Ugh. In her own self-absorbed way, she thought she really was being a good sister, huh?
She really thought she was telling me stuff I needed to know. She really thought it mattered.
She always said she was just trying to help & I always said that being really critical of what I did & telling me what I "should" be doing differently was not helpful & could she please stop.
But in her eyes, telling me how I was failing to conform to the norm WAS helpful. Because of course I must want to conform.
