raw_avocado on Nostr: ok, im fine with paying for relays(though 99.99% of people wont) So how can i get ...

ok, im fine with paying for relays(though 99.99% of people wont)

So how can i get this decent experience with free relays?
How can i trouble shoot this?

What can I do to actually make it better?
Like give me an active thing to do.