It's not JUST my sister who caused me to develop this fear, of course, but I do think that's how I came to think of it as my own. We were just 2 years apart, & much as I was frustrated by her criticism, I did believe that the way she saw things was the way that they *were*.
So when she tried to stop me from going out in "unique" outfits because of her fear of nonconformity, it started to feel to me that being unusual must be a legitimate problem somehow. But that was her belief! Not mine.
