Of course, it is fine to have or be an authority in some situations, my house, my rules is totally acceptable. If you want to run a cafe, online space or club your way, go ahead. It makes sense. Here is my gay mens' bicycle club. There is no space for TERFs/kink shaming/soliciting donations for Gaza.... You do you. You don't need to have a non-hierachical bicycle club open to all. If the members don't like it, they can form their own club. Ditto for your fedi instance
If you generalise that to society, you end up with a problem. At best you have a juridified Human Resources department determining what is acceptable. At worse, you have those rules used to crush dissent.
