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2026-06-11 15:08:20 UTC

June 11 🏳️‍🌈📖
Automatic Noodle, by Annalee Newitz (@npub1hhs…rl5g), takes place in a future San Francisco where the Republic of California has gained independence. A group of service bots wake up in an abandoned kitchen and decide to run it themselves on the DL to buy out their service contracts.
The only problem is that someone is review-bombing their restaurant.
SFF; Found family with themes of body and gender autonomy.
#queerBooksForPride #gairdyQBFP

2026-04-22 20:34:50 UTC

Alright, time to head down to the garage pottery studio and figure out what's what from when I last used it 9 months ago.
Pretty sure I will need to resuscitate some clay, and maybe glazes, and take inventory of what in-progress pieces need to be glazed and/or bisque fired (probably just glazed?).

2026-03-14 18:46:22 UTC

And in related news, I finished The Left-Handed Booksellers of London by Garth Nix and quite enjoyed it. I think @npub1j89…d2cm 's comparison to Susan Cooper's The Dark is Rising is very apt and if you enjoyed that series you'll love this one too.
And while it's arguably subtle, I'm going to call this a #queerBooks too. Sometimes subtle queer is exactly the right approach.
#sff

2026-03-14 04:02:18 UTC

Hey #openSource and #linux folks, what are we using to monitor self-hosted systems these days (OS and service) with alerting?
I have a few internet-facing systems that are in different datacenters without a shared private network and am looking for the best way to monitor them with alerting with the usual "who watches the watcher" problem.
Are we still using Nagios? Prometheus / Grafana?

2026-03-02 23:14:55 UTC

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Two days later and I've finished the sequel to Witch King, Queen Demon. This one picks up right where the first one left off (both in the present and the past). It wasn't as amazing as the first one, but that's not unusual for a sequel.
I do enjoy how Kai's dialog/thoughts sometimes resembles the long-suffering Murderbot in their tolerance of mortals.
If you liked Witch King I think you'll enjoy this one too.
#sff #queerBooks

2026-03-01 03:00:07 UTC

I just finished a re-read of Martha Wells' Witch King before diving into the sequel since it had been almost 3 years and the book is just as amazing as I remembered it being.
I love the worldbuilding and lore but the found-family, easy acceptance of queer relationships, and the kick-ass woman who will stop at nothing to rescue her wife just puts it into a league of its own for me.
#sff #queerBooks

2026-01-17 00:05:42 UTC

If you're looking to *buy* digital music and the artist isn't on Bandcamp, I highly recommend #qobuz.
You do not need to be subscribed to their streaming service to buy music from them!
They have a wide selection of music and offer both "CD quality" and high-bit rate versions of most music. You can download via a web browser or with their downloader app that make downloading in bulk easier. You can download in both lossless and lossy formats.
No need to give Apple (or Amazon) my money now.

2025-12-06 04:45:03 UTC

I have a bi acquaintance who periodically texts me workout pics. He's unbelievably hot yet his pics are always terrible. Across-the-locker-room mirror pics. Dirty mirror pics. He's always looking at his phone instead of the camera.
I just want to pull him aside and show him how a timer works, how to frame his pictures, and some tips on lighting.
He'd probably then break the internet with his hotness. I think that's a chance I'm willing to take as a public service though.

2025-12-02 22:35:44 UTC

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Is there a general assumption that unless stated otherwise images are pictures and not illustrations or drawings? I sometimes start mine with "photo of" or "selfie" or something to indicate that it's a photo but maybe that's not necessary?

2025-11-30 21:06:36 UTC

So far my #Qobuz experience has been very disappointing. There is Sonos integration but it's very limited and there are quite a few things you can only do in the mobile app (not even the desktop app). And you can't cast to Sonos, so that's even more limiting.
I spent a while yesterday liking many artists and all the songs on all 14 years of my annual playlists and its "made for me" daily playlist is still utter shit.
Going to give it a few more weeks but it's not looking good right now.

2025-11-26 22:07:26 UTC

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Oh, that's _lovely_ -- thank you for sharing it!

2025-11-26 21:02:44 UTC

What song makes you ugly-cry every time you hear it?
For me it's For Good, although I prefer the original Broadway version. It spoke deeply to me when I was going through my amicable but still very hard divorce in 2011. And every time I hear it I have this comingled sense of deep gratitude and loss that goes well beyond my exhusband.
Makes the song oddly appropriate for me for this week of thanksgiving and reflection, honestly.

2025-11-23 02:55:10 UTC

Met a local guy on Scruff for drinks at a gay bar. Spent almost 3 hours talking about all kinds of stuff, including the PNW (he's from Tacoma), our shared love of baking, and favorite Switch games.
Now I'm invited to his friendsgiving on Thursday. I'm bringing deviled eggs, green beans, and a gluten-free dessert.
Queer life is the best life.

2025-11-20 23:21:32 UTC

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if they're on the same wifi network LocalSend just works for me across devices, mobile and desktop. No fancy radio nonsense required.

2025-11-07 21:23:54 UTC

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And lack of discoverability is both a downside of the Fedi but also oddly one of its biggest strengths. Because finding friends of your friends is the best way to grow a community of people with shared values and interests vs having some interactive-based algorithm throw strangers' posts into your timeline.
Unfortunately getting bootstrapped into a community is hard and onboarding new people to the Fedi *into a community* is hard.

2025-11-07 21:15:51 UTC

Masto is, hands down, the best social media platform I've ever been on at any stage of its lifespan.
You want nerdy kind humans? We got those -- hell, furries built the place.
How about smart kind humans? Scientists, academics, researchers in spades.
Thirst-inducing kind humans? Oh sweet baby jeebus you have no idea. 🥵
Thoughtful, caring humans? All over the place.
And the Venn diagram of these has so much overlap it's delightful.

2025-11-01 15:27:28 UTC

Oh hey, I'm almost 47 and been out for 25 years and I still tear up when a straight ally randomly posts queer-affirming statements.
That's the subtoot. ❤️

2025-10-26 02:32:52 UTC

I love Plex and Plexamp for music. I'm not a movie person, but as a member of the modem generation I own a lot of digital music (much of it ripped from CDs, half of it purchased from Google, Amazon, Apple).
And Plexamp is *great* for accessing your music library, from the expected artist and album to things like styles and moods. It's got lots of nerd knobs (music quality, cache control, etc) but really sensible defaults.
I have tons of music downloaded to my phone for my 3-day drive south. 😎🎶

2025-10-24 00:31:17 UTC

Do I understand correctly that it is impossible to browse the web on iPhone or iPad devices with an on-device ad blocker / extension / etc because Apple dictates rules around browser engines?
I have to believe I am incorrect, as I can't fathom a huge portion of the tech population owning and using any of these devices without an ad blocker because the web is not usable without one anymore.

2025-10-10 03:10:26 UTC

One of the joys of reading is learning new words that you never knew you were missing and yet after learning them they become indispensable.
decollate - behead someone / something

2025-09-25 00:56:17 UTC

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Daniel is really excited about the magic* stove top for the cleaner air and already bought new spell-ready** pots and pans.
I'm very dubious after having a glass-top radiant stove in Denver and hating everything about it. Everyone tells me the new magic* ones are better, but it's the stove's responsibility to prove it.
* induction
** inductable
2/2

2025-09-25 00:52:51 UTC

Our landlord had a new magic* oven delivered to replace the broken gas one (20-year old electronics stopped working). He didn't realize you had to pay extra to have them *install* it though.
Getting the 240 electric plug (included!) wired in was tedious but straightforward.
Levelling it was another matter and the good news is that Daniel and I are still married, but it was touch and go there for a bit.
* induction
1/x

2025-09-24 20:45:48 UTC

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Anyway, I don't need anything. I just wanted to get that out there in hopes that it helps me in here.
2/2

2025-09-24 20:43:57 UTC

Yesterday my friend Jon died from lung cancer.
Today, a fellow Project Gutenberg volunteer went into hospice from pancreatic cancer -- the same cancer that killed my grandfather and uncle.
Also today, my sister is starting chemo for her clear cell carcinoma.
Besides feeling utterly overwhelmed, I have no idea how I'm doing / feeling. It's like my brain has intellectually accepted these as facts but knows I'm incapable of integrating the truth of them yet.
1/x

2025-09-19 18:22:57 UTC

Happy legal wedding anniversary to my wonderful husband @npub1te9…7rt3!
6 years ago we were legally married by WA State Supreme Court Justice Mary Yu -- one of our queer supreme court justices -- in the Temple of Justice.
It was a small, special service with two of our best friends as witness, including @npub10uy…wrl3. Such a perfect day 🥰
Love you Dr. Husband! 😘
#queerLove
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2025-09-19 01:10:59 UTC

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I audibly sighed when we discover that Din is bi not gay. But the author clearly knew how to write those interactions better. 🙄

2025-09-19 01:04:56 UTC

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it was indeed. And I couldn't tell how much of that was building on top of the first book (knowing both the primary characters and the very weird world) vs just being more human in general. Either way the people felt more relatable to me.

2025-09-19 00:53:40 UTC

Today I finished A Drop of Corruption by
Robert Jackson Bennett, the sequel to The Tainted Cup, and it was *so good*. A very Sherlock & Watson-like mystery in a very interesting world. The book is sci-fi inasmuch as the tech is all bio-based -- but it's more mystery than anything.
The fact that our protagonist is queer is entirely secondary but it was nice touch all the same.
#bookstodon #sff

2025-09-03 05:10:03 UTC

When you're reading a sci-fi book and the more you read it the more you realize that the author doesn't understand any of the science their story is based on and you keep wondering if it's going to circle around to "so bad it's actually good" but...
In other news, I just finished The Brightness Between Us 😬

2025-08-27 22:53:15 UTC

ExtraHop Networks - a former employer, who I like and would work for again -- is looking for a senior eng manager for their framework team.
EH is queer friendly, has great people, interesting tech, and is remote/hybrid. I suspect, but do not know, the position is restricted to US-based individuals. EH is based in Seattle and some roles are fully remote.
I am merely the messenger but happy to chat about my time at the company, just DM me.
https://job-boards.greenhouse.io/extrahopnetworks/jobs/5505247004
#fediJobs #fediHire #infosec

2025-08-24 01:19:05 UTC

It's 86° and I'm so not prepared with a great outfit for the sparkleparty tonight. So I guess I'm falling back to "scantily clad himbo" so at least that way I'll only be hot and not passed out from heat exhaustion.

2025-08-19 02:52:26 UTC

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Glad you're feeling better, but I imagine somewhat annoying not to know exactly why. There are worse things than coffee to experiment with though!

2025-08-10 20:09:10 UTC

I need new sunglasses. These polarized dimestore pair have been great since I lost my nice Smiths 7-8 years ago, but they're beyond scratched.
I'd like for my next pair to be less bro, but I need robust eye cover in my sunglasses because my eyes are very sensitive to light. This pair sits pretty tight to my face so there's less light intrusion.
Any suggestions? Most of you mutuals are more fashion-forward than I am and I would love the help!
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2025-08-01 02:59:44 UTC

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And just like that, I'm done voting from the comfort of my dining room table as I typed out this thread -- under an hour. I'll drop this in the mailbox tomorrow.
I absolutely love voting in WA state. The only civilized way to do it.
8/8
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2025-08-01 02:55:18 UTC

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And I'm about to lose my progressive cred here by voting no on the democracy voucher program. I love what they're trying to do, really. But I've never heard of anyone using them. I got my first ones in the mail, put them up on a cork board, and promptly forgot about them. That was years ago. I've never seen or heard anything about them since.
It was a great experiment but I think it's time to try something else. Sorry democracy vouchers.
7/x

2025-08-01 02:51:28 UTC

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I'm legit torn between Connor and Dionne for position 9.
Either one would be a huge improvement over Sara Fucking Nelson (granted, a canker sore would be better than Sara). I admit I'm smitten by Connor -- he's here, he's queer, and he has great hair.
But Dionne is the better qualified candidate. No, she's an amazingly qualified candidate and exactly the cure we need to replace Nelson. I'm all-in on Dionne (sorry Connor, call me maybe?)
6/x

2025-08-01 02:46:14 UTC

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Ah city council positions 8 and 9.
Pro-tip: if you are endorsed by the cops or businesses that's a fuck no from me (Rachel & Sara).
Cooper, you have really great hair (like, legit, who does your hair?), but so does Alexis and she's a way better-qualified candidate.
Ok, that's not a high bar, let me rephrase. Alexis is a great candidate with amazing qualifications and she's done a great job and I am fuck-yeah voting for her.
5/x

2025-08-01 02:33:53 UTC

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Seattle Attorney also has some good hair game going on (not you, Rory). And some really solid progressive candidates (not you, Ann). Seriously torn between them which means we'll end up with one of them & Ann on the general ballot <sigh>.
4/x

2025-08-01 02:26:36 UTC

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I love a good Fergie rec, but fuck no on Bruce for mayor. Team Katie all the way here. Sad to say, I am not picking the mayor based on hair fabulousness though. Katie, there's a whole flock of gays who can help with that, let me hook you up.
On the county exec front, a big fuck-you and die-in-a-fire to Derek who is flouting his GOP creds. It's nice to know you don't have a snowflake's chance in hell of actually winning in this county.
3/x

2025-08-01 02:19:52 UTC

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What, no Goodspaceguy this primary!? What is a voting guide without Goodspaceguy?
I will say that there is some Really Good Hair going on for Seattle mayor candidates. Shocking high good-hair-to-candidate ratio, honestly.
2/x

2025-08-01 02:16:14 UTC

[Separate thread about my personal opinions on King County / Seattle candidates and measures]
I love that no one submitted a statement against King County Prop 1 which renews a levy to fund our parks. They couldn't even find a MAGA who wanted to convince us hippies to vote against our parks and green spaces.
1/x

2025-07-31 19:10:03 UTC

Queers and allies, if you feel safe doing so, please fly your flag.
As a queer, it feels so good to see a Pride flag out in the neighborhood, even in liberal Seattle. It makes me feel less alone. It gives me hope that there is some light still out there during these dark times.
There are so many to choose from: classic rainbow, progressive, Philadelphia, bi, trans, pan, agender, bear, and more -- all communicate acceptance and hope and a sense of welcome.
https://social.coop/@jonobie/114945978435361716

2025-07-27 23:51:01 UTC

Currently reading Swole by Michael Andor Brodeur (thanks to @npub1r2n…0guy and @npub1e4g…k4fy for the rec) and holy wow do I feel seen here.
"Additionally, lifting weights has given me a greater sense of physical stability and personal security. For a gay guy, muscles function as both attractant and repellant, as armor and invitation."
"I enjoy being a secret softie in a hard body. ... I like the idea of form as a gentle betrayal, a decoy, a shell."
And that's just the intro and first chapter!

2025-07-19 16:59:14 UTC

tl;dr: One small but important thing you can do to fight capitalism in the US is to use a credit union instead of a bank.
Banks exist to make money for their shareholders. They're businesses. They literally do not care about you except as a way to make money.
Credit unions are non-profit financial cooperatives that are member owned and operated. They exist to provide financial services to their members. That is: they exist to help you.
1/x

2025-07-11 17:05:02 UTC

As someone who got royally screwed by the Pixel 4x battery downgrade by Google earlier this year, and the shittastic "compensation" experience, my suggestion for Pixel 6a users is to tell Google to go fuck itself and buy a non-Google Android Phone.
Yes, I'm still extremely pissed.
https://mastodon.social/@arstechnica/114835602349497477

2025-07-01 01:12:14 UTC

Me: ok, so if you're getting back on your workout / growth game you gotta start tracking your food again. You know how to do this, just do it.
Me 12 hours later: holy shit, I still have how many calories left to consume before bedtime!? 🤢

2025-06-30 18:36:43 UTC

Thanks to everyone who followed along to #queerBooksForPride this year!
They are mostly, but not exclusively, #sff because that’s my jam and either include a queer protagonist, queer secondary character, or where queers are just a natural, accepted part of the world — because that’s the world that I want to live in.
You can see the full set at https://kence.org/2025/06/30/queer-books-for-pride-2025-edition/
I hope you find something that makes you feel loved, included, and seen and brings you joy.
Happy Pride! 🏳️‍🌈
#books #bookstodon

2025-06-29 01:17:50 UTC

Happy Pride!
@npub1te9…7rt3 and I had a great time at the #Seattle #Pride street fair.
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2025-05-30 00:10:48 UTC

I want to brag at how brilliant and crafty my husband @npub1te9…7rt3 is.
We live in the PNW which in the summer has warm days but cool nights. Indeed many places do not have AC. But I have terrible allergies so just opening up the windows at night to cool the house off makes me miserable.
So last year he created this filtered air box as part of a kit and rigged it into the living room window so we can being filtered air in when it's cooler outside.
But this year he got cleverer.
1/x
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2025-05-01 00:31:48 UTC

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are you sure? 'cause I'm really wishing I had a 2019 Intel-based MBP right now 😅

2025-04-30 22:00:49 UTC

Desperately seeing how long work will let me stay on Sonoma so I don't have to suffer through disabling (and re-disabling) all of the Apple "Intelligence" features I do not, and will never, want.

2025-04-28 14:44:07 UTC

Loving how the Ars Technica article about the European power outage had a link to the Wikipedia entry for the Principality of Andorra. Because yeah, I'd never heard of that either.
Sadly "it is currently headed by two co-princes" isn't as excitingly queer as it sounds.
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Andorra

2025-04-26 22:36:51 UTC

Thoroughly enjoying Service Model by Adrian Tchaikovsky and feeling a bit envious with this sentence given the world right now:
"I cannot experience bliss, but I am able to model the benefits of ignorance."

2025-03-30 20:58:13 UTC

We have this Philadelphia Pride flag in front of our house and this spring it keeps getting caught on this stupid bush.
Today I had enough and demanded to know where our trimming shears were and cut that whole fucker down to the stub then coming back into the house loudly proclaiming fuck the patriarchy and that the gays will not be trampled.
My sweet husband just said flying off into a murderous rage that merely results in trimming a shrub is probably ok.
So there's that.
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2025-03-29 21:39:37 UTC

Wait, did I post how much I loved The Teller of Small Fortunes? No? It was another great cozy fantasy that I started and finished on my flight home from Toronto last weekend.
The story was interesting but really it's about the characters, who they are, how they grow. It features one of my favorite themes: found family. Goddess, I'm a sucker for a good, well-written found family story.
Thank you to my BFF @npub10uy…wrl3 for this recommendation!

2025-03-13 23:33:21 UTC

A reminder of how weird English is:
I texted my friend David "don't forget to go by the bank" and he replied "Ok, I'll".
<blink>
Oh, yes, he's not a native English speaker and "I'll" expands into "I will". Totally makes sense. I may just adopt this from now on. Thanks English.

2025-03-09 18:12:48 UTC

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I'm more likely to accidentally introduce typos, and also I'm not sure feeding my poor coping skills is the answer 😂
/me quietly adds it to the list of "productive" things available to him...

2025-03-09 18:01:45 UTC

I was telling a friend earlier today that my coping mechanism for being depressed is to be "productive". I've got tons of updates ready for PRs for DProofreaders after the prod upgrade next weekend. I've checked off almost all of my home to do list. Laundry, vacuum, etc. I've read all the library books I got checked out.
And now the problem: I'm out of "productive" stuff to do and more importantly exhausted.
I need better coping mechanisms.

2025-03-06 20:42:08 UTC

It's been a rough day. And I'm trying to find the good and the silver linings. And it's hard.
I'm still here though.

2025-03-05 20:24:35 UTC

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Totally agree! This will be my 4th read through of both of them I think. Such great comfort reading.

2025-03-05 20:00:48 UTC

And now for a mental palette cleanser. Diving into the definition of warm, cozy, and hopeful reading with A Psalm for the Wild-built. 🥰
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2025-02-25 21:49:44 UTC

I had a regular dental cleaning this morning at my dentist of 10+ years, everything went fine.
This afternoon I got an automated text asking me to "Please let us know how we did by clicking the link below." Ok, sure, getting feedback is important to acknowledge the good stuff and course-correct problems.
It's a link to leave a Google Review.
This is not letting you know how you did. This is leaving a business review. Those are not the same thing.

2025-02-05 21:10:32 UTC

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Did I buy facistfreefunds.org and teslafreefunds.org? Yes.
Do I have code written to scrape holding details for Vanguard and Nuveen equity funds? Also yes.
Now to do some data normalization, see where we stand and how much effort I want to put into making this available for others.

2025-02-04 22:51:04 UTC

When selecting funds for our retirement and investment accounts @npub1te9…7rt3 and I use various tools by Invest Your Values.
They have several topic-specific websites (although you can get cross-topic details at any one of them) such as:
* https://fossilfreefunds.org/
* https://gunfreefunds.org/
* https://genderequalityfunds.org/
What I want right now is for someone to create facistfreefunds.org.

2025-02-03 04:32:41 UTC

Me looking at my work calendar and seeing an 8a meeting Monday morning: what stupid fuck thought an 8a meeting on Monday morning was a good idea??
Also me: oh, I'm the stupid fuck. Past-Casey, why do you hate us??

2025-02-01 03:02:32 UTC

Hey #Seattle - vote yes on Prop 1A for public housing. It's the right choice. And also the one that all the corporations are against -- further proving it's the right choice.
Yes on Prop 1a.
https://gossipguy.net/who-is-funding-the-seattle-social-housing-campaigns/

2025-01-26 17:48:35 UTC

I need a do-over today.
My phone will literally not charge anymore so I had to emergency-buy a new one from the local Target. I need to bus to the store later to pick it up.
I locked my coat, wallet, and sunglasses -- with the keys to the lock -- in my locker at the gym this morning so I had to walk home in 30 degree weather in a tank top and shorts. It was f'n cold.
Lets hope the phone, currently at 3% and plugged in, stays powered up enough for me to transfer stuff off of it.
UGH

2025-01-20 01:21:40 UTC

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Why do I think this is important? Because the web is now filled with LLM-generated shit and Google et al are making finding things worse, not better.
So we need to go back 20 years to web rings and blogrolls and other ways of finding content made by people for people. And I think the #Kagi small web lens is a small (pun intended) but useful way to helping people access information that people put online because they cared enough to blog about it.

2025-01-20 01:16:13 UTC

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It was easy to get personal blogs added to the Kagi small web!
I'm happy to help add others' blogs -- especially queers, women, POC, and non-techies -- just comment on this post or send me a DM.
Kagi's current blog requirements are at https://github.com/kagisearch/smallweb but in short:
* Personal blog with RSS feed
* No ads, spam, LLM content, etc
* A post within the last year
* English-only (but I'm keeping a list of those in other langs for when they accept them)
Boosts welcome.
#blog #smallWeb #kagi

2025-01-19 01:14:29 UTC

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I'm opting for explicit consent and DMing people to ask first before adding their blogs to the Kagi small web index.
I'd rather err on the side of explicit consent, particularly in light of some of the excellent thoughts from @npub1juw…fl42 in https://tech.lgbt/@nanianmichaels/113831200564784201
Remember kids, consent is sexy!

2025-01-15 05:06:32 UTC

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I just looked at several dozen profiles of masto followers and those I follow (queers, techies, artists, and combinations thereof) and found those with blogs (with feeds) or homepages.
Now the quandary if it is ethical to submit these public URLs myself without explicit consent of the blog/website owner. The goal is to make these more discoverable via Kagi, and Kagi does respect robots.txt, but I also believe in explicit consent. 🤔
Guess I could individually DM the dozen of you...

2025-01-15 04:03:25 UTC

One of the things that I love about the #Kagi search engine is that it surfaces relevant "small web" sites, like personal blogs. This is great both because there's a lot of useful info in those!
They're now curating a small web set for artists (illustrators, comics, etc) and I want to help ensure that #queer artists are being represented. Point me to queer artist websites and I'll help get them added!
Ditto blogs of queers too!
https://mastodon.social/@kagihq/113828104059791579

2025-01-14 20:54:20 UTC

The Gays have found Pixelfed 😳
Let's hope pixelfed.social has enough furries to keep the servers online!

2025-01-05 20:33:09 UTC

Good luck to everyone getting extreme winter weather this weekend. Be safe out there!
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2024-12-29 23:08:49 UTC

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And I would be remiss in any post where I suggest taking selfies if I didn't clearly state that I struggle with body image issues. All of us do. Especially gay men.
Hate your body? I understand that feeling -- you are not alone. It wasn't until 2016 after working out for 16 years that I finally started to not hate every picture of me. And it wasn't because of the workouts.
https://kence.org/2017/01/31/body-image-struggles/

2024-12-29 22:59:58 UTC

Workout progress
Take progress pics. You don't ever have to share them with anyone, but having them can be helpful to feel like you're getting somewhere. It's like watching a small plant (or human) grow: its hard to see the changes day-to-day but it's more obvious in pictures week to week or month to month. You'll probably hate them. Taking good workout pics is a skill -- and a stupid one -- and loving your body is hard. Take them anyway; future you will appreciate it.
#gairdyFitnessBites

2024-12-29 16:31:56 UTC

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I feel every bit of this. I want to do all the things and try (and fail) and then wonder why I'm exhausted because I didn't take any rest days.

2024-12-23 22:45:28 UTC

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I'm inordinately pissed how much this stupid demo (and the resulting existential crisis) has ruined my day. I'm almost tempted to go back to the fucking gym and throw* heavy things around to see if that helps.
* figuratively throw, let's be real.

2024-12-23 20:26:57 UTC

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But ultimately I'm sad. I'm sad that I hate the new tool and everything about it (energy use, how it's trained, how it's used) and I don't want to use it -- and likely won't.
And that means that my time in the industry is probably coming to an end sooner rather than later.
I was not prepared for an existential crisis today.
5/5

2024-12-23 20:23:11 UTC

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An interesting part of the demo today was that the user had to know how to solve the problem and tell the AI what he wanted done to be really successful. This is something many junior devs struggle with, which tells me many of them won't be as successful with the new tool. But can they learn the skills while still using the tool or does using the tool hobble the learning?
What does this ultimately mean for how we grow new developers?
4/x

2024-12-23 20:19:41 UTC

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I'm oddly grateful that this has all come about on the trailing edge of my career rather than in the middle. Indeed it might even accelerate my retirement from it.
For all that I hate it, the demo today convinced me that we can't ignore AI as a software development tool. It would be like telling someone we'd rather use a stone to drive in nails over a hammer.
But it's a tool that will remove any semblance of craft and artistry and creativity from software development.
3/x

2024-12-23 20:15:42 UTC

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It was clear that he had invested time formerly on this project with the AI tooling and had developed the skills to engineer the prompts, but he was doing the demo on the fly. And it's clear to me that there are whole swaths of software that can be "written" this way.
Eliding the work of code reviews and testing and understanding the pedigree of the modules it's using, etc: the future of some software development is going to be prompt engineering.
I don't want to be a prompt engineer.
2/x

2024-12-23 20:09:05 UTC

[this post/thread is about how I feel, I'm not looking for arguments that I'm "wrong", other thoughtful interactions are welcome]
I just saw a demo to my team at work of Cursor, an AI-powered code IDE, by another coworker who has years of industry experience. The demonstration was beyond impressive. His demonstration of adding two new features entirely by prompting in minutes -- that would have taken hours manually -- was astounding.
And I'm profoundly sad.
1/x

2024-12-13 00:35:58 UTC

Looking for some amazing gay art? Check out @npub19sn…guvl's prints!
The gay romance ones are *superb* 🥰 🏳️‍🌈👨‍❤️‍👨
https://mark-tisdale.pixels.com/collections/gay
#queerArt #gayArt #gayRomance

2024-12-12 06:01:48 UTC

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I'm really not looking forward to the update on my work Mac. 🫤

2024-12-03 00:12:25 UTC

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The gay stylist was excellent and did *such* a good job of being positive when I replied to questions about how I usually trim my hair and beard.
Deep down I heard "Gurl, WTF are you doing with that comb over? And you don't fade your beard!?"
And deep down I replied, "look mary, I'm a ghetto gay and why I'm here for your help. Just make me look fabulous bitch". Which came out as "I'm wanting something new, what do you suggest?" and saying yes to everything.
We both knew the translation 😂

2024-12-02 23:30:13 UTC

Gay powers /elevated/. Got a new hair style and beard trim today and really excited about it!
https://files.mastodon.social/media_attachments/files/113/585/822/295/547/040/original/a28ac8cdc19342be.jpg

2024-12-01 21:40:24 UTC

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I will never not vote for "Bring down capitalism". Every time.

2024-11-30 22:50:02 UTC

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I think @npub1scp…6zy8 posted an Aussie-specific link a while back? Cool to know it's available on Paramount+!

2024-11-30 14:51:05 UTC

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and today I learned something! Apparently some dumplings are US biscuit style: https://thecozycook.com/chicken-and-dumplings/
I've always made them (and eaten ones) that were of the drop dumpling variety.

2024-11-30 14:41:09 UTC

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we put biscuits in stew?? To us, biscuits are fluffy flaky breakfast foods to smother in either jam or gravy and serve alongside eggs usually. I make them southern style.
https://www.food.com/recipe/southern-buttermilk-biscuits-26110

2024-11-25 04:15:42 UTC

Watching the very end of the Halo TV series and ... it just becomes a zombie movie!? Ugh. So over zombies.
No wonder it didn't get renewed for another season.

2024-11-23 20:30:56 UTC

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Over the past few days I pulled a list of interesting accounts/tags that I follow and enjoy that others with queer techy eclecticy interests might enjoy too.
Delightful sci-fi/fantasy micro stories:
[@MicroSFF](https://mastodon.art/@MicroSFF )
#PowerOnStoryToot
Heartwarming art:
@npub1yvq…qlnx
@npub1vlc…2nf2
[@clever_reports](https://mastodon.art/@clever_reports )
@npub1xcu…2zn8
@npub19sn…guvl
Interesting tech / science posters / boosters:
@npub1vc3…axsh
[@astro_jcm](https://mastodon.online/@astro_jcm )
Workouts / fitness / etc:
@npub1gvd…fkkz
Bots & more I love:
@npub1q0t…tqvn
@npub1nvj…nkm2
[@GIFS_of_Puppets](https://ohai.social/@GIFS_of_Puppets )
@npub12re…q2j8

2024-11-20 17:58:41 UTC

All this talk of "starter packs" (as if we're handing out AOL CDs or something?) has me making a list of people I follow who post or boost things interesting to me to share in a day or two.
It reminds me back when blogs had lists of other related / interesting blogs. Because isn't that how we find community in real life? We find a friend and they introduce us to their friends or their fandoms or what they're loving at the moment.
Let's share our friends, not AOL CDs.

2024-11-07 16:58:44 UTC

A good night's sleep, many texts from friends, a 5 mile run with the Frontrunners, and taking this 9a call from the patio is exactly how I wanted to start my birthday.
https://files.mastodon.social/media_attachments/files/113/442/722/388/392/557/original/8e728d7905b5dc44.jpg

2024-11-04 21:49:59 UTC

Just a little stroll on the beach.
https://files.mastodon.social/media_attachments/files/113/426/886/933/216/401/original/06be9d2a307efa80.jpg

2024-10-27 17:14:03 UTC

Today is my Bio-Family Liberation Day. I haven't spoken to any of my bio family in 7 years now and breaking away from their right-wing, evangelical, bigoted, conservative bile was the one of the best things I've done in my life.
Sometimes being good to yourself means cutting ties with people, even bio family, that are not good to you.
I hope you're able to surround yourself with chosen family and people who love you -- I sure have. ❤️

2024-10-15 23:35:52 UTC

If you're a car owner in #Seattle I HIGHLY recommend Repair Revolution for your auto maintenance needs. They're a #queer owned and operated shop that has always done an excellent job with our vehicle.
They're also super tech savvy and use SMS for updates and communication -- no need for phone tag, or even the phone. They present you with an inspection report (website sent to you via text) and follow up with suggested maintenance without trying to up-sell you.
https://autorepairrevolution.com/

2024-09-25 23:53:27 UTC

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I have my husband set up as an emergency access to my password vault in case I bite the big one.

2024-09-23 03:34:54 UTC

If I made plans with a guy early in the week to have drinks on Sunday night, but he hasn't replied to any of my messages today to set when and where, am I being ghosted, stood up, or both?