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Last Notes npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose seems to be. But we need to wait for the dust to settle. npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose females? you mean women? npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose Pavol Rusnak's recent Twitter article - Bitcoin Toxic Maximalism Has Failed "Good people attract good people. If you build a community around hating something, you attract people who hate." https://x.com/PavolRusnak/status/2084645616932606300 https://xcancel.com/i/article/2084645616932606300 npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose Ya know, I'm just not into the cannibalism. npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose Lately Iāve seen a return to using āgayā as a pejorative. That concerns me. I donāt want to go back to a world where gay bashing is normal. But I call people on it and they are like ānah itās just a word, it doesn't mean that, relaxā And so for those people I have a question⦠How about when I see something that I think is stupid or an over reaction, or someone just being dense Iām going to note how āmaleā that is. Itās āmaleā as a pejorative. I donāt mean that I hate men, of course not. Some of my friends are male! Itās just that things that are silly, or impulsive, or idiotic are āmaleā. Ya know itās just a word. And you of course are totally cool with this⦠right? npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose https://blossom.primal.net/10ae631e83a4519cd285909ee84cc4ccd1309f5573a3c38ce1f46787daf7fd86.jpg npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose No. You will read if you care to āļø npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose I think maybe you don't actually know much about Jesus. npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose You think that's something Jesus would have done? npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose ...is this what you sit up at night worrying about? npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose šÆ npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose https://blossom.primal.net/559ea8041afde92467e7f356cec983b29324239298744964d804fb02b2d2f520.jpg npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose Pretty much every Bitcoiner I know has a story about losing funds. Iām unaffected by this latest disaster, but Iāve lost funds in other mishaps. We all have. If this one affects you, I want to tell you that money really isnāt all that important. Which may sound insane when youāre staring at a zero balance with that pit in your stomach. And itās also a strange thing for a Bitcoiner, with a degree in economics, to say. But, more accurately, I want to tell you that the accumulation of personal wealth is not very relevant to living a good or happy life. Now how money functions, the type of money that the world uses, that is very impactful. I donāt work in Bitcoin to stack sats, or build a citadel, or to drive a lambo, I do this work to separate money from state, to remove a giant concentration of power from the world. And having meaningful work in my life does make me a happier person. Where you spend your time and energy is wildly important, but wealth, the accumulation of stuff, is a different beast entirely. If this one affects you, I want to shake you and yell at you⦠WEALTH DOES NOT MAKE YOU A BETTER OR HAPPIER PERSON. Please believe me, I checked! ...a few times. Iāve been lucky enough to have seen this issue from many different angles. I grew up in a household that had some wild swings in income. One year a trailer in Florida, one year a month long vacation in Europe. Iāve lived in a roach filled studio apartment on the wrong side of town, and in a house so big you might get lost. Iāve lived among the poors and partied with the super wealthy. One time my ex won the lottery and then fell into a depression. True story. Iāve got some experience with this one! So many of us grew up with the belief that money is how you measure personal value and worth. That understanding is deep in our bones. I believed that for a long time and I fought really hard to āget into the roomā, and then hated it there. Getting out of poverty will make you happy, but from there the more you climb that ladder, the more you find yourself in rooms filled with people absolutely desperate to prove themselves via money. People who have lost their soul. That is not winning. The accumulation of wealth is not an interesting or valuable goal in life. You canāt take the money with you. You canāt take the Twitter follower count with you. You canāt take the perfectly decorated giant house with you. You do take your story with you. And your story just got a wild new chapter. Welcome to the club. npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose Can you enjoy something without referencing the achievement map? Iāve been thinking about the zerosum, comparative mindset that most Americans suffer from⦠that I often suffer from. Iām trying to work this out of my head and I realized that I constantly reference an achievement map. Example, the other day I went for lunch with my husband to a lovely restaurant in Chicago not too far from a place that we used to live. Itās a restaurant that we used to go to years ago. It was nostalgic and when my brain was deciding how much I should enjoy that moment it immediately referenced the achievement map. My brain asked, where am I in my map of things Iām expected to achieve in comparison to where I was on the map when I was last at this restaurant? Am I richer? Do I have more Twitter followers? Am I thinner? On and on. I couldnāt just enjoy a delicious lunch with someone that I love. I couldnāt just appreciate the memories, my brain had to first reference the achievement map to determine if I have achieved enough to be allowed to enjoy this moment. npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose Good times/bad times donāt make someoneās character, they reveal it. Re this Coldcard disaster, itās been very interesting to see who is using this to dunk on others, who is trying to CYA, who is using this to gain new customers, and who is simply helping. Noted. npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose https://blossom.primal.net/aac44aac95c3b89a27dc354f6eb6935ee17fc4542250159231db95c11d1dab37.jpg npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose okay, well I'm going to mute you now, but you have fun. npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose Do have bodily autonomy npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose https://blossom.primal.net/ab563bd903384ed6860895915911dd6ae49113f332d35aeb10048523f9b14da9.jpg npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose https://blossom.primal.net/8b24e9574f2d40005acaa64f1a0c60d87204fd4dd59f39d1ba98c5d98e1065c4.jpg npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose https://blossom.primal.net/34e8c7e82d667eefb9fb48f48cabb2453fd960046f07f86877dd048c80d96287.jpg npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose I gotta admin, Trump makes me feel less bad about having voted for Bush... at least I didn't vote for Trump! This mess isn't my fault!!! š¤£š„ https://blossom.primal.net/889e60ef8077f538caeb58d931572c05d751201396da7c31192da45edb9d79c3.jpg npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose https://blossom.primal.net/ac9ef4feb5a2ead931f684949d537f7127a5350169ad9b1a87dc1c0afe440224.png npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose https://blossom.primal.net/eefb3d9a0e9e8f377629b0e8980f7724f50eefb221dc682af684b47a000f3f60.jpg npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose https://blossom.primal.net/51301c240d8c1837d45c1ef728ad79ff0b7d455c1125b08c0a08e4c77dc73fad.jpg npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose Get good at conflict. Humans are a social species. The #1 predictor of health and happiness is the quality of your relationships. No two people on planet earth agree on everything. All relationships require managing differences. Avoiding an argument doesnāt keep the peace it keeps the tension. The strength of a relationship is in the repair. Get good at conflict. Your health and happiness depend on it. npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose Sometimes š„ npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose https://blossom.primal.net/cdb4bc462f7d0356ca45998d06251627bea8c8a87bb29cd164337ce5fcf08af9.jpg npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose https://blossom.primal.net/37df1c502cd0f6d1400f9d4f5cf35a40b56e5a7108443bec6551ed2dc2ebbbef.jpg npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose I just spend a half hour explaining Wavelength to my Spanish tutor Ā”En espaƱol, por supuesto! She looked a bit overwhelmed 𤣠which is good news, I now speak Spanish well enough to overwhelm people with my nerdy enthusiasm in two different languages! npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose Iāve been working with Bitcoin payments since before Lightning was a thing. My personal motivation has always been to make better money, money that brings real utility to real people, and money that real people can use. For 14 years now Iāve always felt that we are just āa few yearsā away⦠just a few more years. But now, with this, with Wavelength, I think itās finally happened. Weāre ready. Wavelength is a toolkit for adding self-custodial bitcoin (and stablecoin) payments to any application. It takes everything hard about integrating bitcoin and turns it into a few simple API calls, so any developer, vibe coder, or agent can give their app a working bitcoin wallet without learning how Lightning works under the hood. Check out the blog post and ping me with questions! https://lightning.engineering/posts/2026-07-21-wavelength-launch/ npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose so true. I want to not think about the bank account when I buy groceries or book a trip. the rest you can keep. https://blossom.primal.net/915f979fe29b835e2f086372099508f3995ed1eac6a923fa5975c07c777926ed.jpg npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose https://blossom.primal.net/4970bf8840cd034547bf76d724cbaa7038dbf8ac730648c29d7f2fa35d2d6cd9.jpg npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose https://blossom.primal.net/ceedd95711b47e0bb3f2b17380ef21fbe6e4cf60a69d98de513b8a77db0c07e0.jpg npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose What I imagine the toxic maxi Twitter influencers listen to in the morning while brushing their teeth. https://youtu.be/Hfv4aarV7oQ npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose https://blossom.primal.net/37b8e30943674d26bcb2656e610d6f61583307a0ec80bccd2193ca7e5560c6ee.jpg npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose The Total Perspective Vortex lives rent free in my head nearly every day. npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose The more you know, the older you get, the more you become aware of your own lack of knowledge. The universe is just way too big and complex. Life is just way too complex. We cling to religion and simple philosophies to avoid the panic of the vast unknown. Sometimes, just for a moment, I can hold just a glimpse of the immensity of my own ignorance and I have to go sit down and take a few deep breaths to avoid drowning in it. npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose https://youtu.be/9wXLEQm_RTY npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose https://www.yahoo.com/entertainment/celebrity/articles/adam-carolla-co-host-pushes-175617982.html npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose https://blossom.primal.net/e63b7569b6ab8cafd47d26e33fa56516bc1a9bc524bc7d0e3b1a74b9dbd61d71.jpg npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose https://blossom.primal.net/c8fae87dea41dd109463f9a0795c7fe9451ec10e747a821e8181434829226227.jpg npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose I was 10 years old when marital rape became illegal in all 50 states. Sometimes I remember that when I'm pissed at the persistent rape culture. We've actually gotten a lot better! At least now even if it still permeates the culture it has been removed from the legal code. npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose nailed it šÆ npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose For a few of them it was a good decade since I'd last been in the same room with them. npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose BIP110 is a study in social contagion. But if youāre not a supporter, donāt go congratulating yourself just yet. Humans exist in a state of perpetual social contagion. You, yes you, are caught in a few yourself. And if you donāt know which types youāre susceptible too, and in which ways your mind is warped by the egregore⦠lo siento, you got it bad. npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose The Tuskegee Experiments. https://blossom.primal.net/84a858040eefaaf8765dc6d7628c37a5c2af2b9f596bd8af9179c02b60475c38.jpg npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose I keep hearing the Freud was a pedo and not really, it's complex. So Freud was a psychiatrist when that field was very new. His big breakthrough work came when he decided to study the phenomenon of "hysteria" which was effecting young women in Austria. He invented a sort of talk therapy and after spending month and months listening to these women he discovered that quite a lot of them had been sexually abused by older male relatives and that listening to these women and believing them and helping them worked wonders in eliminating their āhysteriaā. He published his findings and the results of his very successful therapy and became well known for this. ...but there was a problem. He was a part of high society in Vienna and he was treating a lot of young women from high society families in Vienna. Long story short, his findings implicated his neighbors and they didnāt like that. After some pressure from his high society friends he came up with an adaptation to his theories. All these young women that reported sexual abuse, well that wasnāt real because of course they were just fantasies. You see all young people fantasize about sexual interaction with their parents. Itās just a part of human nature. No one was actually abusing anyone, it was all just fantasy. And so he was let back into Vienna high society. So Freud wasnāt so much a pedo as a sell out that enabled pedos and prevented justice so that he could keep his social status. Not sure if thatās better or worse, but now you know! npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose I've been back in Chicago visiting with friends and family and went to an old friend's birthday party and it messed with my head a bit. Hanging out with people that you've known for 20-30 years is a trip. The perspective change is wild. Same place, same people, different time, different set of eyes. npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose Itās weird how people have such disrespect for and try to avoid the āsoft skillā of relationship management. I wrote out my todo list for this week and 100% of my urgent tasks, and 60% of my overall tasks are all relationship management. Even when you work in tech, you canāt get away from humans. Sooner or later you are always going to have to get good at managing relationships with real and complex humans. npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose Is spam bad? Well sure. Is hate speech bad? Ya! The issue is: who gets to decide when something is or isnāt across the line? Humans love nice simple rules. Good guys vs bad guys, nice clear lines in the sand. But thatās just not how reality works, from abortion to telling your partner white lies, there isnāt a simple easy rule to follow. Lo siento. npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose https://blossom.primal.net/33436d517b7eb2001aa838fc1047eb9bb6a1308808efc0963379328c0b97db46.jpg npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose already did! npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose https://hannahmr.com/you-dont-understand-therapy-its-not-a-pity-party-its-adulting/ npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose I'm not going to explain this. If you won't understand then you aren't the kind of person I want to be around. goodbye. npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose If you're in the Psychology is BS camp, give me 5 mins to change your mind. This is a thing that I wrote back in December: Two years ago it was difficult for me to just be in a car, and driving one was a gut wrenching experience. I was struggling just to drive two blocks away to the shops via side streets and parking lots. But this morning I woke up early, made a cup of tea and decided to head out for a nice relaxing drive. I got in the car and drove to the shops 30mins away on roads going 45 mph. And it was relaxing. How did I pull off that transition? Therapy. And this is why the chronic misunderstanding of therapy and mental health practices in general rather irks me. It is not self indulgent victim cosplay where we absolve ourselves of responsibility for the state of our lives. What kind of insanity would that be? Instead it is the intentional management of our mind and our thought processes. It is simply necessary maintenance for optimal health. You eat a decent diet, you try not to drink too much, you get good sleep, you stay close to your friends and family, and you consciously manage your mind. Thatās some proper adulting. When I say āmindā I mean your thoughts, your ideas, your āmindsetā, your perspective on yourself and the world. Itās what happens in your brain that impacts your experience. We are only consciously aware of a small percent of whatās happening in our brain. The vast majority of what we āthinkā throughout the day we are not consciously aware of and this creates an interesting challenge. That one weird thing your uncle said to you about relationships when you were 7 might have formed some sturdy neuropathways in your head⦠and still be there to this day without you being consciously aware of it! So letās hope your uncle was a wise and loving man otherwise that old thought pattern might be causing you some trouble. You can think of your subconscious mind as the operating system that you are running. The issue is that updates donāt happen automatically. If you want to run a new and improved operating system, you have to painstakingly install a new one yourself. Sometimes one line of code at a time. There is an interesting thing about humans, we are born too early. Now this has to do with complex evolutionary things like humans learning to walk upright and the size of our hip bones and whatās optimal for walking vs whatās optimal for childbearing. Itās complex, but long story short, we are born too soon. Most babies in the animal kingdom emerge capable of independent mobility and communication. But humans, wow are we helpless babies. And for that first year or two of our life, our operating system is still being installed. Our nervous system is still forming. And this brings us to a very popular therapy trope⦠Tell me about your mother! Thatās the cliche right? You walk into a therapistās office, lay down on the couch, and the first thing your therapist says is ātell me about your mother.ā Then you describe in detail everything your mother has ever done wrong, your therapist absolves you of any responsibility for any of your errors and you both toast your success with some champagne! Right? Of course not. Questions about your early childhood, or your upbringing, and questions about your mother, or whoever raised you, are indeed very common. But here your therapist isnāt looking to find the person to blame, they are asking you, āwhat operating system are you running?ā You see most of us get an operating system installed that is rather optimal for the environment that we were in during our early childhood. But decades later when we wind up on a therapist couch, or zoom meeting schedule, itās almost certainly because that operating system is wildly outdated and no longer helping us. So it may very well be that you are having a problem with workplace anxiety and your therapist asks you about your mother. But of course none of this is about your mother, itās about the operating system that your mother installed in your brain 40 years ago that desperately needs an update. This stuff is of course complex and I donāt want to do it a disservice by over simplifying it, but, I do think itās fair to say a very big factor, and for a lot of people, the primary factor in depression and anxiety are damaging old subconscious thought patterns. Our perspective on life and ourselves, our āmindsetā, our damaging old operating system. This is how ātherapyā helps us improve ourselves. It is the work of determining what operating system youāre running, sorting out which parts of that are now holding you back and in need of an update, and going about updating that software. Unfortunately, most of us donāt wind up āin therapyā until something has gone very wrong in our life. Therapy is expensive, itās time consuming, itās difficult, and there is still some stigma around it. And so we donāt make that call until we are really suffering and desperate for a solution. And when we do finally make that call we generally have no idea what we are doing and have no idea what kind of help we need, and so we start with some good old fashioned talk therapy. Talk therapy might not be what you wind up needing, but itās a great place to start to get an education. Comedian Vidura Bandara Rajapaksa has a great bit about going to therapy. He says he thought that a therapist would fix him like a mechanic fixes his car, but instead he found that therapy is much less like going to a mechanic and much more like Ikea for your emotions, āwhere you are given some tools and materials but you have to put your sh*tty table of a personality together all by yourself.ā Because talk therapy is a great place to get an understanding of which operating system you are running and in which ways itās erroring out, but you still have to do the work of updating that operating system. For some people their operating system isnāt in need of that many updates and just talking to a therapist and installing a few new insights and perspectives will be enough of a solution. But for many others, a full upgrade may be needed, perhaps even some database migrations, and that requires some serious upgrade tools! Thankfully there are many, many options these days. Deep journaling work like the Neurocycle process, Cognitive Behavior Therapy (CBT), Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR), psychedelic assisted therapy, and many more. While all of these have their own approach, they are all essentially tools for a serious operating system upgrade. And this upgrade is hard work! This isnāt about blaming grandpa, this is about re-wiring your mind, on a physical level, one neuropathway at a time. You keep an eye on your blood pressure, you step on the scale to check your weight, maybe you use a sleep tracker! And, if you are being a responsible adult, you monitor your mind. When your blood pressure is too high you call your doc and take some pills and change your diet. And when your anxiety starts to kick up, you call your therapist, maybe take some pills, and update your operating system. Therapy isnāt a pity party, itās not about who to blame, itās the conscious management of your mind. Itās hard work, and itās proper adulting. npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose bound? No. But self concept is density... so npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose This is one of the most disgusting things one human can say to another. This says I don't give a shit about who you are, I don't give a shit about your dreams, I don't give a shit about your accomplishments. All I care about is how you can service me. Absolute fucking trash. https://blossom.primal.net/11d1c1b2c63ba92d238053ed03afc12cb1503cf96a70a69fc2682f01491142a6.png npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose If you don't see the egregore, if you don't think it exists, you are still caught in it. npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose A lot of people hate psychology. I used to as well. I was very wrong. Now I know why I hated it and I understand why I was wrong about it. But I'm curious, if you have a bad impression of psychology, why? An experience you had? The experience of a loved one? A common trope about psychology? something someone said to you? Please tell me about it! npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose One of the tragedies of our current patriarchy hangover is that most men have no idea how wanted they are. Men are still being taught to get their sense of value from logistical utility, and most women have been taught to feel intense amounts of shame for any sexual desires. The mix of these two things means that women generally don't express desires out loud and men rarely think of themselves as desirable. This is changing, but currently, most men donāt know how to be wanted, they only know how to be needed. And so they panic when they donāt have a sense of being logistically needed. Dudes, stop it. Youāre a bunch of hotties, act like it! š npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose stop being a slave. npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose https://blossom.primal.net/d8095cef6ca4395299684d88a1472a0df947923c29b14560ec46226dd224ee75.jpg npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose https://blossom.primal.net/4f894cf8df918847d7bd9b9baa97f0ce4cf488c16785ef9471309250d6c3be7f.jpg npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose Did you know that Mozart had an equally talented sister? npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose For the past few thousand years in western history, the majority of those recorded as brilliant minds were wealthy white men simply because they were the ones who had the luxury of studying and tinkering. https://blossom.primal.net/b3dd488d2e34bd393a006aaf15ccd6f62c2168a196e8506c5e466f6d0c50222b.jpg npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose well lets change that! npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose What I get up to when I'm traveling and my husband isn't around to stop me.... https://blossom.primal.net/cc2e07b90e746735408cd621193f7c9a7cd37f6c12ac18b125e0a48cca706ba7.jpg npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose https://blossom.primal.net/dc925ccf3ce5f2b80e1ef342318666d39d13ec6ce79f7a97523f703bd9c34bbc.jpg npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose https://blossom.primal.net/bd9f0a847d2e01cc206c90c5f7729e55599ef2fc2fc0186895969ce279dcebc4.jpg npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose The rise of Christian nationalism terrifies me. I was born into a Christian fundamentalist cult. And of course Christian fundamentalism and Christian nationalism aren't the same things, but there is a lot of overlap there. Intense Christianity is a lot like extremist Islam. Hierarchical, patriarchal, racist, brutal. An ideology of obedience and punishment. Thankfully we left that cult when I was 7. If we had stayed I would have been married off as a teenager and had lots of kids very young. I would have grown up and been miserable but unable to leave as no way could I abandon my children. I would have hung myself off a tree branch in the back yard, as a number of my peers in that community did. I don't want that life for anyone. It is a tragedy. npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose You canāt make someone care about you. You canāt make someone care about you. You canāt make someone care about you. You canāt make someone care about you. You canāt make someone care about you. You canāt make someone care about you. You canāt make someone care about you. You canāt make someone care about you. You canāt make someone care about you. You canāt make someone care about you. ...Let them go. npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose https://blossom.primal.net/ca9a9dbea78f095a9b67d9a9606344e4a9e35482ba7e8a1e13b26492466e9eaf.jpg npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose š¤ Sorry, struggling with the UX on this app. Not sure what you are replying to.... And this is a note to your OF subscribers? npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose https://blossom.primal.net/8c1b00a6c71ee04ae1f7a937f28101cebc0498cd7fd3ff6fb8e25018074c8d67.png npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose https://blossom.primal.net/5a08a1a273e286ea8d4ac7bf633919417b44b89e591bfc3ba2e509e5c07a895e.jpg npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose O fuck, you're like a proper sociopath! So š and stay the hell away from me. npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose The US is great in many, many ways because it has āInclusive institutionsā. And yes, there are so, so many examples of systematic exclusion happening in the States, but, unfortunately, nearly everywhere else has even less inclusive institutions, and so by comparison we are kicking ass! Why Nations Fail: The Origins of Power, Prosperity, and Poverty is one of the best books Iāve ever read. It walks through, in painstaking detail, and with a flood of data points why some nation prosper, and why some fail. Spoiler, a nation with extractive institutions will fail to prosper. The US was founded on some great principals including balance of power, and because of that the citizens of the US have often been involved and included both politically and economically and that is why we have done as well as we have. npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose Facts don't care about your feelings. Atrocities happened and you need to look reality in the eye. npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose O look another atrocity apologist. ...truly grotesque. npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose Itās the 4th of July š and our 250th birthday š„³ and so people keep asking me if Iām feeling patriotic⦠and no, no Iām not. Now before you accuse me of hating my country⦠I kinda do! But also kinda donāt. You see just having been born in the US gave me access to more money, and more opportunity than nearly 99% of the rest of humanity. I was born in the global elite. I am wildly lucky to be an American! But here is the thing, Iām mad at how much Iāve been misled. I was taught all about the founding fathers, and they certainly got the spirit of the thing right! āWe hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness.ā šš Fuck ya! They nailed the vibe. ...but then interpreted āall menā to mean rich white European males. Ugh. Do you remember manifest destiny? I sure do. This was the idea that white Americans stealing land from and often killing Native Americans was totally fine, cuz that land was divinely ordained to belong to the white Americans. "our manifest destiny to overspread the continent allotted by Providence for the free development of our yearly multiplying millions." The story was taught to me with glory. We set out and conquered the wilderness and banished the savages! ...also known as theft and murder, which I later learned about as the āTrail of Tearsā. I was taught that yes slavery is wrong, but you know it wasnāt that bad, and we ended it ages ago, so all is well and forgiven now. I had this idea in my head that the slaves were generally just farm hands that couldnāt leave. They were given houses, and they raised families and had happy little lives. Later I learned about a number of diaries from slave owners or those on their plantations that contain detailed documentation of their systematic mistreatment of slaves, including notes on just how much abuse slave populations would withstand before potentially revolting. I wonāt repeat some of the stories from them here, they are as you might imagine just about as cruel and horrific as it is possible to be. And no doubt conditions were very different on different plantations, but with how many of these diaries we have, itās very clear that how horrific this phase of history was has been intentionally hidden. In my own lifetime weāve gone to all kinds of wars under the guise of āliberatingā others, or because it was totally necessary to protect ourselves from imminent danger, etc. And when you look closer and closer, it becomes abundantly clear that it was never about anything besides power. I have been consistently lied to about what this country has been and is. We were founded on some great principals. And that whole balance of power thing has really done wonders for us and taken us a long, long way. With those principles and with the political inclusion that we have had, weāve made a lot of progress! However, psychopaths gunna psycho and we seem to be good at enabling them. We are the evil empire. To this day the abusive elite are out here holding the positions of power in our country and directing thefts and murders of all sorts of varieties and they do it all with my tax dollars and in my name. And I feel pretty fucking gross about that. npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose 2026 has been rough for my faith in humanity. But these two pictures are holding me together š https://blossom.primal.net/89dbd6cc150ccef15be9a9b52ae1af5b186adb1c39e39b345848dc4957c94e41.jpg https://blossom.primal.net/1824dc55fa4c26e490661b776c81d595ac1c4d8e37cf23cd2f968b0011052590.webp npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose I don't know. She posts a lot about political things. Are you into that? npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose Yup https://blossom.primal.net/3fa51b123f3f312eee3e35888a43f8eadf5bc551a459a096cc1cf9ab4af7559f.jpg npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose Modern day motherhood is miserable and that's why fewer women are choosing it. If you want women to chose it, make it less miserable. Why is it miserable? Because we are doing it all wrong. One woman alone in a house with small children all day is torture. Thatās not how humans work. Humans are designed to live in a pack and raise children communally. If we want women to not be miserable raising kids, then we need to bring that community back. We need to take all that burden off them and share it around so that they can continue to be normal humans. If women have to give up all that they are to have kids, then a lot of them will chose not to have kids. npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose Itās a common trope and a line in many a song, but perhaps Missy Elliott said it best, āI donāt want no one minute manā. And equally popular is the dude bragging about his bedroom skills by saying he can āgo all nightā. But really, who wants to go all night? Maybe on a special occasion youāll get ambitious and want to go a few rounds⦠but all night? Thatās just gunna hurt. Thatās exhausting! And most ladies donāt want that. So why is the shaming men for not lasting āall nightā such a popular thing to do? Because really āI donāt want no one minute manā translates to āI donāt want a selfish loverā. Generally speaking, itās not that a woman wants a man with epic stamina, itās more that she wants a man who pays attention to her pleasure. What she doesnāt want is a man that focuses on his pleasure and then just rolls over and goes to sleep completely forgetting that the female orgasm is a thing. Dudes that worry about this one might enjoy this take. You donāt have to last all night or even an hour, thatās ridiculous, donāt worry about that, just donāt be a selfish lover. If a man only lasts 30seconds, that might be interpreted as pathetic, or it might get interpreted as a complement. Itās what you do next that makes the difference. ā āThat was fun. Good night.ā š¶ āWow youāre just so hot I couldnāt last!ā ā
āWow youāre just so hot I couldnāt last! Now what can I do for you?ā npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose https://blossom.primal.net/90642a6e0f5e29201bfedb4ef4be6cd31d037e041c28b35b70a8e69c91726bd4.jpg npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose The idea here is if you want women to have more babies, instead of trying to subjugate them... perhaps you support them instead? ya know like encourage fathers to be more involved in childcare. or encourage workplaces and restaurants, etc to be more child friendly. Make a world that doesn't isolate mothers! npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose I don't want more humans, I think we have too much already. But for those who want to encourage more babies.... they are doing it all wrong! Sometimes I think the pro-natalism is just an excuse for subjugating women. https://blossom.primal.net/06cf13a477c5ca150d114c48d75f3168d4f6af2805aa38533b136c4dfe62991e.jpg npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose This morning I was out for a walk in the park and as I turned a corner I spotted an Iguana on the sidewalk up ahead. When it spotted me it freaked out a bit and scurried up a tree to get away from me. That bummed me out a bit. It was really cool looking and I wanted to get closer to it and maybe take a picture of it. But itās behavior was totally understandable. I am a lot bigger than it. Iām capable of harming it. And while I know that I have zero interest in doing that and only wanted to admire how cool it looks, that creature has no way of knowing that I mean it no harm. There are people in Puerto Rico that hunt and eat Iguanas and Iāve seen people attempt to run them over with their cars. So given the limited information that Iguana had about me personally, it was of course making the wise decision to run away from me. I did not take itās behavior as a personal insult. I did not declare that Iguanas are waging a cultural war against humanity, I did not shout āNot all humans!ā at the Iguana. I just gave it some space and went on with my day. npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose https://blossom.primal.net/cdca22beb22562ae2db4fcdd054cec4e4cc1507bd9b658857b157bf387643cfb.png npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose I rarely count calories, but when I do, I'm pretty sure I should be able to deduct 10% at the end of the day to account for all the bites I gave my dogs. npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose https://blossom.primal.net/486f49b2478c11eee966d9eb957c8753f5cf156b93b10925fe8105354c486847.png npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose I think I've been to 20 different countries. Is that impressive or are those rookie numbers? npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose Attention young women, the internet is lying to you about the life of a ātrad wifeā. It is not at all a glamorous, easy, or safe life. Bringing new life into the world is nothing short of miraculous. Itās like being a demigod, I recommend it. But you need to know that it is dangerous work and a rather traumatic process. Statically speaking, being a police officer is safer than being pregnant. And in the birthing process you may very well max out your bodies ability to feel pain all while covered in a cocktail of your own blood and feces. Caring for children is very natural for nearly all humans and is an incredible source of joy. However, for the vast majority of humanity, child care was a communal effort. Humans have generally lived in small bands of 50-100 people where everyone knew everyone else and the children ran and played while the whole community kept an eye on them and parents engaged in productive work along side other adults. One adult in a home alone with a set of small children is wildly unnatural. The single family home, stay at home parent setup is an anomaly in human history. An adult spending all day interacting with only children, trying to keep up with a child's need for play is a maddening task for any adult brain which needs interaction with other adults. Being a stay at home parent is a very isolating and difficult lifestyle. Yes even when you organize play dates and lunches with other parents. Life with small children is not glamorous. You donāt wear the pretty dresses as they just get spit up all over them. You will be far too sleep deprived to bother putting on makeup⦠heck you probably forgot to even brush your teeth for two days in a row! And you smell like dirty diapers. Like it or not, today's world revolves around money. Money is a massively impactful logistical reality of the world we currently live in. Because of this, choosing to not have a monetary income is a massive economic trust fall. Should something happen to your spouse, should there be a breakup, you will then be in a very challenging logistical situation. I would go as far as to say that not planning for this possibility is very irresponsible. Being the primary care taker of a home filled with small children is incredibly challenging, and risky work. Itās certainly the most demanding job that Iāve ever had. This is not to say that you shouldnāt be a housewife. I was a ātrad wifeā for 4 years and that worked out just fine for me. You do whatever suits your life. I just want you to be able to make informed decisions. Being a trad wife is risky, un-glamorous, and incredibly difficult work. npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose what variety of purity testing are you encountering? All the maxi stuff? npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose https://blossom.primal.net/0b8a50524c195e346afb58e2c8b928ed5198bcf9f5b3968eb9b5f4e09fc82187.jpg npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose no you know what I mean. Opposite sides of the same coin. npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose https://blossom.primal.net/8d6704c2eb3ff209dfdb417c090d17447693379b7891c21461a033847ddc7fc8.jpg "Women go through the trauma of telling their horrific story. They face doubt, shame, and public judgment. Nikita Hand did that. In 2018 Conor McGregor raped her in a Dublin hotel. She was left shaken, crying and severely bruised. A forensic examiner also said she had a 9cm scratch on her left breast and he had to use forceps to remove a tampon she had been wearing the previous night because it became āwedged insideā. In 2024, a jury decided Conor McGregor was legally responsible for the rape and Nikita was given ā¬248,000 in damages. She told her story. And then she had to watch her rapist get invited on TV, celebrated, applauded and treated like a star. The problem is not that women donāt report. The problem is that society keeps showing survivors that even when they come forward, powerful men can still be protected, promoted, and given a platform." npub1tv5j2h2742ht2a6490cdzypsxah5wlge5qyutadgphw884ynt8mqg4jlst hmichellerose Based and woke are the same things. Not a fan of either.