishet women I’ve met who have a shitty man in their life that they enable in a “it can’t be helped” way and claim the eternal role of victim while saying they are feminists just boggles my mind. I’m always like…can you see what you’re doing? Hetero and cis-normativity are a hell of a drug.<br/><br/>And of course, there’s the transfems who engage in this, as you’ve mentioned too. Comes from a slightly different place but does the same thing in the end. Maybe we stop blaming biology for bad actions and blame the people and systems that create and enable those actions? Please friends? 2025-10-15T15:26:03Z https://nostr.ae/nevent1qqsyjxez8x8k7ajpvvj0ea2g0kcgne3p5d0yzyy9wtmj6cw3k0zgkfqzyq6n9cu8dhwjj2fncw3eplmlfnepdnksyyn53grdt4lnxn2hd02zqedf2ez In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqswasgpzdwd0c07eckfaqfphv97pwt28dn9mz8rwwr2npskkqcz62g8yvvtt'>nevent1q…vvtt</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>but if we can’t blame biology for the misbehavior of many men, then it’s almost like they have a choice in the matter and a responsibility to do better….clearly, you’re not a man, so we can’t listen to you. 😜<br/><br/>I actually would bet a huge bit of the motivated reasoning for bioessentialism on this stuff is for shitty men and the people of other genders who enable them to deny responsibility for their actions. 2025-10-15T15:18:45Z https://nostr.ae/nevent1qqsvjdqynh5l8kqxjerh2kxexd22kdw8ut8rhagdngmeh54mv2m6dtgzyq6n9cu8dhwjj2fncw3eplmlfnepdnksyyn53grdt4lnxn2hd02zq7tsvha We lost a beautiful light today that has been an important leader in our community for so long. Thinking of Miss Major tonight, hoping some day we can all honor her life and legacy by making the world should fought for a reality.<br/><br/><a href="https://www.them.us/story/miss-major-griffin-gracy-obituary-dies-78-stonewall-trans-activist">https://www.them.us/story/miss-major-griffin-gracy-obituary-dies-78-stonewall-trans-activist</a> 2025-10-14T02:46:24Z https://nostr.ae/nevent1qqsqqmu93n4ty4e5svz7q4hu65n0wh88tkksc2z2v3xzc9g8twpmtzgzyq6n9cu8dhwjj2fncw3eplmlfnepdnksyyn53grdt4lnxn2hd02zq4a3mgy Transphobia often gets discussed as personal attitudes or explicit anti-trans policies, but the wider cis world often doesn’t see or understand the structural transphobia that impacts our lives. A big one that is impacting me again: discontinuities.<br/><br/>When we transition, our life course, narratives, and social network experience many different discontinuities. An area where this can have big material consequences is in a professional or academic career.<br/><br/>When applying to a job or a university, there is an assumption that a person can list the places with their relevant experience and then those people can be contacted and asked about the person. Well, if your name has changed, as well as your gender identity and presentation, there’s a whole host of problems this introduces. For example, I can list one of the places I worked or went to school before transition, but then I also have to out myself as trans and give my deadname to the place I’m applying to if they might reach out to check if I worked or graduated from there. Additionally, that then outs me to those people from the past as trans, who may be transphobic and give me a bad reference.<br/><br/>Additionally, a lot of us face transphobia after coming out and may be more likely to be laid off or fired as a result. So then one of our only potential references that knows us by our current name and identity may be much less likely to give us a good recommendation. We’re basically put at the whims of those that employ us in ways that creates extra layers of intimidation and pressure, and may lead to us putting up with transphobia or worse due to that precarity.<br/><br/>In my experience, I went from having a stellar resume that demonstrated 15+ years of experience with lots of recommendations and references to my resume looking either a lot like someone who only has 1 or 2 years of experience or I have to out myself and also share the ways I’ve been mistreated since transition. All of which makes a potential employer hesitant to hire us.<br/><br/>There is a reason why there is a trans wage gap that is bigger than most other wage gaps, and why a fuck ton of us have to turn to sex work to pay the bills. 2025-10-10T18:28:22Z https://nostr.ae/nevent1qqsph98ksld2gewfu7zx4808us9mduhwfhalxmte3lskadc47mx5hsczyq6n9cu8dhwjj2fncw3eplmlfnepdnksyyn53grdt4lnxn2hd02zqqk0uhg FRIENDS I have a very very important request: Are there any good novels about bisexual and/or lesbian werewolves? 2025-10-09T03:32:43Z https://nostr.ae/nevent1qqs9sptfwl627eyasyep8fcchtfd8qp2p9er6rexh7wjw5amxv30caqzyq6n9cu8dhwjj2fncw3eplmlfnepdnksyyn53grdt4lnxn2hd02zqtma705 Okay, which one of you transes or furries was driving around San Diego today? I saw a Subaru with the license plate that said: UWUB4RU 2025-10-02T01:42:02Z https://nostr.ae/nevent1qqsged0vuqgstwldwet0fh6ykrhfmt2wx2sf3vxpczm0l3has9wtcqszyq6n9cu8dhwjj2fncw3eplmlfnepdnksyyn53grdt4lnxn2hd02zqcu4tf6 I wish my adhd butt could actually buy and eat fresh vegetables before they go bad. 😅😅😅<br/><br/>I love red leaf lettuce and spinach…but I usually don’t remember to eat even half of it before it goes bad. Fresh tomatoes, literally one of my favorite foods in the world, but half of what I buy will probably go bad (yes, if I buy 10, 5 will go bad and if I buy 2, 1 will go bad). Any vegetable that requires cooking - I’m going to buy you with big ambitions and plans, but you’re going to be nasty and brown before I remember to cook you.<br/><br/>I’ve switched to mostly frozen and canned veggies now in my cooking, because it’s the only way I can manage to avoid wasting food and actually have vegetables available when I get around to cooking with them. Such is adhd life. 2025-09-28T01:12:42Z https://nostr.ae/nevent1qqst3knz32akxzcg3dzent3kd8vs3mga9tcqxaaffaweag3dreszk5qzyq6n9cu8dhwjj2fncw3eplmlfnepdnksyyn53grdt4lnxn2hd02zqnqgc87 In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqs2ha6ae6xq6h7yqawf8mh8a6uhenr879uvrrapca5xt6qlv67ltmqh4za96'>nevent1q…za96</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>do any of these people speak up on people being fired left and right for being critical of fascists? I’m going to bet they conveniently don’t notice that happening 2025-09-26T22:25:20Z https://nostr.ae/nevent1qqsfsq3y54agrwh8uz30qewhhgjrr5gwcywvgrae329rawmc2ftxpdgzyq6n9cu8dhwjj2fncw3eplmlfnepdnksyyn53grdt4lnxn2hd02zq0g9qyl In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqswtsn82sh4j2nkxkwt2ynjxw087fc5z3p85w4eqlkkue6vhvr32ngrvajhu'>nevent1q…ajhu</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>yeah, it’s so fucked and terrifying thinking about what has happened to people 2025-09-26T16:15:00Z https://nostr.ae/nevent1qqsxklkfyxgc520c4rqp9s62xu2hgk82nxgyhgnvc8vqatf2n68ljyczyq6n9cu8dhwjj2fncw3eplmlfnepdnksyyn53grdt4lnxn2hd02zqxmpv7m From: <span itemprop="mentions" itemscope itemtype="https://schema.org/Person"><a itemprop="url" href="/npub1kftrmr5d33q6z27ewnh5pgmthszft7usrnppte2dlr849jkwsnuq9qakf5" class="bg-lavender dark:prose:text-neutral-50 dark:text-neutral-50 dark:bg-garnet px-1"><span>MikeDunnAuthor</span> (<span class="italic">npub1kft…akf5</span>)</a></span><br/><a href="https://kolektiva.social/@MikeDunnAuthor/115271014574318628">https://kolektiva.social/@MikeDunnAuthor/115271014574318628</a> 2025-09-26T15:03:53Z https://nostr.ae/nevent1qqswscwefarr5kt2h9mlxdnug8qssxnnpz68gm9xarn3uf7edd9wf7gzyq6n9cu8dhwjj2fncw3eplmlfnepdnksyyn53grdt4lnxn2hd02zq06fvaf In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsdzjm5t7jvpavxd6kdy9q8jmthreczx9gh7npx4v2g3ls7kes8uus8w58yf'>nevent1q…58yf</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>Case in point:<br/><br/>&#34;Throughout evolutionary history, women have not been as physically capable as men of fighting off aggressors; also, because they have had primary responsibility for their offspring, they have not always been able to run from an aggressor.&#34;<br/><br/>Um...so any anthropologist will point you towards the hundreds of hunter-gatherer and small agricultural societies they have studied that suggest low rates of intra-community aggression, high rates of EVERYONE taking care of children, and being much more likely to be matriarchal or matrilineal in structure. This was most of our evolutionary history before large-scale, settled agriculture and the formation of states. Like....they are picturing Hobbes&#39; State of Nature and not any real time or place that has ever existed!!!<br/><br/>The emphasis on differences in &#34;physical capabilities&#34; hit much harder with the invention of the plow and other types of activities that required more upper-body muscle. Archeological studies suggest much greater exposure to human violence after settled agriculture begins too, with the formation of states leading to full-on war instead of symbolic inter-clan fights or livestock raids.<br/><br/>Heck, there are even settled cultures like the Mosuo where men are more likely to be taking care of children!<br/>(<a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mosuo">https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mosuo</a>) 2025-09-21T20:45:33Z https://nostr.ae/nevent1qqsdzjm5t7jvpavxd6kdy9q8jmthreczx9gh7npx4v2g3ls7kes8uuszyq6n9cu8dhwjj2fncw3eplmlfnepdnksyyn53grdt4lnxn2hd02zqpvfudf Scholarly complaint: Psychologists need to stop talking about men and women like they are different species.<br/><br/>Psychologists, when talking about demonstrated gender differences, have a really bad habit of physiologically essentializing the differences and talking about men and women not like part of a spectrum of diversity of human embodiment and experience, but like they are different animals. It makes me want to scream.<br/><br/>This also is where we often see evolutionary psychology as a discipline go completely off the rails into misogyny land. Whenever I read the &#34;hypothesis&#34; an evolutionary psychologist puts forward on gender differences, it sounds like they have never spoken to an anthropologist. Instead, their assumed evolutionary pressures look more like the Flinstones than anything that actually ever happened. Like, my colleagues in social science, just go across the hall and speak to an anthropologist for 10 minutes please!!! 2025-09-21T20:38:17Z https://nostr.ae/nevent1qqs06kl9h48jxfv4qkcz38nd7puja0hats3eq4r0n9t33c328mrp5tszyq6n9cu8dhwjj2fncw3eplmlfnepdnksyyn53grdt4lnxn2hd02zqxh9hnw This is a little too real. 😅😅😅<br/><br/>I have both contacted and been contacted in this exact manner.<br/><br/>Also, we have better opsec than the current secretary of war, so…like…they’ll probably be baffled and give up in like 5 minutes 🤣<br/><br/>From: <span itemprop="mentions" itemscope itemtype="https://schema.org/Person"><a itemprop="url" href="/npub1gy4wspvdramcxa04jcyqsmyg49k03mn2ljlyr9yl965n47nsjd3svh4s7y" class="bg-lavender dark:prose:text-neutral-50 dark:text-neutral-50 dark:bg-garnet px-1"><span>Rabbit</span> (<span class="italic">npub1gy4…4s7y</span>)</a></span><br/><a href="https://infosec.exchange/@ra6bit/115234244078840933">https://infosec.exchange/@ra6bit/115234244078840933</a> 2025-09-20T07:25:41Z https://nostr.ae/nevent1qqs9wmznu697f6mtsq47f90e0fhkpq9c639r3hz4mthxymayxluyncczyq6n9cu8dhwjj2fncw3eplmlfnepdnksyyn53grdt4lnxn2hd02zq9rwjfz In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsv26c509m5u2avxwyvwl40hv2aas20t4wqhm2gxxqnhltku2fwkugf29nhn'>nevent1q…9nhn</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>I should also note: cuddles and snuggles are clearly communism. 2025-09-17T20:27:56Z https://nostr.ae/nevent1qqsv26c509m5u2avxwyvwl40hv2aas20t4wqhm2gxxqnhltku2fwkugzyq6n9cu8dhwjj2fncw3eplmlfnepdnksyyn53grdt4lnxn2hd02zqy0ppgf Hot take: masturbation and sex are praxis.<br/><br/>Just going to cook this a bit: one of the greatest pleasures and joys of living in a human body is available to us literally at any time and for free. And it can be enjoyed in abundance. Literally, you can just masturbate any time, day or night, and have a bit of happiness. This is why capitalist societies are reinforced by religious and cultural ideologies that want to criminalize, pathologize, and make you feel guilty for both masturbation and sex. It can be available for free and without profit to anybody, and can’t be fenced off like the public commons to be rented or sold.<br/><br/>This is also why they work so hard to make us think that we need a partner who has rare and special traits to feel satisfied with sex. They want us to desire something they can turn into a commodity. So even racist beauty standards and fatphobia serve the capitalist effort by trying to undermine our sexual satisfaction. But all one has to do is have a single fun sexy time with a partner that isn’t considered conventionally “sexy” to realize it’s bullshit.<br/><br/>Literally, sexual pleasure and joy, whether by oneself or with a partner, remains an abundant resource for satisfaction that is free and relatively easy to accomplish. Everything that feeds into trying to restrict, undermine, and make us feel guilty for it will fail by simply experiencing this pleasure and joy.<br/><br/>Masturbation and sex are anti-capitalist praxis. And yes, if someone flirts with me by suggesting we overthrow corporations with our genitals, I will be extremely giddy and turned on. 🤭 2025-09-17T18:09:11Z https://nostr.ae/nevent1qqspwwld78s0u46ux2a7rkrgw3kdmvjgtkrc2cdrvyrftwxdq5ecsfqzyq6n9cu8dhwjj2fncw3eplmlfnepdnksyyn53grdt4lnxn2hd02zqgpnea0 In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsq8h4zh4rutawvqnsem8g5kpvp2ez3aq6pe5kdhl46s8m87ul4lnsryy9q7'>nevent1q…y9q7</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>I will never pretend I am not happy that a man that spent the last decade saying me and my family should be murdered by the state or an angry mob bit a bullet. It is a genuine bit of relief knowing that he is not able to spread more hate and calls for violence against me and the people I love. The world is better with him in the grave. 2025-09-16T01:50:33Z https://nostr.ae/nevent1qqsq8h4zh4rutawvqnsem8g5kpvp2ez3aq6pe5kdhl46s8m87ul4lnszyq6n9cu8dhwjj2fncw3eplmlfnepdnksyyn53grdt4lnxn2hd02zq3ygv7f One advantage of being unemployed is that I can call Charlie Kirk a vomit-slurping, shitfucking fascist bootlicker that literally experienced the consequences implied by a life of minimizing public shootings and encouraging political violence against BIPOC, religious minorities, and LGBTQ+ people.<br/><br/>I wish there was an afterlife so he could just watch the scene of his own death over and over again to know how much this was poetic justice - and see how people laughed at him. And I hope every young MAGA person wrapped up in this fascist movement by the shithead is now thinking twice about being a fascist bootlicker. 2025-09-16T01:23:49Z https://nostr.ae/nevent1qqsdp65gff7z35nemj2ej8qxz7trvzwxg9geueepvacvk4rkz0layvczyq6n9cu8dhwjj2fncw3eplmlfnepdnksyyn53grdt4lnxn2hd02zqcwuvxc In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsy4mqnpfcyh3rm0j55yrpnh8tterer48s6src82af0wudwft0pf4qevw93g'>nevent1q…w93g</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>I mean…why not both? 🤭 2025-09-14T16:32:17Z https://nostr.ae/nevent1qqs9ynx99qdmkkv7tw9gfw3ee8vrlqgg6k3pa3mpwwqewwcq9ju0t3szyq6n9cu8dhwjj2fncw3eplmlfnepdnksyyn53grdt4lnxn2hd02zq2rucjn I love that posts on the fediverse are like:<br/>-radioactive things!<br/>-boobs<br/>-obscure but deeply fascinating hyperfocus<br/>-Linux<br/>-someone talking about how happy they are to have or get rid of boobs<br/>-fuck fascists in the eyeballs<br/><br/>This is basically what I want from my friend groups 2025-09-12T05:29:04Z https://nostr.ae/nevent1qqsqa507achuush4rz7nnh2jj5wspjwprll2k0lspaqlwckm5xnv0dgzyq6n9cu8dhwjj2fncw3eplmlfnepdnksyyn53grdt4lnxn2hd02zqae3m6w In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqs86nu3k5cwsxv7nrkkukdjn9r66xwxy2kp22fft7er4c790665qrq0qdwj4'>nevent1q…dwj4</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>the man has literally called for killing trans people on national tv…yeah, not gonna mourn the shiteater anymore than I would David Duke. The Wannabe Hitler Youth might even struggle to be as effective for a while, which would be helpful. 2025-09-11T01:13:27Z https://nostr.ae/nevent1qqsda3evc7tumnuldcqznfvhaxy89nwrw043nw2f0h677s0aq8e24tqzyq6n9cu8dhwjj2fncw3eplmlfnepdnksyyn53grdt4lnxn2hd02zq24feek To all the trans folks feeling like they are awful, unloveable, and/or undesirable tonight, I am sending offers of virtual hugs and metaphorical hot cocoa. You deserve care and the kind of attention that would feel good for you 🫂🫂🫂🫂☕️☕️☕️☕️ 2025-09-07T02:22:05Z https://nostr.ae/nevent1qqswef305lsquhtf27t07zfy5w0h6jeuxkmdn4lpq840c69rzja875gzyq6n9cu8dhwjj2fncw3eplmlfnepdnksyyn53grdt4lnxn2hd02zqswsqey In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsw6m4g09etdr3rt4fxa2wpk84425ta58tgymed03gpnpnvcclq4cq0dp8ha'>nevent1q…p8ha</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>besides, I’m a white trash girl and I ain’t gonna let anyone tell me how to grammar my sentences, thank you very much! 2025-09-02T02:08:42Z https://nostr.ae/nevent1qqszgvwjfvl8jtuq8uq35nxxqhcmz2dtmeymc9ymh0jr3ec2e5fcj5qzyq6n9cu8dhwjj2fncw3eplmlfnepdnksyyn53grdt4lnxn2hd02zqee6ufy So…um…anyone feel like overthrowing the bourgeoisie today? 2025-08-30T18:22:30Z https://nostr.ae/nevent1qqs82zcg0d8r0jysqcsg0rw3cs5vcvfltzzfk5z6xj34v3jytwlf6zgzyq6n9cu8dhwjj2fncw3eplmlfnepdnksyyn53grdt4lnxn2hd02zqyt2efa What does the immediate motive for the Minneapolis school shooting seem to be?<br/><br/>An extremist fandom subculture.<br/><br/>For those that don’t know, there is an online subculture that practices obsessive fandom of mass shooters. They call themselves TCC for “True Crime Community” (not the general sense of the term of people who watch or listen to true crime shows). Many have said the shooter’s videos and journals seem incoherent or contradictory because they are looking for an ideology, but that’s because it’s not about ideology in the classic sense. This subculture obsesses about school shooters and mass shooters, creates memes about them (the shooter’s guns and journals had tons of internet memes, including the Loss meme), they cosplay as school shooters (this is why there are kmfdm stickers and shirts in the shooter’s videos, and they talked about putting together a school shooter cosplay), and they encourage each other to imitate the shooters by doing one.<br/><br/>It’s of note that this subculture actually is more likely to produce shooters who are women or of other minority groups. This shooter referenced on her gun a girl who committed a school shooting that was a part of TCC. There have been other women and girls who have attempted or made plans to coming out of this space. And there was also a “Black white supremacist” who committed mass violence too from TCC.<br/><br/>It also appears that the shooter was exposed to or spent time around anti-trans detransitioner rhetoric. They were no longer identifying as a woman, and were talking about detransitioning because they can’t ever “actually” be a girl. If anything, this shows how anti-trans rhetoric and policies feed hopelessness and isolation, making individuals more vulnerable to radicalization.<br/><br/>All in all, this points to the desperate need to continue creating spaces that bring in and help young marginalized folks connect and feel like they have a life and a future. Isolation and hatred make them vulnerable and we can do something about that.<br/><br/>What I shared above is based upon reporting by cool zone media on the It Could Happen Here podcast, which is run by multiple journalists who have spent a decade reporting on mass shooters.<br/><br/><a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/it-could-happen-here/id1449762156?i=1000723977829">https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/it-could-happen-here/id1449762156?i=1000723977829</a> 2025-08-30T17:41:21Z https://nostr.ae/nevent1qqs2fmmhlwurv2309q07aexps7a5cnf5ehjxmpr6akmhn0qyhupldyqzyq6n9cu8dhwjj2fncw3eplmlfnepdnksyyn53grdt4lnxn2hd02zqva77z0 When I have a solid income again, I want to plan a road trip to visit the graves of every shithead who helped put this current wave of theocratic fascism in power - Pat Robertson, Jerry Falwell, James Dobbs, etc.<br/><br/>It just so happens that in many of the states they are buried in, it’s also a crime for me to use a public restroom as a trans person. So I will make sure to “pay my respects” at each grave. 🤭 2025-08-21T19:04:36Z https://nostr.ae/nevent1qqs0pamymjh2zptc4xwqnhalrjxk8wfy985pg8n6cummm9emxzql3agzyq6n9cu8dhwjj2fncw3eplmlfnepdnksyyn53grdt4lnxn2hd02zqrratdf PLEASE help me make rent? And help a trans woman become a therapist?<br/><br/>Goal: $23/$500<br/><br/>So I have a big favor to ask: help me make part of my portion of the rent this month. My total portion of the rent is more than this, but my partner can cover the rest as long as I can meet $700 a month. My unemployment insurance will run out soon, so I&#39;m trying to stretch it for a few months, and I can do that with your help!<br/><br/>I am preparing to apply to graduate schools for a masters in social work or a masters in clinical psychology. I am also working with limited spoons from disability and burnout after losing my job earlier this year. With your support, I can focus on my grad school applications and still have capacity to return to writing regularly! If I can&#39;t meet this goal, I will need to find at least a part-time job and probably be too stretched thin to write again.<br/><br/>Help me become a therapist and support my writing either by giving at my Patreon or directly to me through my newsletter&#39;s website.<br/><br/>Patreon:<br/><a href="https://patreon.com/MallorySinn">https://patreon.com/MallorySinn</a><br/><br/>Forbidden Queeries (Newsletter):<br/><a href="https://forbidden-queeries.ghost.io/">https://forbidden-queeries.ghost.io/</a><br/><br/>#MutualAid #Trans #Queer 2025-08-19T22:05:10Z https://nostr.ae/nevent1qqsv6vj5mtzvzvjdslzvzgzvtcqk930c5zvjqeft9sh99phwmlatheqzyq6n9cu8dhwjj2fncw3eplmlfnepdnksyyn53grdt4lnxn2hd02zqx49dzd In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsq9a23fv605rv9xgrjltx59narzvk8ku0n672shkqcfacxkky8ccqs0xfsm'>nevent1q…xfsm</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>Also, I realized over the last month of explaining my transition to cis people that it’s kind of weird we usually don’t usually mean orchiectomy or hysterectomy included in the term “bottom surgery.”<br/><br/>Like, it’s surgery down there….and testicles are on the bottom of the dang thing! Yet we use bottom surgery as a euphemism for vaginoplasty and metoidoplasty/phalloplasty almost exclusively, right?<br/><br/>Cause like, I don’t feel like I’ve had “the surgery” and if I tell people I had bottom surgery, they are going to expect a very different genital status. And I kind of like blowing cis people’s minds by being someone who everything they can see was thanks to hormones and genetics, busting some of the myths and assumptions they have about trans bodies, and the orchi just feels like the removal of hormone factories to an extent.<br/><br/>I don’t know…just some meandering thoughts I keep coming back around to that may not really mean anything. 🤷🏼‍♀️ 2025-07-18T04:00:38Z https://nostr.ae/nevent1qqsq9a23fv605rv9xgrjltx59narzvk8ku0n672shkqcfacxkky8ccqzyq6n9cu8dhwjj2fncw3eplmlfnepdnksyyn53grdt4lnxn2hd02zq5mkcda Come this time next year, there is a non-zero chance that the majority of my transfem friends have had bottom surgery. Is it going to be like being the one committed single girl at the wedding or the one friend who doesn’t have or want kids, it’ll just be me and like two other girls at the transfem party hanging out at the mostly intact bits table? 😅<br/><br/>Okay, to be fair, this might be what my few remaining monogamous friends feel as the majority of us embrace polyamory. Though, to be fair, the reason they are all sitting together is the rest of us need a whole table for our polycule. 🤣<br/><br/>(To be clear, none of this is negative, just feeling silly about where things are at this point in my trans community) 2025-07-18T03:54:18Z https://nostr.ae/nevent1qqstrn8vp465l3dwl9kx4tfd9fprw9lm3uyekm50rl3jtqx88h88fwszyq6n9cu8dhwjj2fncw3eplmlfnepdnksyyn53grdt4lnxn2hd02zqqn70t3 After almost two weeks with my cishet friends, I had to recharge my gay. Gay successfully imbibed:<br/> <img src="https://chaosfemtw.files.fedi.monster/media_attachments/files/114/842/660/811/177/231/original/12dbce5aa0a05950.jpeg"> <br/> 2025-07-12T22:40:33Z https://nostr.ae/nevent1qqs29huqus3fxw6jcyjamv37vxxxf40uvfszll79sjy4dql8cqvspjgzyq6n9cu8dhwjj2fncw3eplmlfnepdnksyyn53grdt4lnxn2hd02zqy28w2f In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqs2c5hq2xlu2g6u5ful7c07wgpnp365v0uzmr9kldm9rqnr9m006tqva7ph5'>nevent1q…7ph5</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>On Tuesday, I was able to realize a dream I’ve had for so long: I was able to wear yukata and be pretty while enjoying a temple and delicious food!<br/><br/>It was so much fun being in that Yukata shop with other girls and the aunties fussing over us, getting us all prettied up. And sharing it all with one of my oldest friends. oh, and also…I WAS A PRETTY GIRL LOOKING GIRLY AND CUTE IN A YUKATA IN THE SUMMER!?!<br/><br/>#NatsukashiiNatsu<br/> <img src="https://chaosfemtw.files.fedi.monster/media_attachments/files/114/748/546/628/428/059/original/d4e9f843a2558c19.jpeg"> <br/> <img src="https://chaosfemtw.files.fedi.monster/media_attachments/files/114/748/546/677/719/465/original/ab3a7b952e934f31.jpeg"> <br/> <img src="https://chaosfemtw.files.fedi.monster/media_attachments/files/114/748/546/663/849/615/original/4a0efa1a5b94d038.jpeg"> <br/> 2025-06-26T07:48:38Z https://nostr.ae/nevent1qqs2c5hq2xlu2g6u5ful7c07wgpnp365v0uzmr9kldm9rqnr9m006tqzyq6n9cu8dhwjj2fncw3eplmlfnepdnksyyn53grdt4lnxn2hd02zqdjshx4 In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsrcmvxeqa942d857fgfj3w6d9g4zz0mnul43hs787g2hn9z9nx3gsnzrgll'>nevent1q…rgll</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>Ended up talking with several Japanese lesbians last night and getting a sense of how lesbian community works here. Tonight I’m meeting up with a an old friend, but might pop back over to Agit in Nichome again tonight. Such a great vibe!<br/><br/>#NatsukashiiNatsu 2025-06-26T07:42:52Z https://nostr.ae/nevent1qqsrcmvxeqa942d857fgfj3w6d9g4zz0mnul43hs787g2hn9z9nx3gszyq6n9cu8dhwjj2fncw3eplmlfnepdnksyyn53grdt4lnxn2hd02zqwcu5vs Oh my gosh, I found a Gacha machine with Ranma 1/2 mini plushies! Sooooo cute!<br/><br/>#NatsukashiiNatsu<br/> <img src="https://chaosfemtw.files.fedi.monster/media_attachments/files/114/748/522/884/490/655/original/a9761ebb27baf7fe.jpeg"> <br/> 2025-06-26T07:39:24Z https://nostr.ae/nevent1qqsq9mzmt9t9mwc35r9jqqaywkd9zzwpv0z5l47ufsj9rh2rlmg5lkczyq6n9cu8dhwjj2fncw3eplmlfnepdnksyyn53grdt4lnxn2hd02zqh0kwfl In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqs9mg338q49vjtrhjvpwfdr5js39x60dry3z2e8ydgl7aztsn05lngta9t7l'>nevent1q…9t7l</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>Welcome to the neurodivergent nightmare that is the Japanese megastore: Don Quixote. Not pictured is the cacophony of sound from every direction. This is one of the more tame corners of the store, if you would believe it. 😅<br/><br/>#NatsukashiiNatsu #Alt4me<br/> <img src="https://chaosfemtw.files.fedi.monster/media_attachments/files/114/736/234/678/910/841/original/55d7ebdbc54aeb31.jpeg"> <br/> <img src="https://chaosfemtw.files.fedi.monster/media_attachments/files/114/736/234/731/600/734/original/e25a48ebcdd396e8.jpeg"> <br/> 2025-06-24T03:34:21Z https://nostr.ae/nevent1qqs9mg338q49vjtrhjvpwfdr5js39x60dry3z2e8ydgl7aztsn05lngzyq6n9cu8dhwjj2fncw3eplmlfnepdnksyyn53grdt4lnxn2hd02zq5azfrr In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsd0g34z5x2r938k9y2qkta3u3043qpat6p8975sjnaefzr35uyr4g6uxkfk'>nevent1q…xkfk</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>Something really nice to see: I’m seeing a lot more Black folks and people of color are here in Japan than in the past. Both as tourists and just living and working here. It feels like Tokyo at least is really opening up and becoming a more international and welcoming city than even before. And it makes me glad more BIPOC are able to feel comfortable visiting and living here compared to how it used to be. 2025-06-24T03:27:40Z https://nostr.ae/nevent1qqsd0g34z5x2r938k9y2qkta3u3043qpat6p8975sjnaefzr35uyr4gzyq6n9cu8dhwjj2fncw3eplmlfnepdnksyyn53grdt4lnxn2hd02zqsuqnnq In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsy5xs2ezr0gky4xrnaqsgv7gqtufttpj6kucsqyq9tzxyytnumncc47ql2u'>nevent1q…ql2u</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>This is how the straights survive in Japan. They learned to distill gayness into a can, so they can get by when they would otherwise wither from a lack of fabulousness. 🤭 2025-06-24T01:57:32Z https://nostr.ae/nevent1qqsy5xs2ezr0gky4xrnaqsgv7gqtufttpj6kucsqyq9tzxyytnumncczyq6n9cu8dhwjj2fncw3eplmlfnepdnksyyn53grdt4lnxn2hd02zqjcgcjy In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsvxyzvhw0y93045zj30t9qlwpylq6asv6ee4azkhc4dntz5c9ns5cfx4n3d'>nevent1q…4n3d</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>Powering up my gayness while #TransOnTrains #NatsukashiiNatsu<br/> <img src="https://chaosfemtw.files.fedi.monster/media_attachments/files/114/735/820/921/041/235/original/dedafc614fe51920.jpeg"> <br/> 2025-06-24T01:49:13Z https://nostr.ae/nevent1qqsvxyzvhw0y93045zj30t9qlwpylq6asv6ee4azkhc4dntz5c9ns5czyq6n9cu8dhwjj2fncw3eplmlfnepdnksyyn53grdt4lnxn2hd02zqqfj25z Second day in Tokyo and still doesn’t feel real! So dang happy to be back. Part of me feels like it is being untangled and becoming more whole again. Makes me really happy. 🥰<br/><br/>Now to get cleaned up for the day so I can meet up with my friend to wear yukata and go to the shrine and do cute things I never got to do as a boy!?!<br/><br/>#NatsukashiiNatsu 2025-06-23T22:16:02Z https://nostr.ae/nevent1qqs83cy5xvlydprecejy7gjpu54642urj2g4rr72324svxj2tjfcveczyq6n9cu8dhwjj2fncw3eplmlfnepdnksyyn53grdt4lnxn2hd02zquasp3g In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsy8e6yse9khk8kn2pqe26mepa2gferyafwsh2wws2u3sdxj3ut45sf9v6rf'>nevent1q…v6rf</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>Our trans elders called themselves transvestites, queens, fairies, and homosexuals, and if you can’t sit down today and have a conversation with them without trying to correct them, you need to fix that. 2025-06-03T13:46:14Z https://nostr.ae/nevent1qqsy8e6yse9khk8kn2pqe26mepa2gferyafwsh2wws2u3sdxj3ut45szyq6n9cu8dhwjj2fncw3eplmlfnepdnksyyn53grdt4lnxn2hd02zqgwrpke Friendly reminder: ACAB means the language and tone police too. Kill the cop in your head. 2025-06-03T13:44:00Z https://nostr.ae/nevent1qqs894rxadr8jm526squejej5zw74j4g8hvslfu477aqfrd7j0p6utgzyq6n9cu8dhwjj2fncw3eplmlfnepdnksyyn53grdt4lnxn2hd02zqtvugy3 In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsw0dkvxvjqsnmxt0hltnmku3pjtuh3hnfkcwu3a9nddy9xjj53p6suyf4ws'>nevent1q…f4ws</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>Can I haz means of production…as a treat? 2025-05-29T21:42:33Z https://nostr.ae/nevent1qqsw0dkvxvjqsnmxt0hltnmku3pjtuh3hnfkcwu3a9nddy9xjj53p6szyq6n9cu8dhwjj2fncw3eplmlfnepdnksyyn53grdt4lnxn2hd02zqs6x7zj So um….anyone seizing the means of production this afternoon? Feeling bored, seems like a thing to do 🤷🏼‍♀️ 2025-05-29T21:40:17Z https://nostr.ae/nevent1qqst8g6y5upzjfzrepuqh2vyce4txnhrp8kn0qyjfzs2mwk7k3pdunszyq6n9cu8dhwjj2fncw3eplmlfnepdnksyyn53grdt4lnxn2hd02zqd98vh3 In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsw3ny58gv7vfvsase03n7ytcsng0vhvd8wq9pvq9cdhexa4w9j9dq5rt8qr'>nevent1q…t8qr</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>Power. SA and DV is always about power. People often assume this means it’s about a person getting pleasure from domination and control of others. It can be, but it often isn’t even that. Frequently, it’s about the power in our systems that structures vulnerability to this violence.<br/><br/>Why are lgbtq+ youth more likely to experience SA and DV? Because predators and perpetrators know that the system will enable that violence and protect them. Why are the poor more likely to be victims of crime of all kinds? Because the structures of our society make it crystal clear that violence against the poor will be treated differently than violence against the rich, and we structure work, material goods, and more in a way that requires them to make themselves structurally vulnerable. Why do fascists want to make women more dependent upon men? Because that constructed dependency will enable their SA, DV, and other acts.<br/><br/>It’s also worth noting that many people who have been victims themselves will be perpetrators against others they have power over because power teaches us to be violent. 2025-05-26T05:11:56Z https://nostr.ae/nevent1qqsw3ny58gv7vfvsase03n7ytcsng0vhvd8wq9pvq9cdhexa4w9j9dqzyq6n9cu8dhwjj2fncw3eplmlfnepdnksyyn53grdt4lnxn2hd02zqnud8xl Huh, weird, I guess I never actually said it until what someone said prompted me today, but um, yeah, I’m a survivor of an abusive household, have had members of my family be both victims and perpetrators of DV, I have been sexually harassed in public in front of others and no one did anything, and there are other things that I will not share publicly because that’s my choice. And I have sat with more survivors on crisis hotlines than most people would believe.<br/><br/>In case it still needs to be said that we all know survivors and need to fucking put a stop to SA and DV. And that is done through community work and changing the structures of power that make people vulnerable to this violence. That is my professional opinion as someone with a bunch of related expertise too. 2025-05-26T04:57:23Z https://nostr.ae/nevent1qqsqfnvstna48zmagr4a7jfwm5s7hqsx2f3ahj3muhhkl4zt5asyplgzyq6n9cu8dhwjj2fncw3eplmlfnepdnksyyn53grdt4lnxn2hd02zq64d9yq I am debating how I can make a living doing community work going forward. I’m burnt out on the typical nonprofit, and most of those doing lgbtq community organizing are being gutted and limited on so many fronts. And government jobs are also being cut left and right, from federal to local levels.<br/><br/>I am damn good at community organizing and service work, but how the hell do I pay rent with that? If I have to do something else with the majority of my spoons, then how could I muster the energy to do that during free time?<br/><br/>And mutual aid, while it is the mode I want to do more organizing under, seems unlikely to be able to meet my material needs in the next year or two.<br/><br/>So the only idea I’m kicking around now is maybe going back to doing some form of community consulting work. Maybe I can offer my services running workshops and helping people build the beginnings of their own mutual aid networks and groups? I could provide training in the skills people need, education on important concepts and frameworks, and such?<br/><br/>Either that, or find some magical way to make enough money writing or creating content of some sort. Which seems foolhardy. Ugh 2025-05-10T18:05:32Z https://nostr.ae/nevent1qqs0h5z2n7lt4apduxrs6curlq4au6tc6fhnvd9fsevx49r50evyxfgzyq6n9cu8dhwjj2fncw3eplmlfnepdnksyyn53grdt4lnxn2hd02zq4a0sjs One of the ways I know transphobes have never actually known a trans person in real life is that they think we make lots of demands on others, insist on taking up space, and don’t care about inconveniencing others. Like, anyone who has known or cared about a trans person knows it is like pulling teeth to get them to reach out or allow others in for support. Almost all of us are all carrying the trauma of having internalized the message that asking to exist as ourselves is such an imposition on others we have been afraid to do it most of our lives.<br/><br/>Like, is there a single trans person on the fedi who has not said at least once that they feel like a burden if they express any of their needs or desires, much less even ask others to use the correct pronouns for them?<br/><br/>Meanwhile, most transphobes think that it’s discrimination against them for other people to exist. 2025-05-06T22:30:21Z https://nostr.ae/nevent1qqsdj2qam2kqkvxu6t0wyccfj8ra5rt7sm4rpgtndtpanlmn0cgp65gzyq6n9cu8dhwjj2fncw3eplmlfnepdnksyyn53grdt4lnxn2hd02zq6hlrec In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqszawuyjzgmz968munm4htpgnsvn22phcfx4tarf56e889zjaxj3rcl6rf6s'>nevent1q…rf6s</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>I was more confident in my choice to remove organs from my body than I am in what Linux to use 😅 2025-04-30T05:07:48Z https://nostr.ae/nevent1qqszawuyjzgmz968munm4htpgnsvn22phcfx4tarf56e889zjaxj3rczyq6n9cu8dhwjj2fncw3eplmlfnepdnksyyn53grdt4lnxn2hd02zqu9y98j In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsqd4pvyrckzu87wwtr70ef4qfyc88p7nw9cfml0aylksdzvfjh3jch2ext5'>nevent1q…ext5</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>Why do I feel more intimated with what people are telling me about my choices and the risks of different linux distributions than I did with HRT? 😅 😅 😅 2025-04-30T05:03:59Z https://nostr.ae/nevent1qqsqd4pvyrckzu87wwtr70ef4qfyc88p7nw9cfml0aylksdzvfjh3jczyq6n9cu8dhwjj2fncw3eplmlfnepdnksyyn53grdt4lnxn2hd02zqeugkxt In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqs8w47dhaxnjlj3p8fagf93mktf36k72u9peqydaev0hl68rctd7ag063a8a'>nevent1q…3a8a</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>I got a cheap laptop to be my new work computer while write and work on things (my old personal laptop doesn’t start half the time), and I despise windows 11. Since this one is just for writing, recording audio, and using basic web stuff, I figure it’s time to give it a try.<br/><br/>So um…seriously though, where do I start?<br/><br/>And behave yourselves nerds, no going to war over which distro is best or whatever it is you fight about 😜 2025-04-30T02:37:49Z https://nostr.ae/nevent1qqs8w47dhaxnjlj3p8fagf93mktf36k72u9peqydaev0hl68rctd7agzyq6n9cu8dhwjj2fncw3eplmlfnepdnksyyn53grdt4lnxn2hd02zq38xw5s Oh lord, it’s happening…can some cutie actually come over and show me how to install Linux? 😅 2025-04-30T02:29:03Z https://nostr.ae/nevent1qqsqeze0wywtt03qznr76w8ewwz76xlr68rvqy0l88chjwj5v3uyx9szyq6n9cu8dhwjj2fncw3eplmlfnepdnksyyn53grdt4lnxn2hd02zq53vcg5 In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqs89ywr43mzvcraw9pgatsn37nznugv3jvr84najv8qcs0zljz2uzg65dser'>nevent1q…dser</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>I’m also so worried the kids will think I abandoned them. I know what that does to a kid, to have one of the only adults you trust and feel cared for by being suddenly gone…trying to make sense of it and only being able to wonder if they left you on purpose. Fuck these lying pieces of shit that only care about cis family members of trans kids and don’t give two flying fucks about some of the most vulnerable kids right now. 2025-04-26T17:13:02Z https://nostr.ae/nevent1qqs89ywr43mzvcraw9pgatsn37nznugv3jvr84najv8qcs0zljz2uzgzyq6n9cu8dhwjj2fncw3eplmlfnepdnksyyn53grdt4lnxn2hd02zq9tr64k Feeling grief over losing my job today finally. And it hit me because they took away my kids…the trans kiddos I was auntie too, nurtured and mentored every day….i loved those kids so much and it feels like part of myself was carved out of me. And to make matters worse, the kids are going to lose programming and support because these knobheads had no real plan in place before they got rid of me.<br/><br/>Fuck those cis women for being so callous and cruel. 2025-04-26T16:36:58Z https://nostr.ae/nevent1qqsr7cq8w5tlc20n0amt0g73t9trcsr3px38avxu64ttqvhy0499vsqzyq6n9cu8dhwjj2fncw3eplmlfnepdnksyyn53grdt4lnxn2hd02zqr5ytxw In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsvg3rexw043j07yxelzhdgsjelqd99e78gu4x0xw6mzdp765mjzcc9dcwur'>nevent1q…cwur</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>Part of why this hurts so much is that cishet society already hates us so much, but even in queer spaces, it feels like we can’t let our guard down and be safe. Even the places we’re told we’re safe in, we are feeling vigilant and on edge.<br/><br/>Girls and fems, you deserve to feel safe somewhere. You deserve to have a place where you can be unguarded and at ease. You deserve love, appreciation, and grace 2025-04-18T17:13:22Z https://nostr.ae/nevent1qqsvg3rexw043j07yxelzhdgsjelqd99e78gu4x0xw6mzdp765mjzcczyq6n9cu8dhwjj2fncw3eplmlfnepdnksyyn53grdt4lnxn2hd02zqq3rvsr In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsxxvgssx3dyyedm9kd3mccgsmktka2kk225vqjfeq8fdldretka6gxt5ytv'>nevent1q…5ytv</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>I also want to acknowledge a space here that trans men and trans mascs also face shittiness and work and housing challenges. And nonbinary folks too. So many of us are in poverty, unhoused, or disabled by this fucking society.<br/><br/>But the way we encounter these things is shaped different. And I’m just hurting for myself, my wife, and several other trans women I know who right now are getting hurt in these specific ways and I just need to name it. We get so much lip service in speeches and gestures by allies, but who are always seen as a problem if we are actually in their workplaces, community spaces, or lives. And it hurts when the only places where you think maybe there could be support or safety will often hate us too. 2025-04-18T02:48:25Z https://nostr.ae/nevent1qqsxxvgssx3dyyedm9kd3mccgsmktka2kk225vqjfeq8fdldretka6gzyq6n9cu8dhwjj2fncw3eplmlfnepdnksyyn53grdt4lnxn2hd02zqmwjlcz In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqs0f2m2xeuuelahxkx0rsgqyv0v69zscdyrzvxlkc6ftrq4wh4quvgc2jmp6'>nevent1q…jmp6</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>Blargh! Rant! Okay…I just needed to get that out of my system. 2025-04-18T02:23:02Z https://nostr.ae/nevent1qqs0f2m2xeuuelahxkx0rsgqyv0v69zscdyrzvxlkc6ftrq4wh4quvgzyq6n9cu8dhwjj2fncw3eplmlfnepdnksyyn53grdt4lnxn2hd02zqr5fq3f In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsfu0mdmg6rjl04tl0vntuuxvfv7zed46fdawgtr9kmaj9d6f00tpgj9gn68'>nevent1q…gn68</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>And why is it middle-class, white cis women who are the ones who are so often hurting us? Because they hate women. I have met incels who hate women less than the average middle class white cis woman. Go to therapy, de-center men from your lives, and stop just trying to be men in a pantsuit. They will never pick you.<br/><br/>And lest it seem like I’m ignoring it - it is their whiteness and adjacency to white men that feeds all of this. Hating women is baked into white supremacy. You will not be free until you abandon your racism and kill the cop in your head. 2025-04-18T02:22:36Z https://nostr.ae/nevent1qqsfu0mdmg6rjl04tl0vntuuxvfv7zed46fdawgtr9kmaj9d6f00tpgzyq6n9cu8dhwjj2fncw3eplmlfnepdnksyyn53grdt4lnxn2hd02zq8nlsvt I’m so fucking tired of how queer people and allies love trans women when we’re dead and hate us when we’re alive. We are always the problem. We are always the one who is to blame. And we cannot be wronged.<br/><br/>There’s a reason why so many of us can’t get or stay employed. There’s a reason so many of us only have sex work as an option left to turn to. There’s a reason why so many of us are either dead or on the street.<br/><br/>Also, let’s be clear, the people who have done this to me AGAIN AND AGAIN AND AGAIN are middle-class, white cis women. 2025-04-18T02:16:20Z https://nostr.ae/nevent1qqs28d86pfg8f8gkrnrgzc5khftm46j0sg63l2dld7k5xjud75vnlwczyq6n9cu8dhwjj2fncw3eplmlfnepdnksyyn53grdt4lnxn2hd02zqfsynzw In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqs2e2hy0amurxk66rhvmme46hx0nnemwa3wwuvd60rj0r4mwq44dwc87l2ws'>nevent1q…l2ws</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>Talking to <span itemprop="mentions" itemscope itemtype="https://schema.org/Person"><a itemprop="url" href="/npub1psr8zw3s0m4z3qztsew5hfmy7qjg28ekfpqd058mx2lcnwqd8p7syuufr4" class="bg-lavender dark:prose:text-neutral-50 dark:text-neutral-50 dark:bg-garnet px-1"><span>🌈Lucy🏳️‍⚧️ | Revoluciana</span> (<span class="italic">npub1psr…ufr4</span>)</a></span>, I think this has required the coining of a new word to mean beyond incompetent to the point of active negative competence. Like, this isn’t just a lack of competence, these people have blown past zero competence into negative numbers.<br/><br/>Dyscompetence? I don’t know, ideas for our new word? 2025-04-04T18:16:49Z https://nostr.ae/nevent1qqs2e2hy0amurxk66rhvmme46hx0nnemwa3wwuvd60rj0r4mwq44dwczyq6n9cu8dhwjj2fncw3eplmlfnepdnksyyn53grdt4lnxn2hd02zqwtn9j9 Huh, I’m starting to wonder if putting someone in power to run the government like a business because he played a businessman on reality TV may have not been a great idea? Almost like doing that was exactly the worst decision from a purely economic standpoint? Huh. Weird.<br/><br/>On a serious note: folks, things are going to get really tough for the most financially vulnerable. If you can, get involved in your local mutual aid org to help keep people fed, clothed, and having access to medicine. We’re going to need to take care of each other because the state is actively cutting what little supports may have kept people afloat otherwise. 2025-04-04T18:06:04Z https://nostr.ae/nevent1qqspp0xp4grtjxjzqecnl7zr348lzjkxhx4w0es66mevxtft6xu8hlszyq6n9cu8dhwjj2fncw3eplmlfnepdnksyyn53grdt4lnxn2hd02zq6hpzww In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsv9eghcdpld5naq7ty5l2rcy0cxu9cg6j0dg3f0fgumftggr9zzhs4ckjzj'>nevent1q…kjzj</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>well, let’s be serious: do you think Reese has access to therapy? That she can afford it or trust that she’ll be understood? This is part of the reality this story is in - Reese is not a middle class woman living in a middle class community. Therapy isn’t really something you can afford or get free from work so you can go to during the hours it’s available usually. You are often effectively blocked out from it by the structures of your life.<br/><br/>And Ames…well, he could have instead of the choices he made with the breakup, but once he detransitioned, it’s like being an egg where you are actively denying and disconnecting from yourself. So he’s not going to therapy. But he really should have. 2025-03-23T16:57:38Z https://nostr.ae/nevent1qqsqlrwy9rl6ty82h8vgdm59xvgkfq86h7uudsejt7kpj4mj000fzjszyq6n9cu8dhwjj2fncw3eplmlfnepdnksyyn53grdt4lnxn2hd02zqqf7gal In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqs9mn5zl590trs8wyl46lazr6qhy02dtmm2eu36nguz0duwrffkkxgl8s938'>nevent1q…s938</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>Hmmm…do you think if we kidnapped the loved one of the CEO they would renew Harley Quinn for a new season? What if I dangle the loved one over a tank of sharks? What do I have to dangle kidnapped loved ones over in order to get more Harlivy?<br/><br/>#Harlivy #Harlivy4Ever #HarleyQuinn #PoisonIvy #YouWillSeeThemAgainWhenTheresMoreHarleyQuinn 2025-03-21T23:44:02Z https://nostr.ae/nevent1qqs9mn5zl590trs8wyl46lazr6qhy02dtmm2eu36nguz0duwrffkkxgzyq6n9cu8dhwjj2fncw3eplmlfnepdnksyyn53grdt4lnxn2hd02zqrlsmr7 HARLEY QUINN THE SHOW IS OVER 😭😭😭<br/><br/>Okay, it just hasn&#39;t been renewed, but the season 5 finale sure was wrapped up like a series finale. If I&#39;m fair, I think they kind of ran out of steam and I&#39;m not sure where they could really take things as a show....but I DON&#39;T CARE.<br/><br/>HARLIVY4EVER LONG LIVE HARLEY QUINN LOVE LIVE IVY DO I NEED TO THREATEN SOMEONE IN WARNER BROTHERS STUDIOS WITH A BASEBALL BAT 2025-03-20T23:42:08Z https://nostr.ae/nevent1qqstar3egtcxeyl5d678pmyf6krf32qhvsshca80rsclufp0rj2alggzyq6n9cu8dhwjj2fncw3eplmlfnepdnksyyn53grdt4lnxn2hd02zq6wnwqj 日本人の友達と話して、今日本語で考えてきた。また日本語で話す勇気を見つけてよかったわね！今まで、ほとんど忘れちゃったと緊張した。😅 2025-03-18T04:50:32Z https://nostr.ae/nevent1qqsrye2t244nwl5y77jgw6urm42m352nj7segs87nmwwz29sh7u843szyq6n9cu8dhwjj2fncw3eplmlfnepdnksyyn53grdt4lnxn2hd02zquanetk I&#39;ve been telling people California is not as secure for trans folks as some people think it is. And while people in other parts of the county have see the glowing press of Gov. Newsom and told me how good he seems, a lot of us here have known him for the principle-less opportunist he is.<br/><br/>He showed his ass the past few years when he pushed to criminalize being homeless even more, and &#34;solve&#34; the problem by throwing unhoused people in prison. I knew then he would gladly throw us under any bus if it served his ambition.<br/><br/>Sure enough, the first episode of his podcast (why does a governor have a personal podcast???) he invites on right-wing nutjob Charlie Kirk to buddy-up and say he doesn&#39;t think trans kids should have equal rights. Let&#39;s just say that I am going to do what I can to support anyone who challenges him next primary and will raise hell if he tries to run for national office after this, like he&#39;s been angling to do.<br/><br/><a href="https://www.politico.com/news/2025/03/06/gavin-newsom-breaks-with-democrats-on-trans-athletes-in-sports-00215436">https://www.politico.com/news/2025/03/06/gavin-newsom-breaks-with-democrats-on-trans-athletes-in-sports-00215436</a> 2025-03-06T17:42:08Z https://nostr.ae/nevent1qqsy3025k0l0m47np5yjhmuh0njw6yaxy8duj9junc0gzxra6g7c9mszyq6n9cu8dhwjj2fncw3eplmlfnepdnksyyn53grdt4lnxn2hd02zqm9mvap Pessimist: what’s happening right now in the US is like 1930s in Germany! 😱<br/><br/>Optimist: what’s happening right now is like France in the 1780s! 😈 2025-03-05T00:21:39Z https://nostr.ae/nevent1qqsqqm5gae5408ea3lth6alrfnrxq6r47dc88jjral8wy8y80wu2h6qzyq6n9cu8dhwjj2fncw3eplmlfnepdnksyyn53grdt4lnxn2hd02zqvthjq8 Took myself on a date to a concert and had a fucking great time! My date (me) had great taste in music, danced like no one was watching, and showed me a great time. She’s pretty awesome. 2025-02-28T08:23:48Z https://nostr.ae/nevent1qqsrq2fj5hep756t3tzdenk9wys7xjztua8llaqeh07uftwckak0zmszyq6n9cu8dhwjj2fncw3eplmlfnepdnksyyn53grdt4lnxn2hd02zq6svrcv Wanna help #TransYouth in the US right now?<br/><br/>Donate to help us buy gender-affirming items for them! Our org&#39;s GenderJunk program has seen a huge jump in demand for gender-affirming items, and we need help to expand our capacity.<br/><br/>Our program purchases and sends gender-affirming items to trans, non-binary, and gender diverse youth (age 30 and under) for FREE to those that can&#39;t afford it or lack family support. This includes everything from binders to makeup to wigs to packers and STPs!<br/><br/>With medical transition becoming increasingly hard to access, gender-affirming items are a life-changing support to those in need right now.<br/><br/><a href="https://secure.givelively.org/donate/transfamily-support-services">https://secure.givelively.org/donate/transfamily-support-services</a><br/><br/>#Trans #Transgender #ProtectTransYouth #TransKids #Queer<br/> <img src="https://chaosfemtw.files.fedi.monster/media_attachments/files/114/065/911/470/523/298/original/8e734f089dea981c.png"> <br/> 2025-02-25T18:27:49Z https://nostr.ae/nevent1qqs082tgl5dm3ldpqdct24c8cad8xh2u9lmg6z6qswm6khukqhsrlcczyq6n9cu8dhwjj2fncw3eplmlfnepdnksyyn53grdt4lnxn2hd02zqp72zk8 Seeking #trans advice: for those that have trouble confronting authority, how do you access a &#34;punk rock&#34; attitude towards trans-hostile authorities?<br/><br/>I&#39;ve been chewing on this. For me, I have always had problems with authority figures and the idea of sticking it to the Man always gets me fired up. Going punk rock on something is exactly what I want to do. Talking back to authority is something I&#39;ve done since I was in grade school!<br/><br/>But I know a lot of people don&#39;t like confrontation or want to follow instructions and do what they&#39;re told by nature or nurture. Some folks have trauma with speaking up. Some folks are much more hippy dippy by nature and just prefer the good vibes...and the current situation really wears them down.<br/><br/>So, if you&#39;re more peace and love, and less punk rock, what has given you strength and power in these days? How would you suggest inspiring and supporting others in their power who are like that? 2025-02-12T01:49:49Z https://nostr.ae/nevent1qqszrsfxj9dcld0v7ad2ljgz5au3tsnx8r5a2zky99qpq0n7cux3lkqzyq6n9cu8dhwjj2fncw3eplmlfnepdnksyyn53grdt4lnxn2hd02zqc0xc0d In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqswsvtcxtnesg54g9r788hvdw95dzfkrz2l6vwz64tv7ayu0mql2us94wqke'>nevent1q…wqke</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>And if you&#39;re doing something already, share with us all in the replies about what you&#39;re doing to help. It can be big like organizing a protest or phone bank, or it can be small like reaching out more to friends lately. Just....let&#39;s share and see each other and feel how we&#39;re all working together right now to help our community survive and thrive. 2025-02-07T01:56:17Z https://nostr.ae/nevent1qqswsvtcxtnesg54g9r788hvdw95dzfkrz2l6vwz64tv7ayu0mql2uszyq6n9cu8dhwjj2fncw3eplmlfnepdnksyyn53grdt4lnxn2hd02zqc5read In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsrnxhnspwtwzs54wqfwnvdes9q38p0w2a34l8aplvu3uglh8zwmwqhzc6f8'>nevent1q…c6f8</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>Also, if you need help generating ideas of what you can do or don&#39;t know who to reach out to, feel free to ask below or even DM me! I have a lot more capacity to help brainstorm and share my knowledge on organizing things like this. I have specific plans on how to do logistics, like verifying new people to join a trans park day or picnic, or how to build networks. 2025-02-07T01:54:53Z https://nostr.ae/nevent1qqsrnxhnspwtwzs54wqfwnvdes9q38p0w2a34l8aplvu3uglh8zwmwqzyq6n9cu8dhwjj2fncw3eplmlfnepdnksyyn53grdt4lnxn2hd02zqqd4hcq Friends, I have a favor to ask: please start doing something to help the trans community.<br/><br/>One of my mentors finally said it to me today: when you step back, you give someone else the opportunity to step up.<br/><br/>My dayjob allows me to do things that most folks never get a chance to do to help and make a difference. This is where I can do the most with what limited time and energy I have. But I still feel like I&#39;m falling short, because there is so much work that needs doing right now to take care of each other or that allies can do to help out.<br/><br/>So please, if you are cis and care, get involved in the local groups that are organizing to push back and resist the attacks on trans and queer folks. Help organize a fundraiser for your local LGBTQ center. Get involved in local organizations like PFLAG or GLSEN where you can help push local school boards, city councils, and others to make a difference.<br/><br/>If you are trans, we all gotta step up to care for each other right now. I need others to step up and help with the emotional labor we give each other - reach out and make yourself actively available to talk to and support. Organize a local trans potluck and get folks talking about what you can do to make a difference. Have whatever queer friends you know over for a game night and start building up connections.<br/><br/>I know we are all struggling right now, but I am pushing myself too far and need to step back more. Please, take this opportunity and step up my friends. 💖 2025-02-07T01:53:18Z https://nostr.ae/nevent1qqsdw4mvxhwaqnpkt4xd2sdzlr7q97ywkqktxsvn222jlc064zygjhszyq6n9cu8dhwjj2fncw3eplmlfnepdnksyyn53grdt4lnxn2hd02zqd04596 In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsgkydc6ap9krgakz0pdasukg03qvddp8v09pdwq23l9jdmfgce2lgvzp5he'>nevent1q…p5he</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>It&#39;s always funny when a toot like this breaks containment and reaches comfortable, middle-class, cishet white men. They assume I mean what they would mean by this - that we shouldn&#39;t do things that break unjust laws - and then jump into my replies to be like, don&#39;t comply in advance, what if they make an unjust law like making it illegal to say certain things are you just going to comply????<br/><br/>And I&#39;m like...they literally have decreed it&#39;s illegal to talk about my existence as a trans woman in federal government documents, and I am out here still being trans and talking about it. You realize I&#39;m already way past that point you think you&#39;re being brave about, right?<br/><br/>And all of this to say that they fail to realize that the meaning of the above isn&#39;t &#34;be afraid and don&#39;t do things&#34; but me talking to fellow anti-fascists saying &#34;don&#39;t upload proof of things that could land you in jail in a publicly accessible place while resisting the rise of fascism.&#34; 2025-02-03T16:34:42Z https://nostr.ae/nevent1qqsgkydc6ap9krgakz0pdasukg03qvddp8v09pdwq23l9jdmfgce2lgzyq6n9cu8dhwjj2fncw3eplmlfnepdnksyyn53grdt4lnxn2hd02zq6yqn7p Just a reminder friends: never write or talk about doing crimes on social media. Probably avoid joking about them right now too, at least in any way that seems overly literal. 2025-02-02T20:29:48Z https://nostr.ae/nevent1qqsphfuqmrce2jz8aql0awpjz8nyvsrmh2j6p374cs9qfus7uj57npgzyq6n9cu8dhwjj2fncw3eplmlfnepdnksyyn53grdt4lnxn2hd02zq8xm235 Apparently, there&#39;s a whole bunch of new girlies coming here from bluesky - Hi friends! Happy to have more trans fems here! 💜 <br/><br/>Here&#39;s your basic guide to people in this corner of trans fem fedi:<br/>1) [@FinalGirl](<a href="https://blackqueer.life/@FinalGirl">https://blackqueer.life/@FinalGirl</a> ) is incredibly horny on main.<br/>2) [@Impossible_PhD](<a href="https://hachyderm.io/@Impossible_PhD">https://hachyderm.io/@Impossible_PhD</a> ) has set the standard by which we now measure boob augmentation size.<br/>3) <span itemprop="mentions" itemscope itemtype="https://schema.org/Person"><a itemprop="url" href="/npub1mkk0he4yre69xz4j5dprny2w5kh9vfx0jvsajawuarm5k8au3yfqdtm7gj" class="bg-lavender dark:prose:text-neutral-50 dark:text-neutral-50 dark:bg-garnet px-1"><span>rowan {forest witch}</span> (<span class="italic">npub1mkk…m7gj</span>)</a></span> twirls around on ribbons and literally joined the circus<br/>4) <span itemprop="mentions" itemscope itemtype="https://schema.org/Person"><a itemprop="url" href="/npub1zf00rms8vecnm06cpvq60rnudhmfekpz7ma3ulfzlp34nny4gl5qsy2ax6" class="bg-lavender dark:prose:text-neutral-50 dark:text-neutral-50 dark:bg-garnet px-1"><span>npub1zf00rms8vecnm06cpvq60rnudhmfekpz7ma3ulfzlp34nny4gl5qsy2ax6</span> (<span class="italic">npub1zf0…2ax6</span>)</a></span> is super kind and cultivates a nice little virtual coven.<br/>5) [@Reborn_Cat_Mom](<a href="https://chaosfem.tw/@Reborn_Cat_Mom">https://chaosfem.tw/@Reborn_Cat_Mom</a> ) seems to always be on a train or a plane, and rocks awesome purple hair.<br/>6) <span itemprop="mentions" itemscope itemtype="https://schema.org/Person"><a itemprop="url" href="/npub1qyr35n05fgvc30kk4xjg5lf7hnyflkskfy9tpgwzfhn9j34hh46qdhrefj" class="bg-lavender dark:prose:text-neutral-50 dark:text-neutral-50 dark:bg-garnet px-1"><span>Tattie</span> (<span class="italic">npub1qyr…refj</span>)</a></span> is our favorite potato!<br/>7) <span itemprop="mentions" itemscope itemtype="https://schema.org/Person"><a itemprop="url" href="/npub1nvumt5ws39r32qgfag97pvl4lknemntdgp8u5ekr7d80xxkulwksx2zjw5" class="bg-lavender dark:prose:text-neutral-50 dark:text-neutral-50 dark:bg-garnet px-1"><span>Miriam Robern</span> (<span class="italic">npub1nvu…zjw5</span>)</a></span> is the smiling girl that feels like she&#39;s always bringing lovely hugs and the virtual equivalent of fresh-baked cookies.<br/>8) <span itemprop="mentions" itemscope itemtype="https://schema.org/Person"><a itemprop="url" href="/npub1nlvrqkc2tez4q3ww2u9q8wt4fttdvxlw8e3nesl37nsv8230s80q54udqj" class="bg-lavender dark:prose:text-neutral-50 dark:text-neutral-50 dark:bg-garnet px-1"><span>Cait the Proud Trans Woman</span> (<span class="italic">npub1nlv…udqj</span>)</a></span> is the awesome auntie that is still blossoming more every day.<br/>9) <span itemprop="mentions" itemscope itemtype="https://schema.org/Person"><a itemprop="url" href="/npub1kghf2h99kmkzdq8k6ykujyhm4p2nx7vwd26yqpdqpvm37xrgtwrsfhyzv8" class="bg-lavender dark:prose:text-neutral-50 dark:text-neutral-50 dark:bg-garnet px-1"><span>Vivian, Venus Pirate 🏳️‍⚧️🧋</span> (<span class="italic">npub1kgh…yzv8</span>)</a></span> keeps talking about thirsty skin...and it&#39;s actually kind of profound?<br/>10) And I&#39;m your local ADHDisaster bisexual who people put up with for some reason? 🤷‍♀️<br/><br/>#Trans 2024-12-10T00:57:33Z https://nostr.ae/nevent1qqsqpqzayz5ywnfd9e9z8n2meqnvznhld4erq9ywy26nt5xhkge0fkgzyq6n9cu8dhwjj2fncw3eplmlfnepdnksyyn53grdt4lnxn2hd02zqp3v0cn Judging by the number of people I see taken off-guard by it being December, I’m going to go out on a limb and say a lot of us have been dissociating hard since November 5th 😅<br/><br/>November actually was like three months for me with the way my work played out this month. I’m more in the, how is it only December? I still have to deal with a whole month of 2024?! Ugh. 2024-12-01T15:37:05Z https://nostr.ae/nevent1qqsvm63kqu7nehf9tmtm9fdy3ul5mzyfn6jsp2vu4xad2cypjazah7gzyq6n9cu8dhwjj2fncw3eplmlfnepdnksyyn53grdt4lnxn2hd02zqst8stn In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsdgvuf22x67r2vwfyuvfl0g8alg4t8stjpvwakp3k3sftldwen35czvtvnn'>nevent1q…tvnn</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>So um…this is where I am in processing my grief over the election…how are you coping? 😅 :BlobhajReach: 2024-11-10T03:16:07Z https://nostr.ae/nevent1qqsdgvuf22x67r2vwfyuvfl0g8alg4t8stjpvwakp3k3sftldwen35czyq6n9cu8dhwjj2fncw3eplmlfnepdnksyyn53grdt4lnxn2hd02zqjcdl77 In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsyyllw7g9na97tprrse8txlvuyy609mht2srtazx66kaagyz80smgef2mta'>nevent1q…2mta</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>When they go low, I go shark girl. :BlobhajReach: 2024-11-10T03:14:24Z https://nostr.ae/nevent1qqsx38jce52pe4ud3x4k9e2at4gv6t0q70dg2g4vte7w7j3k3s8djyqzyq6n9cu8dhwjj2fncw3eplmlfnepdnksyyn53grdt4lnxn2hd02zq968jay BREAKING NEWS: A wild sharkgirl was reported to be lurking in Southern California today. Witnesses described her as surprisingly curvy, chomping anything that took her fancy, and taking selfies.<br/><br/>#SharkGirl #SharkGirlJoy #UnsolvedMysteries #ChompTheHandThatFeeds<br/> <img src="https://chaosfemtw.files.fedi.monster/media_attachments/files/113/456/453/602/515/532/original/c3e075e4feb326fa.jpeg"> <br/> 2024-11-10T03:08:46Z https://nostr.ae/nevent1qqszlfmrd8srutphw63eg6eekfv8jfp9t6x0ez4pn4gayl5j5u6cseqzyq6n9cu8dhwjj2fncw3eplmlfnepdnksyyn53grdt4lnxn2hd02zqg2c00g In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsfsvz9w2889jkgqk37kkxxjpqkm89fg6p26r73qzqyjd2plxv30rchycqa4'>nevent1q…cqa4</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>really living up to that spooky username you had, huh? 😅 2024-11-01T14:38:41Z https://nostr.ae/nevent1qqs9y3c4dcqysce5xecwaumwdgxd4805hlgqmt3qgaf5xp6j670u05czyq6n9cu8dhwjj2fncw3eplmlfnepdnksyyn53grdt4lnxn2hd02zqc6qs8a In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsyu9apy80exx0jdgq90s8frrasrwt8aew2llcg26tpcp6pzgsrv8sq45qlv'>nevent1q…5qlv</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>🥺🥺🥺 2024-08-26T16:43:14Z https://nostr.ae/nevent1qqsrmuavwz4eggg6urr6ewxngva99ardn968ynm9mkpfrzu629utffgzyq6n9cu8dhwjj2fncw3eplmlfnepdnksyyn53grdt4lnxn2hd02zq4juzma In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsvrma9sdx6gxh9ed52u5dl40n22wp0p6u67xxutek3ppv8lf9lysslu8llv'>nevent1q…8llv</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>I should say, if nothing else, you are a testament to how hot blonde hair can be. 🤩<br/><br/>I just see blonde hair always talked about as sexy and hot, while black and red hair is often not really given the appreciation it deserves. 2024-08-26T16:41:10Z https://nostr.ae/nevent1qqsvrma9sdx6gxh9ed52u5dl40n22wp0p6u67xxutek3ppv8lf9lysszyq6n9cu8dhwjj2fncw3eplmlfnepdnksyyn53grdt4lnxn2hd02zqstywza In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsthhrlwpzhm76g0c9w4gj7sf3k4aea22hadnpm9guzplnca8qr20qmp28mj'>nevent1q…28mj</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>okay, to be fair, yes. 2024-08-26T16:39:55Z https://nostr.ae/nevent1qqsdks64tckfnnkkw40ac650hmtu735crxeg4hywawgg6smyw0surqszyq6n9cu8dhwjj2fncw3eplmlfnepdnksyyn53grdt4lnxn2hd02zqwx0mk3 Why do people like blondes so much? Girls with black or red curly hair are clearly the hottest 2024-08-26T14:57:41Z