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Pretty much just my shower thoughts 🚿🧠 But I do other things like... Developer Advocate at Lightning Labs | Co-Organizer of San Juan Bitdevs | Founder of Velas Commerce

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2026-08-04 03:19:06 UTC

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🎯

2026-08-04 03:16:36 UTC

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2026-08-03 14:46:43 UTC

Pretty much every Bitcoiner I know has a story about losing funds. I’m unaffected by this latest disaster, but I’ve lost funds in other mishaps. We all have.
If this one affects you, I want to tell you that money really isn’t all that important. Which may sound insane when you’re staring at a zero balance with that pit in your stomach. And it’s also a strange thing for a Bitcoiner, with a degree in economics, to say. But, more accurately, I want to tell you that the accumulation of personal wealth is not very relevant to living a good or happy life.
Now how money functions, the type of money that the world uses, that is very impactful. I don’t work in Bitcoin to stack sats, or build a citadel, or to drive a lambo, I do this work to separate money from state, to remove a giant concentration of power from the world. And having meaningful work in my life does make me a happier person.
Where you spend your time and energy is wildly important, but wealth, the accumulation of stuff, is a different beast entirely. If this one affects you, I want to shake you and yell at you… WEALTH DOES NOT MAKE YOU A BETTER OR HAPPIER PERSON. Please believe me, I checked! ...a few times.
I’ve been lucky enough to have seen this issue from many different angles. I grew up in a household that had some wild swings in income. One year a trailer in Florida, one year a month long vacation in Europe. I’ve lived in a roach filled studio apartment on the wrong side of town, and in a house so big you might get lost. I’ve lived among the poors and partied with the super wealthy. One time my ex won the lottery and then fell into a depression. True story. I’ve got some experience with this one!
So many of us grew up with the belief that money is how you measure personal value and worth. That understanding is deep in our bones. I believed that for a long time and I fought really hard to ‘get into the room’, and then hated it there. Getting out of poverty will make you happy, but from there the more you climb that ladder, the more you find yourself in rooms filled with people absolutely desperate to prove themselves via money. People who have lost their soul. That is not winning.
The accumulation of wealth is not an interesting or valuable goal in life. You can’t take the money with you. You can’t take the Twitter follower count with you. You can’t take the perfectly decorated giant house with you.
You do take your story with you. And your story just got a wild new chapter. Welcome to the club.

2026-08-02 18:33:48 UTC

Good times/bad times don’t make someone’s character, they reveal it.
Re this Coldcard disaster, it’s been very interesting to see who is using this to dunk on others, who is trying to CYA, who is using this to gain new customers, and who is simply helping.
Noted.

2026-07-31 20:04:25 UTC

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2026-07-31 14:45:48 UTC

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okay, well I'm going to mute you now, but you have fun.

2026-07-31 12:36:03 UTC

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Do have bodily autonomy

2026-07-31 01:43:58 UTC

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2026-07-29 18:42:35 UTC

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2026-07-29 16:10:08 UTC

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2026-07-28 15:49:04 UTC

I gotta admin, Trump makes me feel less bad about having voted for Bush... at least I didn't vote for Trump! This mess isn't my fault!!! 🤣😥
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2026-07-24 20:32:28 UTC

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2026-07-24 19:15:26 UTC

Get good at conflict.
Humans are a social species.
The #1 predictor of health and happiness is the quality of your relationships.
No two people on planet earth agree on everything.
All relationships require managing differences.
Avoiding an argument doesn’t keep the peace it keeps the tension.
The strength of a relationship is in the repair.
Get good at conflict. Your health and happiness depend on it.

2026-07-24 19:05:34 UTC

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Sometimes 😥

2026-07-24 18:03:16 UTC

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2026-07-23 16:07:40 UTC

I just spend a half hour explaining Wavelength to my Spanish tutor ¡En español, por supuesto!
She looked a bit overwhelmed 🤣 which is good news, I now speak Spanish well enough to overwhelm people with my nerdy enthusiasm in two different languages!

2026-07-21 18:50:38 UTC

I’ve been working with Bitcoin payments since before Lightning was a thing. My personal motivation has always been to make better money, money that brings real utility to real people, and money that real people can use.
For 14 years now I’ve always felt that we are just “a few years” away… just a few more years. But now, with this, with Wavelength, I think it’s finally happened. We’re ready.
Wavelength is a toolkit for adding self-custodial bitcoin (and stablecoin) payments to any application. It takes everything hard about integrating bitcoin and turns it into a few simple API calls, so any developer, vibe coder, or agent can give their app a working bitcoin wallet without learning how Lightning works under the hood.
Check out the blog post and ping me with questions!
https://lightning.engineering/posts/2026-07-21-wavelength-launch/

2026-07-21 16:28:26 UTC

so true. I want to not think about the bank account when I buy groceries or book a trip. the rest you can keep.
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2026-07-20 16:35:07 UTC

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2026-07-20 16:15:44 UTC

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2026-07-20 14:35:56 UTC

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2026-07-20 14:19:11 UTC

The Total Perspective Vortex lives rent free in my head nearly every day.

2026-07-20 02:10:06 UTC

The more you know, the older you get, the more you become aware of your own lack of knowledge. The universe is just way too big and complex. Life is just way too complex. We cling to religion and simple philosophies to avoid the panic of the vast unknown.
Sometimes, just for a moment, I can hold just a glimpse of the immensity of my own ignorance and I have to go sit down and take a few deep breaths to avoid drowning in it.

2026-07-19 23:16:04 UTC

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2026-07-18 00:37:59 UTC

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https://www.yahoo.com/entertainment/celebrity/articles/adam-carolla-co-host-pushes-175617982.html

2026-07-18 00:37:13 UTC

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2026-07-18 00:36:09 UTC

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2026-07-17 18:10:48 UTC

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nailed it 🎯

2026-07-15 14:38:23 UTC

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For a few of them it was a good decade since I'd last been in the same room with them.

2026-07-15 00:10:57 UTC

BIP110 is a study in social contagion.
But if you’re not a supporter, don’t go congratulating yourself just yet. Humans exist in a state of perpetual social contagion. You, yes you, are caught in a few yourself. And if you don’t know which types you’re susceptible too, and in which ways your mind is warped by the egregore… lo siento, you got it bad.

2026-07-14 21:58:36 UTC

The Tuskegee Experiments.
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2026-07-14 21:39:22 UTC

I keep hearing the Freud was a pedo and not really, it's complex.
So Freud was a psychiatrist when that field was very new. His big breakthrough work came when he decided to study the phenomenon of "hysteria" which was effecting young women in Austria. He invented a sort of talk therapy and after spending month and months listening to these women he discovered that quite a lot of them had been sexually abused by older male relatives and that listening to these women and believing them and helping them worked wonders in eliminating their “hysteria”.
He published his findings and the results of his very successful therapy and became well known for this. ...but there was a problem. He was a part of high society in Vienna and he was treating a lot of young women from high society families in Vienna. Long story short, his findings implicated his neighbors and they didn’t like that.
After some pressure from his high society friends he came up with an adaptation to his theories. All these young women that reported sexual abuse, well that wasn’t real because of course they were just fantasies. You see all young people fantasize about sexual interaction with their parents. It’s just a part of human nature. No one was actually abusing anyone, it was all just fantasy. And so he was let back into Vienna high society.
So Freud wasn’t so much a pedo as a sell out that enabled pedos and prevented justice so that he could keep his social status.
Not sure if that’s better or worse, but now you know!

2026-07-14 00:03:30 UTC

I've been back in Chicago visiting with friends and family and went to an old friend's birthday party and it messed with my head a bit.
Hanging out with people that you've known for 20-30 years is a trip. The perspective change is wild. Same place, same people, different time, different set of eyes.

2026-07-14 00:01:42 UTC

It’s weird how people have such disrespect for and try to avoid the ‘soft skill’ of relationship management. I wrote out my todo list for this week and 100% of my urgent tasks, and 60% of my overall tasks are all relationship management.
Even when you work in tech, you can’t get away from humans. Sooner or later you are always going to have to get good at managing relationships with real and complex humans.

2026-07-09 17:45:41 UTC

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I'm not going to explain this. If you won't understand then you aren't the kind of person I want to be around. goodbye.

2026-07-09 17:44:22 UTC

If you're in the Psychology is BS camp, give me 5 mins to change your mind.
This is a thing that I wrote back in December:
Two years ago it was difficult for me to just be in a car, and driving one was a gut wrenching experience. I was struggling just to drive two blocks away to the shops via side streets and parking lots. But this morning I woke up early, made a cup of tea and decided to head out for a nice relaxing drive. I got in the car and drove to the shops 30mins away on roads going 45 mph. And it was relaxing.
How did I pull off that transition? Therapy. And this is why the chronic misunderstanding of therapy and mental health practices in general rather irks me. It is not self indulgent victim cosplay where we absolve ourselves of responsibility for the state of our lives. What kind of insanity would that be? Instead it is the intentional management of our mind and our thought processes. It is simply necessary maintenance for optimal health. You eat a decent diet, you try not to drink too much, you get good sleep, you stay close to your friends and family, and you consciously manage your mind. That’s some proper adulting.
When I say “mind” I mean your thoughts, your ideas, your “mindset”, your perspective on yourself and the world. It’s what happens in your brain that impacts your experience. We are only consciously aware of a small percent of what’s happening in our brain. The vast majority of what we “think” throughout the day we are not consciously aware of and this creates an interesting challenge. That one weird thing your uncle said to you about relationships when you were 7 might have formed some sturdy neuropathways in your head… and still be there to this day without you being consciously aware of it! So let’s hope your uncle was a wise and loving man otherwise that old thought pattern might be causing you some trouble.
You can think of your subconscious mind as the operating system that you are running. The issue is that updates don’t happen automatically. If you want to run a new and improved operating system, you have to painstakingly install a new one yourself. Sometimes one line of code at a time.
There is an interesting thing about humans, we are born too early. Now this has to do with complex evolutionary things like humans learning to walk upright and the size of our hip bones and what’s optimal for walking vs what’s optimal for childbearing. It’s complex, but long story short, we are born too soon. Most babies in the animal kingdom emerge capable of independent mobility and communication. But humans, wow are we helpless babies. And for that first year or two of our life, our operating system is still being installed. Our nervous system is still forming. And this brings us to a very popular therapy trope… Tell me about your mother!
That’s the cliche right? You walk into a therapist’s office, lay down on the couch, and the first thing your therapist says is “tell me about your mother.” Then you describe in detail everything your mother has ever done wrong, your therapist absolves you of any responsibility for any of your errors and you both toast your success with some champagne! Right? Of course not.
Questions about your early childhood, or your upbringing, and questions about your mother, or whoever raised you, are indeed very common. But here your therapist isn’t looking to find the person to blame, they are asking you, “what operating system are you running?” You see most of us get an operating system installed that is rather optimal for the environment that we were in during our early childhood. But decades later when we wind up on a therapist couch, or zoom meeting schedule, it’s almost certainly because that operating system is wildly outdated and no longer helping us. So it may very well be that you are having a problem with workplace anxiety and your therapist asks you about your mother. But of course none of this is about your mother, it’s about the operating system that your mother installed in your brain 40 years ago that desperately needs an update.
This stuff is of course complex and I don’t want to do it a disservice by over simplifying it, but, I do think it’s fair to say a very big factor, and for a lot of people, the primary factor in depression and anxiety are damaging old subconscious thought patterns. Our perspective on life and ourselves, our “mindset”, our damaging old operating system.
This is how “therapy” helps us improve ourselves. It is the work of determining what operating system you’re running, sorting out which parts of that are now holding you back and in need of an update, and going about updating that software.
Unfortunately, most of us don’t wind up “in therapy” until something has gone very wrong in our life. Therapy is expensive, it’s time consuming, it’s difficult, and there is still some stigma around it. And so we don’t make that call until we are really suffering and desperate for a solution. And when we do finally make that call we generally have no idea what we are doing and have no idea what kind of help we need, and so we start with some good old fashioned talk therapy.
Talk therapy might not be what you wind up needing, but it’s a great place to start to get an education. Comedian Vidura Bandara Rajapaksa has a great bit about going to therapy. He says he thought that a therapist would fix him like a mechanic fixes his car, but instead he found that therapy is much less like going to a mechanic and much more like Ikea for your emotions, “where you are given some tools and materials but you have to put your sh*tty table of a personality together all by yourself.” Because talk therapy is a great place to get an understanding of which operating system you are running and in which ways it’s erroring out, but you still have to do the work of updating that operating system.
For some people their operating system isn’t in need of that many updates and just talking to a therapist and installing a few new insights and perspectives will be enough of a solution. But for many others, a full upgrade may be needed, perhaps even some database migrations, and that requires some serious upgrade tools!
Thankfully there are many, many options these days. Deep journaling work like the Neurocycle process, Cognitive Behavior Therapy (CBT), Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR), psychedelic assisted therapy, and many more. While all of these have their own approach, they are all essentially tools for a serious operating system upgrade.
And this upgrade is hard work! This isn’t about blaming grandpa, this is about re-wiring your mind, on a physical level, one neuropathway at a time.
You keep an eye on your blood pressure, you step on the scale to check your weight, maybe you use a sleep tracker! And, if you are being a responsible adult, you monitor your mind. When your blood pressure is too high you call your doc and take some pills and change your diet. And when your anxiety starts to kick up, you call your therapist, maybe take some pills, and update your operating system.
Therapy isn’t a pity party, it’s not about who to blame, it’s the conscious management of your mind. It’s hard work, and it’s proper adulting.

2026-07-09 16:37:47 UTC

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bound? No. But self concept is density... so

2026-07-09 16:10:53 UTC

This is one of the most disgusting things one human can say to another. This says I don't give a shit about who you are, I don't give a shit about your dreams, I don't give a shit about your accomplishments. All I care about is how you can service me.
Absolute fucking trash.
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2026-07-09 15:51:46 UTC

If you don't see the egregore, if you don't think it exists, you are still caught in it.

2026-07-09 15:50:34 UTC

A lot of people hate psychology. I used to as well. I was very wrong.
Now I know why I hated it and I understand why I was wrong about it. But I'm curious, if you have a bad impression of psychology, why? An experience you had? The experience of a loved one? A common trope about psychology? something someone said to you? Please tell me about it!

2026-07-09 15:49:50 UTC

One of the tragedies of our current patriarchy hangover is that most men have no idea how wanted they are.
Men are still being taught to get their sense of value from logistical utility, and most women have been taught to feel intense amounts of shame for any sexual desires. The mix of these two things means that women generally don't express desires out loud and men rarely think of themselves as desirable.
This is changing, but currently, most men don’t know how to be wanted, they only know how to be needed. And so they panic when they don’t have a sense of being logistically needed.
Dudes, stop it. You’re a bunch of hotties, act like it! 😉

2026-07-09 14:16:33 UTC

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stop being a slave.

2026-07-09 14:16:13 UTC

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2026-07-08 02:23:44 UTC

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2026-07-08 02:13:53 UTC

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Did you know that Mozart had an equally talented sister?

2026-07-08 01:56:01 UTC

For the past few thousand years in western history, the majority of those recorded as brilliant minds were wealthy white men simply because they were the ones who had the luxury of studying and tinkering.
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2026-07-08 01:41:51 UTC

What I get up to when I'm traveling and my husband isn't around to stop me....
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2026-07-07 23:30:52 UTC

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2026-07-07 16:34:49 UTC

The rise of Christian nationalism terrifies me.
I was born into a Christian fundamentalist cult. And of course Christian fundamentalism and Christian nationalism aren't the same things, but there is a lot of overlap there.
Intense Christianity is a lot like extremist Islam. Hierarchical, patriarchal, racist, brutal. An ideology of obedience and punishment.
Thankfully we left that cult when I was 7. If we had stayed I would have been married off as a teenager and had lots of kids very young. I would have grown up and been miserable but unable to leave as no way could I abandon my children.
I would have hung myself off a tree branch in the back yard, as a number of my peers in that community did.
I don't want that life for anyone. It is a tragedy.

2026-07-07 02:11:49 UTC

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2026-07-06 04:24:32 UTC

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🤔 Sorry, struggling with the UX on this app. Not sure what you are replying to.... And this is a note to your OF subscribers?

2026-07-06 00:22:26 UTC

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2026-07-05 23:59:35 UTC

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2026-07-05 01:02:53 UTC

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O fuck, you're like a proper sociopath!
So 🖕 and stay the hell away from me.

2026-07-05 00:50:59 UTC

The US is great in many, many ways because it has “Inclusive institutions”. And yes, there are so, so many examples of systematic exclusion happening in the States, but, unfortunately, nearly everywhere else has even less inclusive institutions, and so by comparison we are kicking ass!
Why Nations Fail: The Origins of Power, Prosperity, and Poverty is one of the best books I’ve ever read. It walks through, in painstaking detail, and with a flood of data points why some nation prosper, and why some fail. Spoiler, a nation with extractive institutions will fail to prosper.
The US was founded on some great principals including balance of power, and because of that the citizens of the US have often been involved and included both politically and economically and that is why we have done as well as we have.

2026-07-05 00:37:10 UTC

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Facts don't care about your feelings. Atrocities happened and you need to look reality in the eye.

2026-07-05 00:29:12 UTC

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O look another atrocity apologist. ...truly grotesque.

2026-07-05 00:01:15 UTC

It’s the 4th of July 🎇 and our 250th birthday 🥳 and so people keep asking me if I’m feeling patriotic… and no, no I’m not.
Now before you accuse me of hating my country… I kinda do! But also kinda don’t. You see just having been born in the US gave me access to more money, and more opportunity than nearly 99% of the rest of humanity. I was born in the global elite. I am wildly lucky to be an American!
But here is the thing, I’m mad at how much I’ve been misled.
I was taught all about the founding fathers, and they certainly got the spirit of the thing right! “We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness.” 👏👏 Fuck ya! They nailed the vibe. ...but then interpreted “all men” to mean rich white European males. Ugh.
Do you remember manifest destiny? I sure do. This was the idea that white Americans stealing land from and often killing Native Americans was totally fine, cuz that land was divinely ordained to belong to the white Americans. "our manifest destiny to overspread the continent allotted by Providence for the free development of our yearly multiplying millions."
The story was taught to me with glory. We set out and conquered the wilderness and banished the savages! ...also known as theft and murder, which I later learned about as the “Trail of Tears”.
I was taught that yes slavery is wrong, but you know it wasn’t that bad, and we ended it ages ago, so all is well and forgiven now. I had this idea in my head that the slaves were generally just farm hands that couldn’t leave. They were given houses, and they raised families and had happy little lives. Later I learned about a number of diaries from slave owners or those on their plantations that contain detailed documentation of their systematic mistreatment of slaves, including notes on just how much abuse slave populations would withstand before potentially revolting. I won’t repeat some of the stories from them here, they are as you might imagine just about as cruel and horrific as it is possible to be.
And no doubt conditions were very different on different plantations, but with how many of these diaries we have, it’s very clear that how horrific this phase of history was has been intentionally hidden.
In my own lifetime we’ve gone to all kinds of wars under the guise of “liberating” others, or because it was totally necessary to protect ourselves from imminent danger, etc. And when you look closer and closer, it becomes abundantly clear that it was never about anything besides power.
I have been consistently lied to about what this country has been and is.
We were founded on some great principals. And that whole balance of power thing has really done wonders for us and taken us a long, long way. With those principles and with the political inclusion that we have had, we’ve made a lot of progress! However, psychopaths gunna psycho and we seem to be good at enabling them.
We are the evil empire. To this day the abusive elite are out here holding the positions of power in our country and directing thefts and murders of all sorts of varieties and they do it all with my tax dollars and in my name. And I feel pretty fucking gross about that.

2026-07-03 22:26:24 UTC

2026 has been rough for my faith in humanity. But these two pictures are holding me together 💖
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2026-07-03 00:01:33 UTC

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I don't know. She posts a lot about political things. Are you into that?

2026-07-02 23:48:46 UTC

Yup
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2026-07-02 23:43:33 UTC

Modern day motherhood is miserable and that's why fewer women are choosing it.
If you want women to chose it, make it less miserable.
Why is it miserable? Because we are doing it all wrong. One woman alone in a house with small children all day is torture. That’s not how humans work. Humans are designed to live in a pack and raise children communally. If we want women to not be miserable raising kids, then we need to bring that community back. We need to take all that burden off them and share it around so that they can continue to be normal humans.
If women have to give up all that they are to have kids, then a lot of them will chose not to have kids.

2026-06-30 14:34:06 UTC

It’s a common trope and a line in many a song, but perhaps Missy Elliott said it best, “I don’t want no one minute man”. And equally popular is the dude bragging about his bedroom skills by saying he can “go all night”.
But really, who wants to go all night? Maybe on a special occasion you’ll get ambitious and want to go a few rounds… but all night? That’s just gunna hurt. That’s exhausting! And most ladies don’t want that.
So why is the shaming men for not lasting “all night” such a popular thing to do?
Because really “I don’t want no one minute man” translates to “I don’t want a selfish lover”. Generally speaking, it’s not that a woman wants a man with epic stamina, it’s more that she wants a man who pays attention to her pleasure. What she doesn’t want is a man that focuses on his pleasure and then just rolls over and goes to sleep completely forgetting that the female orgasm is a thing.
Dudes that worry about this one might enjoy this take. You don’t have to last all night or even an hour, that’s ridiculous, don’t worry about that, just don’t be a selfish lover.
If a man only lasts 30seconds, that might be interpreted as pathetic, or it might get interpreted as a complement. It’s what you do next that makes the difference.
❌ “That was fun. Good night.”
😶 “Wow you’re just so hot I couldn’t last!”
✅ “Wow you’re just so hot I couldn’t last! Now what can I do for you?”

2026-06-30 14:32:14 UTC

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2026-06-30 14:24:52 UTC

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The idea here is if you want women to have more babies, instead of trying to subjugate them... perhaps you support them instead? ya know like encourage fathers to be more involved in childcare. or encourage workplaces and restaurants, etc to be more child friendly. Make a world that doesn't isolate mothers!

2026-06-30 14:22:21 UTC

I don't want more humans, I think we have too much already. But for those who want to encourage more babies.... they are doing it all wrong! Sometimes I think the pro-natalism is just an excuse for subjugating women.
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2026-06-28 15:52:53 UTC

This morning I was out for a walk in the park and as I turned a corner I spotted an Iguana on the sidewalk up ahead. When it spotted me it freaked out a bit and scurried up a tree to get away from me. That bummed me out a bit. It was really cool looking and I wanted to get closer to it and maybe take a picture of it. But it’s behavior was totally understandable. I am a lot bigger than it. I’m capable of harming it. And while I know that I have zero interest in doing that and only wanted to admire how cool it looks, that creature has no way of knowing that I mean it no harm. There are people in Puerto Rico that hunt and eat Iguanas and I’ve seen people attempt to run them over with their cars. So given the limited information that Iguana had about me personally, it was of course making the wise decision to run away from me.
I did not take it’s behavior as a personal insult. I did not declare that Iguanas are waging a cultural war against humanity, I did not shout “Not all humans!” at the Iguana. I just gave it some space and went on with my day.

2026-06-27 14:44:27 UTC

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2026-06-27 13:57:07 UTC

I rarely count calories, but when I do, I'm pretty sure I should be able to deduct 10% at the end of the day to account for all the bites I gave my dogs.

2026-06-27 13:35:22 UTC

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2026-06-26 23:08:15 UTC

I think I've been to 20 different countries. Is that impressive or are those rookie numbers?

2026-06-25 16:44:53 UTC

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2026-06-24 21:18:40 UTC

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no you know what I mean. Opposite sides of the same coin.

2026-06-24 21:14:41 UTC

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"Women go through the trauma of telling their horrific story. They face doubt, shame, and public judgment.
Nikita Hand did that. In 2018 Conor McGregor raped her in a Dublin hotel. She was left shaken, crying and severely bruised.
A forensic examiner also said she had a 9cm scratch on her left breast and he had to use forceps to remove a tampon she had been wearing the previous night because it became ‘wedged inside’.
In 2024, a jury decided Conor McGregor was legally responsible for the rape and Nikita was given €248,000 in damages.
She told her story. And then she had to watch her rapist get invited on TV, celebrated, applauded and treated like a star.
The problem is not that women don’t report. The problem is that society keeps showing survivors that even when they come forward, powerful men can still be protected, promoted, and given a platform."

2026-06-24 14:54:37 UTC

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Based and woke are the same things. Not a fan of either.

2026-06-24 14:52:05 UTC

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2026-06-23 18:47:34 UTC

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sure, one recent example is a post on Facebook that said "Ladies, if you were a man for a day, what would you do?" And I said "Go for a walk by myself at night." and that then kicked it off. Then I get all the "You're paranoid", "stop hating on men", "men have to deal with danger too", on and on.

2026-06-23 16:14:22 UTC

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One of my personal favorite quotes...
"I myself have never been able to find out precisely what feminism is: I only know that people call me a feminist whenever I express sentiments that differentiate me from a doormat."
I personally find that whenever I express the idea that women are independent creatures who exist for their own purposes a bunch of people will jump in the comments to call me "feminist" ... whatever that may mean to them.
The word has been taken over by political madness. Best to avoid it all together.

2026-06-23 16:04:47 UTC

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Do you think women are people who have inherent rights?
Those who are committed to their righteous anger will not see reason. Politics will bind people to their righteous anger. You will not see that you are caught in that trap for an long as your anger brings you comfort.

2026-06-23 15:32:25 UTC

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2026-06-22 17:35:45 UTC

Socratic Seminar #26 from @nprofile…qxte is this Wednesday!
We've also got a new website. Checkout the topic list here https://sanjuanbitdevs.org/2026-06-24-socratic-seminar-26

2026-06-22 13:39:25 UTC

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2026-06-19 18:38:18 UTC

understanding ≠ agreement

2026-06-18 23:01:38 UTC

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Huh, no I haven't noticed that. Sometimes its the other way. For example el problema = "the problem" and is masculine lol
But I don't know a lot of slang. What is an example?

2026-06-18 21:25:26 UTC

So Peter Theil has this deep state group called "Dialog" where regulators and business leaders hangout together. And at one of their recent gatherings was a panel titled "Build-a-Cult" moderated by the founder of the Christian networking platform Pray dot com
Unfortunately, that sounds about right.

2026-06-18 19:30:36 UTC

Sometimes when someone says something atrocious I’ll call them on it and be like “that’s not cool” and then they’ll get all pissy and be like “well you’re not any fun”. And I’m just like, bro, do you not know how to have a good time with out doing some gay bashing? Is homophobia a prerequisite to your enjoyment?

2026-06-18 19:25:57 UTC

Being the constant rebel is just as pathetic as being the conformist. Either way your behavior is dictated by others.

2026-06-18 16:48:07 UTC

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2026-06-18 16:41:32 UTC

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2026-06-18 15:35:03 UTC

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well thanks, but there will be lots of other stuff as well, cuz I'm a complete and complex human.

2026-06-18 15:30:56 UTC

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2026-06-15 14:22:02 UTC

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so if they deny that the problem exists then they don't have to do the protecting and risk the consequences of that?

2026-06-15 13:44:06 UTC

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so ... men don't want to protect cuz they don't want to end up in jail?

2026-06-15 13:35:18 UTC

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2026-06-15 13:33:07 UTC

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Netanyahu is a fucking monster. You gotta have some understanding for civilians who are caught up in fear and making poor choices to support this monster.

2026-06-15 13:26:52 UTC

I love the idea of men as protectors, it’s a task that they are generally well suited to. Men in general are taller, have more upper body strength, etc. And a very honorable thing to do with physical strength is to protect others.
However, men actually doing protecting is pretty rare, at least in my life experience. The most common way that a man, who in theory wants to be a protector, fails to protect, is by not believing that there is a threat to protect from.
I have known so many men in my life that I’m pretty sure are not predators themselves, and who in many areas of life are decent and reasonable people, that for some reason shut down on this topic.
Unfortunately, being sexually assaulted is very much the norm for women in the world. It has certainly been my experience in life, and also the experience for nearly 100% of the women that I know. And it’s not just anecdotal data here, there are just mountains and mountains of studies that all tell this story as well. The evidence is overwhelming.
When I talk to these men about these things I do not accuse them personally of any wrong doing. I do not say ugly things about men in general. I do not advocate the removal of any rights from men. When I am talking to these men I am looking for understanding, but that seems to be the one thing they can’t give. They just shut down and go into defense mode and I don’t know why.
So if you have any idea, please please tell me, why are there so many seemingly decent men out there who can not/will not see this reality? What is going on here?

2026-06-14 14:31:18 UTC

I hate the phrase "nothing good happens after midnight."
My dear, do you have any idea how many of the most amazing moments of my life happened after midnight!?!?!

2026-06-14 14:27:02 UTC

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This is also a reference to unpaid domestic labor. Dishwashing, laundry, cooking, cleaning, event planning, etc. etc. And we have to remember that just a few generations back this work was very difficult, no dish washing machine, no clothes washing machine, clothes were mended and washed by hand, a garden wasn't for flowers it was for food, food that then had to be canned, on and on. women and mothers have always been working women and mothers.

2026-06-14 12:36:13 UTC

I don't like the collectivist language here. I didn't fight to get paid, at least not in this life, that happened well before my time. But I am so very grateful to the women that did fight to get paid, cuz yes, women and mothers have always worked.
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2026-06-13 14:50:20 UTC

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Well not the men that I know.
I know a man that used to be a body builder. At the height he very much looked like this picture. ...and he ate unseasoned chicken breast, and measured the exact amount of water he was allowed to drink each day, etc. etc.