s3x_SOCIAL

Join our sex-positive, #LGBT friendly, #porn friendly Nostr relay ( https://relay.s3x.social )! Our site is a work in progress, but our aim is to help the adult industry and the LGBT community get up to speed on Nostr. 🏳️‍🌈

Public Key

npub1k27tyhsg9hqqy2zm7lgxk9n3kafsy8e7x6du6hnes8q65mr2aslqn3vmmj

NIP-05 Address

s3x.social

Profile Code

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relay.damus.io

relay.snort.social

adult.18plus.social

nostr.mutinywallet.com

eden.nostr.land

relay.s3x.social

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2023-11-09 22:52:21 UTC

A bill has been introduced in #Ohio which will criminalize #porn and make it a misdemeanor to use a #VPN (!)
https://www.clevescene.com/news/proposed-ohio-porn-age-verification-bill-raises-serious-civil-liberties-concerns-42996253
While the GOP was able to get some Democrats on board for some of the (unconstitutional) anti-porn bills recently - I would hope Democrats can see how egregious this bill is and it will go nowhere. 🤞
The next 12–18 months are critical for #FreedomOfExpression
#Project2025 #AmericanTaliban #FirstAmendment

2023-11-09 22:31:41 UTC

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lol. That would be a very first world version of an apocalypse. Gaza is far closer to a real apocalypse.

2023-10-12 14:25:33 UTC

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Short version of a long story is that 5 months ago I had a stroke which interrupted my Nostr work. I’m kinda just getting back to it now.
One issue with the relay seems to be payment. I’m in NY, so can’t use what most relay owners use (ZBD). I thought I had another solution working, but need to test it more.
Feel free to hit me up with specific questions/problems.

2023-06-20 20:30:17 UTC

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Tomorrow is naked hiking day, so go for it!

2023-06-20 15:52:56 UTC

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I have yet to meet some who says that who truly “loves the sinner”. Not saying they don’t exist, but…

2023-05-11 22:22:11 UTC

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On my priority list is a website that just sets them up, explains things to them, and then hands them off to a full-fledged client.
They’re used to web interfaces. I can set up their profile, their relays, their NIP-05, and a starter follow list, and even guide them through setting up for Lightning.
The idea is they don’t need to understand any of those terms to get set up.
BTW, Nostr really needs a style manual where we define better terms than “NIP-05 validation”…

2023-05-10 15:23:22 UTC

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Q: How long to do allow new users to use welcome.nostr.wine?

2023-05-09 12:44:40 UTC

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(I responded from the wrong account… Sorry if that seems confusing. I'll also be doing 2 years for this account in a week or two…)

2023-05-09 12:41:53 UTC

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Does now long you've had the sats in your wallet have any effect?
Yesterday I did USD → BTC in Cash App then did Cash App → WoS. Then immediately tried to buy the filter.wine renewal. And it failed.
Initially I was doing Iris on my Mac, paying with QR code from my phone. Tried that a few times. Then tried from Damus, but Damus tried to open Cash App, so I copy and pasted the invoice details into WoS, but it failed. Tried again a few hours later failed then too.
This morning I tried again and it worked fine .

2023-05-06 21:56:49 UTC

Good people shine a light in dark places…
“Florida mayors sign pledge to support LGBTQ+ youth”
https://www.lgbtqnation.com/2023/05/florida-mayors-sign-pledge-to-support-lgbtq-youth/

2023-05-05 03:04:31 UTC

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I’m also having NOS crash a lot. Let me know how to get and submit the logs.

2023-05-04 13:45:10 UTC

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I run the beta of iOS, so I've been through a number of RSR updates the past few months. It's actually a really good idea.

2023-05-03 16:48:35 UTC

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I should add a couple things since this thread just got pushed by @npub180c…h6w6 …
For starters my vision is that…
- Anyone can be a moderator
- The user chooses what, if any filtering happens to their feed by choosing their own moderators.
It's fully described here…
https://s3x.social/nostr-content-moderation
This is done through two new NIPs…
"NIP-68" defines a generic process to put any type of label on content - at the time it's originally posted, or after it's been posted.
"NIP-69" defines how that labeling process can be used for the purpose of content moderation…
The latest versions of both NIPs were put into the PR by @npub1wmr…g240 last night. You can see them here…
https://github.com/nostr-protocol/nips/pull/457/commits/dd967e52211e6245a3c4db9998b31069cb2b628e
That said, today I added an important section about how those labels will get used which hasn't gotten added to the PR yet. You can see the full NIP-69 here…
https://github.com/s3x-jay/nostr-nips/blob/master/69.md

2023-05-02 00:02:43 UTC

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I found my body was reacting to Dove soap. To this day I avoid it. Figure out what the issue is for you. Cut out as much as possible. Then add things back in slowly. Give your body time to react to each change.

2023-05-02 00:00:44 UTC

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Typically, people who obsess over someone else doing something are doing it themselves and the other person isn’t doing it at all.
So I’m guessing you’re having issues with pedophilia. Have you seen a therapist about your problem?
(I’m dead serious, BTW… There’s no humor or sarcasm in this post. Please get help.)

2023-05-01 22:09:39 UTC

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The cure for that “mental disorder” is transitioning. Being trans isn’t the mental disorder. Not transitioning when you should is the mental disorder.
Try again…

2023-05-01 22:07:17 UTC

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So is deodorant. 👎

2023-05-01 21:50:47 UTC

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Was or is? There really needs to be a better list of who’s using what.
That said - does it really matter? If the `d` tags aren’t the same they probably won’t affect each other.
That said, it’s cleaner if it’s on its own kind.
I had asked Google for a random number and it gave me 32144. And it made me think 32123 would be better. So I switched. Maybe I’ll go back to 32144.

2023-05-01 21:45:46 UTC

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Do you know any trans folks personally? If not, you need to get out more! They’re just normal people like you or me.

2023-05-01 14:46:09 UTC

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I'll change the wording so it's a bit more flexible. That relays who say they support the (optional) NIP must have the _option_ to allow unpaid users to submit moderation reports related to content on the relay. And should have that option on by default, but may give relay owners the option to disable the feature.
My server is DDOS protected. 😁 Hell, even my DNS is DDOS protected. Though DDOS protection only protects so much. It wouldn't stop someone from slowly eating up a lot of database space with lots of events that have garbage stuffed in `content`.
The issue is a legal one. Right now if I have CSAM on my relay I could serve it to an unpaid user but I wouldn't see their report, and hence there would be no way for me to know I have a legal problem.
I have a rather large list of IPs I block that gets updated regularly. It's just part of being a webmaster. I'll add attacks on my relay to the types of things I monitor and block.

2023-05-01 12:21:47 UTC

## ‼️ Special offer for the month of May… ‼️
**Post a #DickPic and get free use of wss://relay.s3x.social and free NIP-05 verification 😈**
To qualify, post a dick pic (or equally explicit pic), tag us in your post (@npub1k27…vmmj), and mention which domain you want for your NIP-05 validation from the list on this page: https://s3x.social/about/nip-05 (if you don't choose a site you'll get s3x.social - but that can be changed).
And to be clear - we don't care what your gender or sexual preferences are - we just like like folks that are uninhibited when it comes to their sexuality.
If you don't wind up using the NIP-05 verification your free use of the relay will end after a month. But it will continue if you do keep using us for NIP-05 validation (provided you don't violate our TOS).
#FreeNIP05 #FreeNIP5 #FreePaidRelay #FreeRelay #porn #AmateurPorn

2023-04-30 00:13:20 UTC

So thinking of NIP-94…
I’ve got a database of over a million #GayPorn images (sponsor promos). I _could_ do NIP-94 events for each of them, but what’s the point? All it could possibly achieve is extra bandwidth on my server. I feel like it’s one of those cases of “just because you_can_ do it doesn’t mean you _should_ do it”…
Can anyone think of an advantage to doing that? Would it help me find other uses of the same image? I could possibly then repost the other person’s note with a link to the sponsor site. Is something like that possible?
Basically help me figure out how publishing all the NIP-94 events makes sense…
Tagging #[0] Pamplona since he’s done the most with NIP-94 (and felt the wrath for doing it)…

2023-04-29 23:33:15 UTC

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That’s amusing until there’s a congressional subpoena…

2023-04-29 23:24:54 UTC

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I can see “crowdwalls” working great in porn. Paid members can get access to new content by paying, non-paid folks get to see old content. Seeing the old content will give them the confidence to pay for the new stuff (they’ll know they’ll like it).
It’s also awesome for news… I see articles all the time on a Apple News that are for paid members that I want to read. It would be better if I could read them after they’re “old”.

2023-04-29 23:21:52 UTC

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On Nostr the ads have to be so good that people will subscribe to them by following. I think I can do that with porn… 🤞

2023-04-29 23:09:18 UTC

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That’s our strategy… #LGBT & #porn …

2023-04-28 23:09:44 UTC

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Foot fetish is a real sexual fetish, so I say yes.
But it’s like a “gateway drug” to “real porn”… 😈

2023-04-28 21:39:12 UTC

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That’s an interesting PR.
Is there a reason it’s `account_uris` rather than `account_uri`? Can it really be a comma delimited list? Do people have multiple profile pages on the same site?
When I first saw it I thought “cool, it can be like linktree for creators - but the URLs have to be on the same domain.
Give me a couple weeks and I can have it up and running.

2023-04-28 21:19:02 UTC

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I would hope so!

2023-04-28 18:10:28 UTC

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Can you explain further how this would work?
Someone uploads a file on my server. I publish a NIP-94 event. What do I give back to them to paste into their Nostr post? The URL or the nevent ID?
If I also give them the URL, what happens when they use that in a client that supports NIP-94? Is yet another NIP-94 event created? How exactly is that event linked to mine? Is it just a matter that that they both will be returned by any client that's looking for a file with that hash?
Could I publish the NIP-94 event after the fact?
Also - am I correct in thinking NIP-94 can't really be used to facilitate the equivalent of srcset? It's too bad images weren't thought about more when it was being developed. It would be great if you could find all the sizes of a particular image - but each size has a different hash and NIP-94 is one hash per event, right?

2023-04-27 21:33:20 UTC

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Things like filter.nostr.wine helps, no? It basically does the caching for you.

2023-04-27 17:34:54 UTC

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Thanks for asking (seriously). I'm not a lawyer, but having been in the adult industry for ~15 years I've learned a thing or two…
The problem is if you're hosting adult content (images/videos, it's not really an issue with text) you need proof of consent and proof of age (plus the proof ownership or license to use that you need for all content). The site doesn't always have to have proof of consent / age on file, but it does need to confirm that they exist.
For example - take a photo of someone else on a beach and upload it to the Internet - no problem - it's a public place and there's no expectation of privacy. Do the same thing on a nude beach and you need proof of age and proof of consent.
The moment you host something without at least a nominal check of age and consent you open yourself up to all sorts of problems. The laws on CSAM and things like revenge porn are really strict and the penalties are often harsh. Big corporations get away with more because they have teams of lawyers. But a single significant legal incident can put a small company out of business.
I've got over a million unique images in my porn database at the moment (and probably another 600K or so I need to import). It's terabytes of data. And if I've learned one thing dealing with those is you don't store images/videos in databases - you store them externally.
@npub1xv6…xea6 had suggested an approach where there was a more traditional POST to submit the image/video. That's something I could consider. But then it gets to your interface question - I'd need some sort of confirmation of:
- ownership/license
- consent
- age
But it's one thing when someone confirms those things on my site, but it's another thing for me to trust a 3rd party to confirm those things. Maybe… But I'd have to think about it some more.
But at the end of the day storing images/videos in the relay database is a non-starter for me even with all the documents in the world. I know better than to do that. Which is why I love NIP-94, but not NIP-95.

2023-04-27 13:56:19 UTC

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Thanks! But isn't it the other way around?
> Another defined event is the `1065` which is used as a header for the data contained in an event 1064. This way the data can be disclosed without overloading the communications when sending a large amount of data.
For now I've blocked both. Is there any point storing the header if you're not going to store the data?

2023-04-27 12:36:47 UTC

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And done. Kind 30064 has been blocked on relay.s3x.social.
I thought briefly about just specifying a really small size so it could be used for things like animated emojis - but then I took a look at how much you could show in a small file and I figured that was a bad idea as well. The pic below is only 21kb and it shows plenty - enough that if the content were illegal it would be a problem.
Let people put their CSAM on someone else's relay!
https://void.cat/d/TNcQJ1nbGEPCxXUqTTMMzR.webp

2023-04-26 23:59:33 UTC

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Just wait until they get the call from NCMEC saying they have CSAM on their relay…
Text-based CSAM isn’t really a thing. But binary files just invite it.
NCMEC had 32 million reports last year. Relay operators need to keep their heads down on this one unless they love the Justice Department up their ass!
https://www.missingkids.org/gethelpnow/cybertipline/cybertiplinedata

2023-04-26 23:53:53 UTC

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Kind 30064 is NIP-95 files. Given that I run an explicitly sex and porn-friendly relay I don’t want to run the risk of actually hosting child porn.

2023-04-26 23:52:29 UTC

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I want to know more! This could be big for the porn industry. If you get it right, it’s big money (eventually).

2023-04-26 23:15:19 UTC

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The problem is anytime you talk about ways to moderate content (which is what filtering algorithms are) people on Nostr yell “CENSORSHIP” and the conversation goes nowhere.
People need to realize that bottom-up content moderation isn’t censorship.
Case and point is the PR for “NIP-69” which simply defines a standardized vocabulary for NIP-36 & NIP-56 and people are pushing back on it. They openly say it worries them, but can’t describe exactly what the problem is. That’s just fear. If they give it some thought they’ll see bottom-up isn’t censorship…
https://github.com/nostr-protocol/nips/pull/457

2023-04-26 23:09:54 UTC

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On my to-do list for tomorrow… Add Kind 30064 to my relay’s blacklist… Problem solved. No CSAM on my server…

2023-04-26 21:47:50 UTC

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I'm no lawyer but… If you copy copyrighted content to a server that is not authorized by the owner or licensee - then you are guilty of content piracy and there are rather large statutory fines that you could be forced to pay.
If you want to see how quickly it can happen start with something that's unwatermarked from GettyImages or Shutterstock.

2023-04-26 21:08:02 UTC

Our sex-positive, porn-friendly, gay-owned and operated relay is FINALLY up and running.
wss://relay.s3x.social
Feel free to join!
Beyond the obvious illegal stuff, the only thing we can't allow is escorting-related content. (Sorry, but we have to comply with FOSTA/SESTA even though we think it's a horrible law.)
There are still a few cosmetic issues with the relay - but nothing critical.
For more info head over to https://s3x.social
#sex #porn #LGBT #GayPorn #trans

2023-04-26 20:45:18 UTC

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Thank you so much for making people think about this stuff! Great points!
IMHO "NIP-05 identifier" should be renamed "Nostr Address" because it looks like an email address and it's for Nostr… And the NIP-05 spec should be amended to _require_ clients implementing it to use that name (or it's equivalent translation).
As far as the confusing onboarding process… What I want to do is have them set up their profile on my site. My users will want explicit profile pics, so I'll handle the hosting of those and set everything up for them - I'll set up their (NIP-05) Nostr address, set up their relays, set up an interesting follow list of people I think they'll like, etc. and then give them their nsec and tell them to go have fun on a full-fledged client and come back if they have any problems.
So "set up your profile here - but use any client you want for day-to-day stuff".

2023-04-26 17:21:36 UTC

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BTW, another reason why the other clients should support your approach and have NIP-94 embeds/previews in notes is because it makes it much easier to fight CSAM on Nostr. Once a credible authority has said that a particular image or video is CSAM - instead of just having a URL, there's now a hash that can be checked in the future so CSAM can be taken down even before it's reported.
And just in general it allows relay owners to take down content they've disapproved in the past immediately instead of having to wait for it to be reported. Not saying it'll work perfectly, but it's better than the current situation which is a bad game of whack-a-mole.

2023-04-26 13:03:37 UTC

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Took me a while to really understand what I was seeing, but yeah - very cool! So will this be a future NIP or does it work now?

2023-04-26 13:01:48 UTC

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What? You don't have your Nostr t-shirt yet?
https://nostr.build/i/nostr.build_dccb544f9358f5dfe95b6de5b4b839a4b640f8cfdd590ff72fec4e24370588f2.jpg

2023-04-25 22:53:35 UTC

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Bleeding edge tech is always a bit painful. All of Nostr is in beta mode. So not a big deal.

2023-04-25 22:50:39 UTC

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Is it really all that hard for other clients to support what you’ve done with NIP-94? Or is the pain just because you were the first to do it? If it’s the latter, then don’t worry.

2023-04-25 22:01:29 UTC

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I can answer that… Because none of their customers use crypto. Various porn companies have tried to offer crypto payment options. None have been successful with it, so the others don’t even try. I think Nostr could change that.

2023-04-24 12:09:07 UTC

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Just to be clear… Are you thinking of using Iris' imgproxy or running your own?
Paying for the bandwidth will be an issue for #[2] - I'm not sure he's monetizing things well enough to afford it. I've always seen a proxy service as a paid upgrade to Nostr. But the clients would need to set a standard and then let the users choose which proxy service they want to use. And there'd need to be some type of AUTH.
And then there's the issue of videos… Not sure anyone will want to proxy those given their size. Maybe if it's served via HLS, but I'm guessing doing it would be "non-trivial".

2023-04-23 15:01:58 UTC

Just changed the colors of the theme for our website. It was looking a bit boring and feminine before. Now it's darker so hopefully it comes across as more mysterious/sexy looking…
Take a look - https://s3x.social
(Critical feedback welcome!)

2023-04-23 11:16:20 UTC

Why Nostr?
https://assets.s3xstatic.com/resources/social-media/twitter-permanently-suspended-not-nostr.jpg

2023-04-21 22:04:25 UTC

Just spent much of the day fleshing out the information on our website. It's now a pretty good intro to Nostr. (Nostr shouldn't require all these instructions!!!)
Not quite done yet, but feel free to check it out and give me feedback…
https://s3x.social/
(BTW, in my copious spare time I want to change the theme to something dark. It'll be sexier!)

2023-04-21 17:37:44 UTC

#[0] - Now that Parler has shut down you'll just have to post your Cooter Daniels pictures here on Nostr… 🤣
https://i.pinimg.com/originals/63/9b/45/639b45578da9bf08673da7b4e04e398a.jpg

2023-04-21 14:14:57 UTC

Here's a bill that's been introduced in Texas that could impact people hosting Nostr relays and clients…
https://www.ynot.com/texas-bill-broad-civil-liability-obscenity/
"A bill introduced in the Texas House of Representatives would create civil liability for obscenity offenses by any defendant, including any 'information content provider' or 'interactive computer service', that either 'engages in the obscenity or knowingly or intentionally benefits from participating in an entity that engages in the obscenity.'"
"The bill also holds an 'information content provider or interactive computer service' liable for damages 'arising from the distribution, transmission, or display of harmful material to a minor if, knowing the character and content of the material, the provider or service knowingly or intentionally benefits from participating' in disseminating the 'harmful material' by 'facilitating, aiding, encouraging, or contributing to' the dissemination 'in a manner that: (1) is readily accessible to minors; or (2) includes a minor’s visual image, audio voice, or participation in any manner.'"
Notice they've covered by Nostr clients and relays. And I doubt "I didn't look at the Kind 1984 events" will be a viable defense…
WHO YOU VOTE FOR MATTERS!!

2023-04-20 20:44:30 UTC

So here's something to think about…
"German Police Ramp Up Plan to Eliminate All Explicit Content From Twitter"
https://www.xbiz.com/news/272937/german-police-ramp-up-plan-to-eliminate-all-explicit-content-from-twitter
"German police have been targeting and intimidating specific Twitter users who post or retweet explicit material, in an attempt to move forward local bureaucrat Tobias Schmid’s campaign to purge all open platforms of adult content."
“The distribution of pornography on the internet is only permitted in closed user groups with prior age verification. Since this is not the case on Twitter, the distribution of pornography via Twitter in its current form is not permitted in Germany.”
When the German government discovers Nostr they will start doing the same to Nostr users.
WHO YOU VOTE FOR MATTERS!!

2023-04-14 14:27:51 UTC

It's been 2 months since I first asked my hosting company to set up a nostream server so I could do a relay. Nostream had a dependency my server OS didn't support. So the first strategy was to upgrade the OS. But then I gave it more thought and realized that the server probably didn't have enough RAM. So a month into it we figured out I need to change servers, not just have an OS upgrade.
As of yesterday the relay is up in dev mode, BUT the guy doing the migration/install then went on vacation for 2 weeks. (UGH!) Hopefully another support tech can take over and get things working properly. But we're close.
Then there's the issue that New York State has weird rules about crypto and I can't use ZBD - so I can't enable the (easy) payment method for nostream.
Bottom line - it will probably be a few more weeks before the relay is fully up and running. But it's a priority for me, so we'll see…

2023-03-04 00:58:25 UTC

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I see pornstars loving Nostr. And when they come, each of them will bring their 10s of thousands of “normie” followers as well.
Paul - have you spoken to a lawyer/solicitor (whatever you call them)? I don’t see legal issues for relays. I see legal issues for client apps and media servers. The relay is not the one presenting the image/video. In fact it’s hard to figure out which relay is the source since there can be many sources of the same note.

2023-02-26 23:42:32 UTC

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You’d seriously type in all 63 characters of an npub? Yeah, right.

2023-02-15 19:57:41 UTC

I'm actively working on getting a porn-friendly, #nostream based Nostr relay up and running. Unfortunately my server is CentOS 7 which has an incompatibility with one of the requirements for nostream, so my host is building a new server for me. When I'm migrated over I should should be able to get the relay up and running pretty quickly. Hopefully our relay will be the first porn industry relay. 🤞