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Last Notes npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller So many people have so many judgements about how people get out of abusive relationships or what they do in the process. The reality is that no one actually knows what you went through. They don't get to judge you about decisions they never had to make and we don't have to listen if they do. npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Not an easy subject to talk about. Suicide Prevention Awareness month is September. Glad to see how many people showed up in the community to support and talk. Showing up is a big deal for people in our lives. Grateful for those who show up in any way they can. It makes a difference! npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Lots of work over many months. Finally done with all the major things that needed to be done to be safe and ready for the kids to play on it. Feels good to actually see the progress. I'm wore out in this video and probably look that way too. Actually finished it yesterday evening. Thanks for following on this journey with me. It was also amazing and rewarding to see the kids so excited to play on it and explore. npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller This is so true! It's magic when it happens. All the good feels. npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Most of the way there, or almost done usually means still a lot of work to go. 🤣 Lots of hours into this project, but it's been cool to see it coming together. Lots of problem solving along the way, which is also super fun. After you get it figured out anyway.🤷♂️ npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Actually not day 2🤣, but day 2 of assembling it. Lots of days before to get here. Finally putting it together though. Now I get to figure out how to mount everything back together and what new hardware and reinforcement I need to make it solid and safe. npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller It was no big deal thanks to all the amazing people who showed up to help. Thank you to everyone! The major part is done and now I get to finish putting everything together. 🤣🤷🤦 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Not my regular content. Working on getting this playhouse put together. Lots of work to get here and still lots of work to get this done. Super excited to finally be done with it though. Hopefully tomorrow it's finished. npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Got an amazing new sticker from my little brother for my new coffee mug. Still miss my old coffee mug, but I'm learning to embrace the new one and find some stickers. 🤷 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Most people have no idea what actually goes on behind the scenes in an abusive relationship. It doesn't make sense how someone could just pack up and leave with or without their kids. This is never a simple decision for anyone. We could all use a little more kindness and compassion and understanding in these situations. https://blossom.primal.net/7e457d1643c45cd5b3afdcfd1021cba1bbd97c604ef28b3e37405d707889c004.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Everything we say or do will be used against us by abusive people. We're probably saying too much and that's ok. It's not easy to learn to say less. Be kind to yourself as you learn to do this. https://blossom.primal.net/56e24998c7561ee8e73f7f317c9504d6b99261909aedd2cdeaf6103b64e18aaa.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Abusive people don't see anyone else as their own person. They only view people for what they can get from them. We also don't have to participate in their illusion or games. We get to choose what we want to do in our lives. npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Abusive people want to destroy our lives and they'll use our children to do it. Just know this is what they do, but it's not about you really. You're just the target for them in the moment. Responding to them as little as possible is best and only through text. Also be sure to document everything. As always be kind to yourself always! https://blossom.primal.net/90111f191d11cd706ff87da7c2b6d940d893974e96aee71f708e95b2e4ac82ac.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller We often blame and shame ourselves for not knowing sooner we were in an abusive relationship. This is the residue we're still carrying from the abusive relationship. It's not easy, but we get to learn to let go of this and focus on the new life we have now. Then we get to live it! https://blossom.primal.net/2d7e454f0d88da1012f8de55a9aa943064904992d3ef64c54de82772c1f37156.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller We don't usually see how people were using us until after we're done with the relationship. It's easy to beat ourselves up for not seeing it sooner. The reality is we only see and understand things when we do. Being kind to ourselves as we figure it out is essential. https://blossom.primal.net/0970b391ad14c8d00595c047188ae60bdc254aed5f1052eefa826f98f83a491e.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Abusive people only want power and control. They don't care about anything else. They will complain about not having enough time with their kids, while also not taking their kids for their time. Not that it's quality time they spend with their kids anyway. https://blossom.primal.net/dfd9831d466fd53a138ac0be2377a3a69ad08e8014f653214a54b945d053390e.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Often the only thing we can do is focus on ourselves and our lives and hope the stars align to hold abusive people accountable. This is important because it allows us to move forward and live our lives no matter what happens. This isn't easy, but staying stuck isn't either. Focus on what you can do in your life and let the rest go. https://blossom.primal.net/b42553949f9705cdf389d3c9c5e64608a48658cfd63076f584d5e188fefc48dd.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller They'll do anything to hurt us including burn their own life down. You can also figure a way out of the most impossible situations. It almost always requires help and support. There are also people who are ready and willing to help. Ask for and allow them to be there for you. https://blossom.primal.net/07317f43c60275f5d4524a728e6a9794ddfbce30b44517107ce3f1b0a8623e20.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Rats are after cheese or food and we all know this. They also don't try to hide it either. Abusive people try to hide the fact they are after power and control and winning. Doing the work for ourselves is essential because it allows us to see this before we're stuck in a toxic relationship. https://blossom.primal.net/95875bd9d7401bdc79ff2054ccd69874f10cb740204694b3d1bb46c905a63688.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Therapy for kids and for ourselves is amazing. Even if they're toxic or unhealthy, sometimes parents will send their kids anyway. Grateful when people get support and help no matter why. npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller It's important to not only know about what care your child gets, but also to be able to be there when it's happening. This is one of the only times I would maybe recommend being in the same therapy room with an abusive person. It's so you know what is being said, but also so you can set straight any lies or manipulation an abusive is trying to persuade a counselor with. https://blossom.primal.net/1d51c47fde38024b2572bfba24263383bd6e8a36fb0562660e67f2aa7fa019d8.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Abusive, controlling people will always try to control everything including taking their kid to counseling. Especially if that means the other parent can't. Figuring out how to manage these situations is important. Managing ourselves is even more important. https://blossom.primal.net/f3a1921570d892df93815ce09bdb7e97ad9a757585c07f92bece2c60d566fcd8.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Healing and growth often feel like a roller coaster we're getting thrown out of. It's not easy, but it's not always disaster even when it feels like it. Whether we actually have things we need to deal with in life or not. We can always deal with them better when we work through our emotions around them. It allows us the space to learn and grow and handle anything life throws at us. https://blossom.primal.net/1dc28dc7d05d10134a6b5619a6ab7765e5fa9665033e6155edec4780a8a6e2e8.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Children are often forgotten in the process of parents going through high conflict divorces and abusive partners. It's important for everyone to do the healing work, even more for anyone with kids. We are sometimes the only person who can model what a healthy person looks like. I know this isn't easy. Simply keep moving forward, one step at a time. https://blossom.primal.net/011d3bc05b99d443f3e1a8aa366c77b18c6c35db1bc3fdfe786351aca8ac0e6e.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller The most important thing is to recognize the toxic people. Then we can set and hold boundaries and remove them from our lives. Being kind to ourselves is essential because it allows us to learn from these experiences. This helps us to be more aware of toxic people sooner. https://blossom.primal.net/2ed8174fee06d3d9bd81fb3dd921b5371eaccdecf33b6dc15efc71c8d8b4618e.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Ridiculous lawsuits and keeping us perpetually in court is what abusive people do. It's just another layer of things they use to try to gain more power and control over us. Document everything and do the work to heal. All of this helps, but it still won't be easy. https://blossom.primal.net/ac532a931b6970a05bc456feac8c25cf97577e80b49c56ed9d36970afe76ffaa.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller If we spent as much time and energy helping people who have gone through abuse as we do fighting with each other about who is more abusive. We would live in a very different world. Let's focus on the things that actually matter, not blaming everyone else. https://blossom.primal.net/087ada9b5c0830db1ce1760d778b46a7506a234231564639676eb329208ec59a.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Abusive people only want one thing. Power and control. They don't want to be good parents or have good relationships, they just want power and control. They will also do anything they need to, including burning their own life down, to accomplish this. https://blossom.primal.net/7e4479745a00d0b6b14caa9fab13b09129b4dd96448ab4b44c35b292c1fe4fae.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller The children are unfortunately often forgotten in and after abusive relationships. Often the help they get isn't as good as the adults get, which isn't enough already. It's another heartbreaking thing to unravel for a parent who's been fighting for survival. https://blossom.primal.net/0c635824aa5276c1cb17851cf3f81fe62882a7a7e2b5ad3997c614660bd052d1.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Narcissists show their true selves at the end of the relationship, or in discard phases. It still may be subtle, but they show they don't care about you. They think they own us and everything else. This is a lie we don't need to accept! https://blossom.primal.net/df55e7ca5352aaf18e1a7f6f31d188bb4f0b69b05fbe49058bb52ddfb396a37f.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Any way we can get out of an abusive situation, especially with our kids is great. Making sure we aren't breaking any laws of course. They don't and won't fight fair. This means we have to be more calculated and a little more ruthless in order to not get screwed even more than we already have. https://blossom.primal.net/9d5516c6bffb570537d1ae681464a4621247adce4669596debfeb5ec11b18768.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Many people shut down and we lose credibility with them when we use terms that have been overused and misused. It's not that I don't want people to talk about the abuse they've gone through, but quite the opposite. It's that I want people to actually listen and help when we do. https://blossom.primal.net/da971a209a43c829f3b3b3170b76289d5ca0a9a9d9ba8b5ed599962b6f73d994.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller I don't always feed the trolls, although it's definitely entertaining sometimes. I know it comes with the territory. I also know I'd rather put energy into the people who need it and deserve it. https://blossom.primal.net/99adcbc6464bf5425aaf717448eb37736f244e5adb788987c3a2c62a8bf8d95d.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Haters are gonna hate and they show up everywhere unfortunately. I respond because I understand some people are struggling and that's why they lash out. I also respond to show how you can respond, even to hate, in a kind respectful way. I also don't tolerate it and will block them. The important thing to remember is that it will affect our emotions and that's ok. We simply need to make sure we take the time to work through them. https://blossom.primal.net/fbff6cfcdb3a2b101ae724536ae55dac8b03f9a9ce7545494dde42fe29569ba8.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller We all get to learn and grow from each other. Hopefully it helps with healing, but it definitely brings more connection, which is amazing. It gives me hope and I hope it does for others too. It's also a great distraction from any other garbage in the world. https://blossom.primal.net/c40fc544681649928e1ed31fa1395026b32d4f9d40952187af4a66a248cab7ce.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Don't use terms like narcissist or gaslighting in court or other places you are trying to get help from. They're overused and often misused terms. Many people struggle with believing our stories, or understanding what we went through. Instead give specific examples of what happened in plain language or using specific terms and examples like coercive control. This will help more people understand what actually happened and they'll be more likely to listen. https://blossom.primal.net/7d70fda69e742cfa1986cca6bc62a56ed6528efe7348ca2a0ea12397376ffd2f.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Narcissists simply want to fight and to control our lives. If that means using the court and their children, they'll use all of it without care for any damage it causes. Yet another reason most people don't fight for much else other than survival and the right to raise their kids. https://blossom.primal.net/236479aacaaf19d26becf617827de9202154a3ad6e1240500864ae56c2e1bd94.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller For anyone who questions why we didn't want to fight for our stuff, or in court, or even for justice. It's because we've used every bit of energy we had and more fighting for survival. What's worse is we're usually still fighting to survive daily life after we get out. That's why. https://blossom.primal.net/00e084c39a6ba2949573359e62bd336ffb8b0a1b298458b194a89c82b9d76d35.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Abusive people won't ever give anything up including the power and control over us. These are all things we must take for ourselves. It's not easy, but it's worth it and it's the only way we get our lives back. https://blossom.primal.net/875f246438a6cd2b7f6d53e4a21a992242bac706cd1aa5e1de64f3285c89a660.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Not everyone struggling or in misery is miserable or stuck. Many people move through it, whether fast or slow. Some people choose to be in it and they want to drag everyone else into it too. I choose not to spend time with these people. I also hope they choose at some point to work through it too! https://blossom.primal.net/d2ed614a415455a6bad7769fdab026ceb4252837293a3c53304a16870d7e9372.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Toxic people think they can walk back into our lives whenever they want and get whatever they want. This is completely BS! We don't owe them anything more than what was agreed to when we separated. They are simply looking for ways to force themselves back into our lives and control and push our boundaries. We don't need to allow them to! https://blossom.primal.net/7ce8013b2bb98949bd6ded2d6e174e8fdb8387abced85017d447aba52816ed84.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Many organizations of all kinds want us to fight and argue with each other and buy into their belief systems. This keeps us buying their products and it shuts down conversations about everything. The connection, community and conversation is one of the most important things in our lives. The more of this we have, the less of everything else we actually need. https://blossom.primal.net/73938cc62e76a7c132d72d98208664be2b89bd2819cf958ed9432ca11f1b8fde.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Abusive relationships in any form leave marks far beyond any physical ones we ever see. They also hold us back in more ways than most of us recognize. It's essential to get the support and do the work to heal and release those wounds. This is what I do. Help you let go of what you've gone through so you can step into a life you truly love!❤️ npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller It's not about working or trying harder, it's always about releasing the things holding us back. There are also many layers to this. Becoming aware of it is the first step. We can't change anything we're unaware of. Releasing the things holding us back is always easier than pushing harder, especially when we don't actually need to. https://blossom.primal.net/997439c0168196026e024705b565597b18d34c5ce42bf6554283961bd74cdbcf.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller So many people think they've done the work, and many of them have. The reality is there is always more work to do. If we are not where we want to be in our lives and relationships, there is still more work to do. It doesn't mean we're broken or there's something wrong, it simply means there are still things we can work through, if or when we want to. https://blossom.primal.net/85c96255681aa67e49c03cee1bd5ce5aff80b90002b356433cff596762c9ef5d.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Abusive people don't want to let us go. Keeping ourselves safe is essential. Only communicating when we absolutely have to is best and through text or email, rather than phone calls. No is a complete sentence and we don't owe anyone an explanation. https://blossom.primal.net/5806bfe2290b714f49fb0d21001025fcdd24c67dc71bc30d55952949ae65eb3f.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Most people I think are doing ok on the outside. I also know that in a deeper conversation many of them are struggling with finding or being in healthy relationships, or really loving the work they do. All of these things are affected by our emotional health and capacity. Working on this is life altering in the best way! https://blossom.primal.net/e29a70f5ec479a2853a93a569263f4318c925aa582196e64182fced1800ee369.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Fun is one of those underrated things especially for those of us on healing journeys. It's probably one of the most essential things we can do for our healing journey. It's also one of the things that was often ruined by the abusive people in our lives. Take the time today to go do something fun! https://blossom.primal.net/32eef6e5102f0a7773b54dcdc4cd80c1c1aa40f4a8eac5820821fbfb37aa7065.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller We're afraid of the shame and judgement from others even after we've removed the abusive person from our lives. Awareness is the way out of this. The key is to be extremely kind and compassionate with ourselves as we gain this awareness. This is the way forward in your life! https://blossom.primal.net/3068b8db8307e09021f96f53b604f5404732ecafb9ab6c4dd021e745e7cfb8b8.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller We all have coping mechanisms whether we want to admit to them or not. Laughing it off is a regular coping mechanism for many people I think and it's a good one. I also think we can all be kind no matter the situation we're in to ourselves and everyone else. https://blossom.primal.net/90a603a95f0379f55189cf3bcfc123cad3599f3e6a9071bea2436837d1651908.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller I may get some hate for this and there may be some drama. It's also a perspective I've had for a long time and it's served me well. I understand that many people may feel judged about this, but that's not the point of the video. The point is that we can choose our perspective on things in our lives. https://blossom.primal.net/552d9a87198629d8e16b9cc21c6f76b695f5fb0fcdfc3004d3684c6d800fd77f.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller We know what we want in our lives, but many of us struggle to allow it into our lives. This is often because of the unhealed wounds we are carrying. It's the biggest thing I see holding most people back. As we heal these wounds, it makes everything better in our lives. https://blossom.primal.net/3c03e0bb626c6ab2ab5993fbd992e119bdc6b4035fa4bd1b9c98150a6c0a8c60.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller I got to talk with a client I haven't talked to in a long time. I was incredibly grateful to hear how well they are doing now. Many of us think this work is about working through all the hard times and the struggles, and part of it is. The point, though, is to work through and release those things to allow us to really live our lives. This is the point and the gift of this work. Living our lives without carrying so much of what has weighed us down for too long. https://blossom.primal.net/4fea92d8ff7c9e5d5f29e4fe00968e5548ac9fc2596910839a6f3e24b31e267f.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller It seems absolutely crazy what people go through in abusive relationships, except it's often true. What we actually go through is often worse than what we initially believe ourselves. It doesn't mean it didn't happen. We can all use a little more kindness and compassion from everyone including ourselves. You know what you experienced. Good caring people will believe you and support you in healing and moving forward with your life! https://blossom.primal.net/96ad5c01710a3e862cdb59a6cb603f723573364803229db23f0256826cfecaa8.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller It often takes a lot of time and work for us to realize how much we were controlled, even though it seemed normal. It's also not always easy to be kind to ourselves when we realize we're also holding ourselves back or waiting for permission to live our lives. https://blossom.primal.net/9121e803db069f21f2743572f8f9b037ebe7bb5f49ebbca1cd1a716f32eb33d3.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller We all need a reminder once in a while of how amazing we are. Also that kindness is one of the most important things we all deserve, especially from ourselves. Much love to all!❤️ https://blossom.primal.net/c14bc19bc745911122418320b3e03fd0b6ec345c95c12a09198f4a74eddb151c.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller It wasn't just that we weren't allowed to do things in abusive relationships. It was also that we could do them, but it would cause a fight or other drama. Most of us held back from doing things we wanted to so we didn't make our lives worse. https://blossom.primal.net/191ad58b3635ddf42e870681938a2e2f8909ff31e59ae5419e158877f2c03c41.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller It takes a different amount of time and a different process for everyone on their healing journey. Comparing or judging ourselves or others is not helpful and almost always holds us back from the life we want. https://blossom.primal.net/4b6c6d9b15f814b4fa1410da566a9ba44d68ed96c6d3761a779dfbc25731bcfd.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Being kind to ourselves does not mean we don't have boundaries. That's one of the differences between being nice and being kind. Being kind includes saying no to ourselves or anyone else. https://blossom.primal.net/7b76d0b459dd142dda634d468ac6a8d3c117eec5981dd54f552b7ef9eca722de.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller We can definitely make the attempt to change the world. I know without a doubt that we can change our world though. It all starts with being kind to ourselves! https://blossom.primal.net/9e4f1f3bc5564869cdeae77a88c3b88b5383ecb919449113e25235014fb3e98e.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Shoutout to Gib at Blubird Pizzaria in Pocatello, ID. They always make amazing stuff! This one was one of the hottest things I've ever gotten and I couldn't finish it in one sitting. That's hot AF!🥵 Love the food and the people are amazing too! Go check them out if you haven't yet! https://blossom.primal.net/822abf505d1bc35011063fdb069dbcfc441ea8fea175f3513ef6b229bb095421.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Kindness literally unlocks everything in our lives. It allows us to move forward and makes everything easier. The lack of this holds us back in every single area of our lives. We can't beat ourselves into the life we truly want, even if it works in the short term. The only way we get it and keep it is through being kind. https://blossom.primal.net/d3031c8b83651ba8364e8f997758d939f12d479df9dba6319aabcccf827ea11b.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Sometimes the very thing we use for self care can also be the thing we use to avoid our emotions. This is especially true when we have heavy uncomfortable feelings. Ask yourself whether you are doing what you need for self care or using this to avoid or distract yourself from your emotions. npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller It's not easy to sit and do nothing. We were trained and programmed this wasn't ok and definitely wasn't safe. Allowing ourselves to do this requires working through the emotions behind it and being kind to ourselves through the process. https://blossom.primal.net/7ee2e324ec99939379a31478478c95d0d084438ffb0858b9c37e68418408db65.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Allowing yourself the possibility of so many amazing things you want to do in your life is a skill we all can develop. The more we release the past, the more space we make for all the things we want to do. npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller There are so many little things that we don't usually think about or talk about that are part of the healing process. Decorating our own place and being able to sing in our own space are great examples of these things. The big things are important, but all the little things are also important. https://blossom.primal.net/8bc6a0c28d3d267d1f62f70a89fdb927d90f337955098146ef2be3eecdb1a4ac.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Doing things for ourselves to help us feel more safe and at peace is a good thing no matter what anyone else says about it. It still sucks that we need to do this. It's better than not feeling safe though. https://blossom.primal.net/5f540192c9b4a6a525e777ec742bcc85f224f38222be780eb9e155a2af3f1841.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Doing things for ourselves to help us feel more safe and at peace is a good thing no matter what anyone else says about it. It still sucks that we need to do this. It's better than not feeling safe though. https://blossom.primal.net/5f540192c9b4a6a525e777ec742bcc85f224f38222be780eb9e155a2af3f1841.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Adjusting the thermostat is something we should all be able to do in our own homes especially to make us comfortable. I also realize this and many other things are not things we could do in abusive relationships. I also know this is a struggle for many people even when we're no longer being controlled, until we do the work of healing. https://blossom.primal.net/427c0522a4486d57e4d18b3b072d43d713c89fc88855565413ee4fea09abd77c.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller For many of us it took a lot of time and work before we realized and started changing many things in our lives. Some of us were looking for permission to do things. Either way, it was uncomfortable to just decide and do something for ourselves in our lives. How long did it take you to start doing things for you? https://blossom.primal.net/2ad1b1c6c6e0a76f43dab1475830e75e2333f6477a8ea5c8f8d44d397686b050.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller So many things hold us back from living our lives and doing the things we want. I certainly have done this more than I care to admit. I also know I'm continually learning to simply live my life anyway. It doesn't mean we don't have struggles or challenges. It simply means we choose to live our lives anyway. https://blossom.primal.net/83ae9346a7b9a9236c17c96a066ab62fb581a5a498b82b74d033aff54943215e.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller It's so much easier to bring awareness to the things that are holding us back in our lives, rather than simply try harder. Effort, skills and learning is important, but everything will still be a struggle until we release what's holding us back. It's almost always emotional things holding us back and they are usually just outside of our conscious awareness. https://blossom.primal.net/7b0b4beba5812ce7686a0a14b1befa9c2f6206325728c3cc37cb0e27ffc6d8c7.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Got my window motor replaced on my truck and it's working. I realized I was going to say finally, which usually carries some shame. I am calling myself out for this so hopefully it helps everyone else recognize another subtle way we beat ourselves up. Be kind to yourself, no matter how long things take. https://blossom.primal.net/79f28352981442249b03d44b66e68b936885531c81feb5c42af47be3801aa6af.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller We only need to own what is ours. We don't ever need to accept any one else's garbage. Before blaming, judging or beating yourself up, ask if it's actually yours to own. Either way, be kind to yourself! https://blossom.primal.net/67fc2a93bdef540918174b85c8100c2a25b12fe1968e81e324cf4818a8ee5813.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller we can be better and angry and focus on all the things that we don't want. or we can focus on the things we do want and let go of everything else. it's very hard to try and do both of these things at the same time and that will also keep us stuck. npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Until we work on healing the wounds in ourselves, we will remain finding the same people we've always found. When we begin healing these wounds, we also begin finding more of the people we've wanted in our lives. It's not easy, but it's absolutely worth it and it's something every single person can do!! https://blossom.primal.net/3c3d945e94b2b0d7f54122d31279f6d206734cb612d41452f044979508707538.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Too many people are stuck in their life and it seems like all they see and happens in their life is bad things from bad people. This isn't a coincidence. It's also something we get to change if we really want a better life and better relationships. It's ok no matter where you are, but we don't want to stay stuck there. As always, be kind to yourself along your journey. https://blossom.primal.net/fc8567da906a1b561301059bc0eff3a79b35548d44c30c29251af511f972c361.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Coercion is not consent no matter how anyone wants to try to twist it! Good, genuine people will not try to convince you or persuade you into doing something you don't want to do, even if they think it's the best thing for you. Good people actually care about you and will allow you to make your own decisions of your own free will! https://blossom.primal.net/d5cec9e1204fec960c5178900b6acdbb3a7e2c1506cd22f4164368a9ee202258.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Almost nothing is more triggering than a healthy person in our lives after being in abusive relationships. It doesn't mean anything has gone wrong even though it definitely feels like everything is going wrong. Be kind to yourself through this process and take the time and space you need.https://blossom.primal.net/872928f4193ccf2bf712966383b6e4255e1901b1c1e22af7b043655569782bcf.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller So many of us feel hurt and unseen in the abuse we've been through. The problem is we then lash out at others when they share their experiences, rather than being willing or able to show up for each other. This holds us back and the world in many ways from moving forward. Be kind to everyone! ♥️ npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Narcissists are simply after power and control. Everyone else, even when they have dysfunctional tendencies are driven by the desire for love and connection. https://blossom.primal.net/f6bcac532c35abdb629157a7675702eae10995c6e79b79e714adeb708efa056a.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller We don't all have narcissistic tendencies! We probably all have dysfunctional tendencies, but I don't think they are narcissistic. There's a big difference between having dysfunctional tendencies and them actually being narcissistic. Just a clip from a great presentation I did. npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Leaving abusive relationships is one of the hardest things we can do. It often feels incredibly lonely and even more isolating than the relationship was. It's not something we have to do alone though. There are people who are ready and willing to help and support you. We are some of these people. npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller So many of us are waiting to feel safe or for the right time to do the things we want or need to do. It's probably never going to feel safe unfortunately. It will feel less dangerous, the more safety we develop inside of ourselves. We don't have to wait for things to change in our lives, we can move forward anyway and find the resources to help. https://blossom.primal.net/74ccdcb51a214c5e825c3cb9d9669532b743b1b33ab106cdec6b41738de6ba3d.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller There are skills and awareness you can build to help you spot toxic people in your life. There are also skills you can learn to not let them affect you as much and even repel them. You can also learn how to bring good people into your life. These are all skills that can be learned and we can help. npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller We are now offering group coaching! So excited to be finally doing this and to also have another amazing coach I've partnered with on this. Amanda is amazing and you will have the chance to get to know her and be coached by her as well. She brings extra balance to everything I already do. npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Emotional abuse looks different than other abuse. One thing that often shows up is not being able to talk to our partner. Whether you don't feel safe to talk with them, or it simply never changes anything. This is a sign of a major problem in the relationship. This is when it's essential to get help! We don't have to figure it out or work through it on our own. npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller If you can't talk to your partner or anyone else about struggles or abusive situations, there's a fundamental problem with the relationship. This is just part of the conversation we had about the hard things we go through and why it's so essential to have support in healing. We are also partnering to offer group coaching now. A much more affordable way to get the support we all need. Come join us. You don't have to do this alone! npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Great interview with Tammy about the Energy Healing Conference. We had a great conversation about so many things. Breathwork can help with working through and healing trauma and so many other things. https://blossom.primal.net/f303928630c01cc18373539ebef68c067ad720d7737e373536efabcc8ebb32bd.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Great interview with Tammy about the Energy Healing Conference. We had a great conversation about so many things. Breathwork is one of the amazing tools we can learn and is so helpful for so many people. What have been your experiences with it? https://blossom.primal.net/3edddf957ca13ae969d4a73735315a680bd1101e4e208693df01743104064300.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Great interview with Tammy about the Energy Healing Conference. We had a great conversation about so many things. Trying new things in our lives is so important especially if what we're doing hasn't been working. We can find the things that work for us if we are simply open to trying them. https://blossom.primal.net/726631241c86ee1f0f830fa75a81afa429b881fd7c5996081850d17fd66748ac.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller You can work with me and you don't even need to listen to me sing.🤣 We don't have to face it or do the work or get help, but we'll have to deal with it until we do. I realize it's very individual for everyone and not everyone is ready to do the work or get help and that's ok. Be kind to yourself no matter where you are in life. https://blossom.primal.net/5eb37cea5ad4f32437032abb8465be2108a433e76e6070e3e14297f7c604a820.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Keep or make your logins safe folks. It's no big deal until someone takes over your account and you don't have a way to get it back. Secure passwords you don't reuse and don't store in a google doc or similar. Many more things as well. It doesn't solve everything, but it makes us a harder target. https://blossom.primal.net/a84637dd0a5737834091ea21830a915987b91acc3b8e676c28a38cc77537ec25.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller We avoid so many things in our lives because of the emotions we feel, or the ones we might feel in the process of doing things. Cleaning up messes is one of those things that pile up and we avoid. Often it's not the time or the effort, it's the emotions around it we're avoiding.https://blossom.primal.net/a792403cfe5e552e69e641fee4e33d08694288f136c76ad69ad91a2ca4abee76.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Overwhelm is something most of us have experienced. We usually think it's too much going on in our lives. This isn't actually true. It's actually the way we are thinking about everything happening in our lives. The most important thing is the awareness and being kind to ourselves. https://blossom.primal.net/1f15a7fa0491f6b536042b6f130105c7f6691549a587bfc1efc2289b69e92c10.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller I am so excited! npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller I am so excited to be teaching a class with Birch & Stone Coaching Collective. The class will be on weaving kindness and compassion into relationships. The date is Sunday, July 5th at 4pm ET. Come join me for an amazing class! Signature Members attend Free, or $15 Drop-in for non-signature members. Register here: https://www.birchandstonecoaching.com/offers/n6qMX5zZ https://blossom.primal.net/febbf9283f9bad7b345cd9959005d92c6c2f126d108b6d705d485d829df9010e.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller I'll be giving my business overview tomorrow at Connect Idaho from 1130 to 1pm at Puerta Vallarta in Pocatello, ID June 24th. Come join an amazing group of people and talk about business and your business too! The food is also amazing!! https://blossom.primal.net/04116919af7b2874c4a83a483aa943c9d5e83dc3b6a38d239ba5e5e207a50a8d.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller You gonna come have lunch with us?! I hope so. It's on Wednesday June 24th from 1130 to 1 at Puerta Vallarta in Pocatello, ID. It's an amazing group of people and you get to talk about your business too!! Looking forward to seeing everyone there! https://blossom.primal.net/57d19da8112695565d22c4ffa03e2c2ce58a45db65c5fa54e2d408ced4510415.mp4 npub1qupwscvtm4d2u7xl6mwz947z7wav5jhy2zjjelyx69geug0vxfdsp3na9r KyleMiller Happy Father's Day to all the amazing dads out there. Thank you for being an amazing example for everyone! Thank you to all those who fill the role of a Father as well. You are all amazing and we need you in this world! Much love to all!❤️ https://blossom.primal.net/9703fa24964b4e672281cd88db73b3dd48d6ac832cd401ab9b05bb5b115fad1f.mp4
