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The How Razor

Curiosity is an actual key to trust with someone.

If you’re solution oriented or curious, the “how” of how you say something is its own language.

“How” has an evolutionary and survival value element to it whereby you need a team to help you archive your highest upside potential.

A curious “How” will be processed like teammate on a mission for truth, creative exploration or genuine love if we’re talking about a household.

Getting the “how” wrong is the dead give away you need to be right more than you want a solution. That tone of needing to be right is a short cut and detectable from a survival value standpoint as well.

The short cut tone is the opposite of a key and will be processed as if this is an adversary scanning for any hint of weakness.

So this is a binary heuristic. Curiosity or short cuts. That’s it. It’s the “How Razor”.

“How” you say something is either in a curious tone or it’s not. If you can’t get to a curious tone it’s probably best to get out of a potential debate or politely say you’re not in a curious place to engage.

The How Razor is basically saying the “If you don’t have something nice to say don’t say anything at all” advice is nowhere near as effective as “Don’t say anything when in a debate until you’re genuinely curious about something to ask”.

The good news is the How Razor is so easy and such a silver bullet because it’s so contagious. It’s powerful to feel in command of a difficult situation if you know when you’re in short cut or power grab mode. It’s when you don’t have curiosity.

You can easily drop into this curiosity with anyone once they FEEL the example of it. The genuine feel of curiosity is the unlock to trust.