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If you are, it's understandable. You just told them you don't always read social cues correctly, they answered in a way that was both positive, and easy to misread. So, uh, ask them? Tell them how it comes across and ask if that's what they meant.

2026-01-31 23:17:53 UTC

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You may want to put a #nsfw tag on posts like this so people who don't want to see it clcan have their clients blur it.
I, on the other hand want to see it. FWIW, I've been trying to zap this a few times today and it's failing to generate an invoice. No idea if that's on my end or yours.

2026-01-15 01:07:06 UTC

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4, but 3 is a close second.

2025-12-24 23:44:48 UTC

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I would have, but I got sick instead. So now I'm lying in bed scanning through nostr until I fall asleep.

2025-12-24 03:01:06 UTC

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I baked a couple of pies today, some cookies tomorrow, then going to a friend's house for Christmas eve dinner , and to dinner at my ex-wife's house for Christmas dinner. .

2025-12-12 17:47:09 UTC

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I'm not much for purchasing content, I'd rather zap on stuff you post on here instead. But that's just me.

2025-12-11 20:26:56 UTC

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Based oi her last picture, I'm sure there's breeding demand.
Oh, wait, I get what you mean now.

2025-12-11 19:56:45 UTC

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Why?

2025-10-22 09:11:02 UTC

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That was just my way of saying 'I'm glad you're still here.'

2025-10-04 21:28:45 UTC

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https://image.nostr.build/182d896580e4c1cedd19285e44c7f37850784a3121f65861562400e324ff3fbf.jpg

2025-10-03 01:46:43 UTC

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It took me way too long to realize how autocorrect (probably) changed your meaning here.

2025-10-01 00:44:27 UTC

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Or maybe she's still enjoying it? But yeah, I came looking to see if she posted anything recently, too.

2025-10-01 00:41:49 UTC

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I have no idea if it still works, but someone I used to follow (well, still follow, they just stopped posting a while ago) used zpay.live as a pay wall for individual images or videos. Not exactly what you are looking for, but might be a step along the way.

2025-09-16 10:03:11 UTC

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Then why does it matter if it's transparent?

2025-09-16 00:31:49 UTC

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I like the look of the smoother ones better, but I assume this would feel better.

2025-09-15 09:51:16 UTC

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And a knot/lump and unusual shape?
Esthetically, I like the smooth clear ones, but I don't know if those trade sensations for looks.

2025-09-14 01:21:32 UTC

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Primal has one built in, I use that for my SFW account, but use Zeus with my own node for this account.

2025-08-17 18:42:16 UTC

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It's all in perspective. Am I helping you stop being a perv? No. Am I helping you embrace your perversion? I like to think so.
BTW, I'm on the same continent as you now (I assume) Imagine what you could do with me over my two weeks of vacation. You're welcome. 😈

2025-08-17 16:24:33 UTC

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Heh. I remember reading a book about ceremonial magic as a teenager that involved entering trance by being sexually overstimulated. I'll try it. 😘

2025-08-17 14:56:30 UTC

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Yeah, never done too much of that, just very light bondage (silk scarves, if I remember right), but it turns me on to be on both sides of that. Chains would probably do the same, as long as I was able to use the bathroom and eat, or be fed. Could role play it as forced, but I don't want to choke on food.

2025-08-17 14:25:01 UTC

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Yep. Whoever is on top makes the rules, and this is the kind of power exchange I really enjoy.

2025-08-13 22:57:07 UTC

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I have had that happen. Multiple times.

2025-08-09 18:15:22 UTC

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How did it go?

2025-08-07 02:40:07 UTC

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But honestly, sometimes black, usually with cream or milk, occasionally with butter or ghee. Very rarely sugar, too, but I try to avoid that because it doesn't help my sweet tooth.

2025-08-07 02:36:57 UTC

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https://image.nostr.build/b4a5c42d83540de574df3909a5e78dd30c42547f3986208af2d412e61165e65b.gif

2025-08-07 02:35:20 UTC

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I believe the term is scaroused (for scared and aroused)

2025-08-06 00:35:59 UTC

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So how did it go? Any stories to tell?

2025-08-04 13:37:28 UTC

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But you're getting more out of it than just the drinks, right? Doesn't this feed I to some of your fantasies?

2025-08-04 12:44:59 UTC

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That makes it easy. Though now the language nerd in me wants to look the all up.

2025-08-04 12:40:48 UTC

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No expectations. I'm generous because I want to be, if you choose to show me your gratitude, great, but it isn't expected.
Though maybe this is why this never happens to me.

2025-08-04 12:09:06 UTC

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That would be funny, too. I'm going to have to learn how to say, "I want to eat your pussy" in French before my trip, then scare away a few women with it till I find one who's game.

2025-08-04 12:01:35 UTC

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Report back, I'm curious how it works out. I'm rooting for you (and him)!

2025-08-04 11:47:42 UTC

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Would any man say no to that? Also, in English, at least, don't make it a question. "Thank you for the drinks, we'd like to give you a blow job in return."

2025-08-04 11:26:38 UTC

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Well, if I were on the other side of it, I'm pretty sure I would know what is going on, and be perfectly comfortable with the exchange. Though as I said, if you flirt with the guy, not just each other, you can be sure.
I'm going to be in France in a couple of weeks, and alone for most of the trip. I'm hoping to be on the receiving end of some flirting, but we'll see.

2025-08-04 11:10:15 UTC

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Well, that's why you need the workout, too. You're not being manipulative if he gets what he wants, too.

2025-08-04 10:55:21 UTC

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Why? Honest question, what is it that makes you feel guilty?

2025-08-04 10:44:47 UTC

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And yes, you should have bought the wand. 😘

2025-08-04 10:43:51 UTC

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Find yourself the right man (or men? ) and you can get free booze and a workout.

2025-08-04 10:24:56 UTC

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😂 Happy to help.

2025-08-04 10:07:01 UTC

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Only done it once or twice, but definitely don't waste booze, especially if I paid for it.

2025-08-04 09:33:54 UTC

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That's more my style.

2025-08-04 02:03:23 UTC

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I mean, I love me a body shot, but most of that ended up on the floor.

2025-08-03 20:49:46 UTC

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They look like fun, but what a waste of booze.

2025-08-01 17:03:25 UTC

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I've got plenty of booze. And plenty of porn, too. I'm pretty vanilla that way, but I check your stuff religiously. Not always my style, but always interesting.

2025-08-01 16:57:39 UTC

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The girl I'm dating lives a couple of hours away, so I only see her rarely (until her lease is up and she moves closer, around December). Until then, booze and porn keep me going.

2025-08-01 16:52:28 UTC

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And she officially said no. Now I have to decide what I'm going to do.

2025-08-01 16:32:13 UTC

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Nah, not something I'm willing to do. 🤷

2025-08-01 16:20:25 UTC

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I have no idea the average age. Probably will be at least a few people older than that, but I'd feel more comfortable with a friend who's a woman with me. She hasn't said no, yet, so we'll see. But I did give her an out, since I think this guy is better for her than going to the club would be.

2025-08-01 16:14:06 UTC

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Great idea! I won't do it, but it's a great idea.
And yeah, middle age dude in "ok" shape showing up to a sex club alone? I'm afraid I'll come off as a creeper.

2025-08-01 16:10:14 UTC

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And I find turning on women stupidly hot. So even if I don't like the toy, I'll be turned on by your reaction. We're a match made in perv heaven.

2025-08-01 16:01:34 UTC

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I don't have one, but with a promise like that, I might go shopping...

2025-08-01 15:50:21 UTC

So tonight is the night I am supposed to go to the BDSM club's "Newbie Night", but my friend who was going to go with me is starting to get cold feet. Or rather, her boyfriend is trying to influence her into not going, even though we had it planned before they met.
So the question is, if she bails, do I go alone, or do I chicken out, too?
I feel like maybe I have to go, since I promised @nprofile…7khp I'd report back.

2025-07-24 16:30:54 UTC

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From what I can tell, it is just that easy, if you're willing to lower your standards far enough. I can get all the women I want, as long as I don't mind if they're wider than they are tall, and you could get just this, if you didn't mind having to go searching for the dick under the rolls of fat.
Porn just fools us into thinking we can get attractive people just as easily.

2025-07-24 16:26:39 UTC

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I don't care why, I still like it. 😘

2025-07-24 15:31:21 UTC

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I like the way you think.

2025-07-24 14:30:38 UTC

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If I'm honest, I'd probably cum before you even got started with that, just from the fantasy being fulfilled.

2025-07-24 11:25:28 UTC

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Yes, please.

2025-07-23 00:58:16 UTC

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I do.

2025-07-20 16:59:32 UTC

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Can you ever have enough bitcoin?

2025-07-20 16:18:54 UTC

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She's pretty cute.

2025-07-10 02:37:55 UTC

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If that's what you look like, I certainly wouldn't kick you out of bed. 😘 Though I probably should hit the gym first.

2025-07-10 02:34:58 UTC

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Pretty high on the fantasy list for me.

2025-07-03 02:19:59 UTC

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Bad news. I've had to reschedule, so I won't be going till at least August (they only have the introduction nights once a month). I'll be sure to report then, though.

2025-06-26 03:02:17 UTC

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Sure, so just a sex club. I use the terms interchangeably, because I don't know any better. Maybe I'll learn in a few weeks.

2025-06-22 20:27:01 UTC

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Wonder if a BDSM club could play matchmaker like this? Or just use the club as a safe meeting place for a fetch life or Feeld meet up?

2025-06-05 12:35:59 UTC

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That's what I thought. Are you hoping he'll be in your ass before coming on it? I'm confused why you're fucking the dildo with a real cock right there.

2025-06-04 22:36:17 UTC

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Which part?

2025-06-02 17:31:16 UTC

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Nice!

2025-06-01 22:16:19 UTC

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Expectations in situations like this are hard. You probably should have set the bar lower, low enough that getting her in bed at your place had far exceeded it. But kudos for getting that far, let us know if anything comes from it.

2025-05-31 20:40:56 UTC

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I know it's still early, depending on where you are, but how did it go?

2025-05-30 22:22:04 UTC

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I've got my fingers crossed for you!

2025-05-29 19:26:40 UTC

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Fair. I like the seduction approach, though I'd be lying if I said I was good at it.

2025-05-29 19:14:16 UTC

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Pay for her booze, yes. If it were me, I'd just drop hints and drinks, and let her beg to make your fantasy come true.

2025-05-29 18:52:37 UTC

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So, your bestie is in on the plan? You shouldn't have much of a problem, then.
Once you have executed the plan, I would like to hear about it, in as much detail as you're willing to share.

2025-05-29 18:33:36 UTC

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Please report back what you find. In detail, if you don't mind. 😘

2025-05-29 17:55:36 UTC

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Maybe not, but nearly every young woman I see on a dating site these days claims to be bisexual, and I'd think most of them would.

2025-05-29 17:47:43 UTC

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I suspect that may be a near-universal fantasy.

2025-05-29 16:19:55 UTC

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- Dating more, and cutting off the people who aren't going to work faster.
- Working out more. Running, pushups (partially inspired by your 100 pushup posts), pullups - or really partial pullups. I should get to a whole one in a week or two if I keep it up.
- Starting back into my meditations.

2025-05-29 15:59:46 UTC

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They're certainly not too personal, maybe too open ended? I think it depends on your social graph. I don't know how to answer it, and the relationships I'm in right now are still pretty shallow and new, so I don't have an answer that would add anything to the discussion.

2025-05-29 15:18:30 UTC

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I'm pretty convinced that you have to be VERY ugly to not be able to get any, as a woman. Men, eh, I think it's harder, but that's mostly because women don't approach men much, at least in my experience. You'd think that would have equalized, with all the other equalizations that happened between men and women, like splitting the bill.
It's like when I was dating on "vanilla" websites 4-5 years ago. On Tinder, women would always say, "if you're just going to say "hi", I'm blocking you" in their profile. But on Bumble, which, at the time, required women to send the first message, 99% of the messages I got were "hi" or similar. Double standard much?

2025-05-29 14:58:17 UTC

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I think someone decided they needed society structured on the assumption that every man was the worst possible (non-criminal) man, and every woman was the worst possible (non-criminal) woman, and that led to where we are now.

2025-05-29 14:44:05 UTC

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Eastern European you say. 😍
You're not wrong, but it makes it hard on everyone. Reminds me of a scene from the movie PCU:
https://blossom.primal.net/fdb4efa384b1b307ddd282430fede359a4c7a16edd63d245f93d4ae047a67c64.png
It's certainly a balancing act these days. That's why I ended up sugar dating, just cuts through all the bullshit and just lets you communicate.

2025-05-29 12:51:52 UTC

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As far as it being demeaning to pay for a woman's part of the bill, well, nobody told that to the women I've been dating.
Tonight I'm taking a woman who's more friend than romantic interest to a nice restaurant. I'll pay the bill. Depending on how many drinks we have, it will be at least $300, maybe much more, and I'll happily pay it just for the company and conversation. It's not demeaning, because I'm not expecting anything for it, and I have the money to go to this place and she doesn't.

2025-05-29 01:49:07 UTC

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Can't help with much of this, but I'd be happy to pay the bill.

2025-05-29 01:47:57 UTC

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Not nearly as much fun. But yeah, I guess.

2025-05-28 10:42:05 UTC

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On the clean side, a gaming computer, that I can also use to run local AI.
On the NSFW side, a violet wand. I had one for a while and it was awesome, but lost it in a move. Now, I want another, but I've got no one to play with with it at the moment.

2025-05-26 14:48:57 UTC

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I really dislike the idea of paying for sex myself. I don't think I'd ever do it, but I guess I can't be sure.
For really all of your scenarios, experienced kink participants could probably do it for you just as safely. Remember what I said about the communication? Yeah, I think the DP one could easily happen that way. Guys who you've met/dated a little, and already slept with, they'd be willing to help you fulfill your fantasies, and willing to stop the moment you say to, because they already care about you. And know they'll get more later😉 Or, at least I would, were I in that position.

2025-05-26 13:44:16 UTC

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Oh, as for pricing, the typical "arrangement" is a weekly or monthly allowance. There's lots of variances: how often are you meeting, are you exclusive with each other. Those are things that should get talked about pretty early on.
Then there's Pay Per Meet, or PPM. More transactional, I've gotten used to it, but I don't really like it, but it's good for starting out. I guess if I was having sex on a PPM basis, I would be really uncomfortable, but it hasn't happened yet.
And I guess I should say, I've only been back at this for about a month, and I've had a lot of dates, but I have yet to sleep with anyone. I would guess most guys are more aggressive that way, but I want to like someone before I have sex with them, not just lust after their body.

2025-05-26 13:33:59 UTC

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The price on WYP is simply for the first date. Either party can make an offer, between $5 and $500, and if the other accepts, you get to chat and see if you actually want to get to know each other, and then plan a meet. I've had plenty of accepted offers that didn't make it that far. To chat, the guy has to use tokens to unlock the chat, which is where the site makes it's money. Everything else is between the two people on the date. One of my friends showed me her chat log where fully half of her chats, the guy never unlocked it.
People on there are all over the place for what they're looking for. One I'm seeing is just looking for a relationship, but this is a way to meet slightly older guys, not put too much at risk, and make some money. Another is purely there for the dates. I get the impression she's slept with paid dates sometimes, but only because she wants to, at the time of the date. No expectations. Others are looking for longer term arrangements, and I think there are quite a few who are looking just for the sex. I assume men are the same, but I don't really know.
#sugardating #sugardaddy #sugarbaby #sugarrelationships

2025-05-26 00:55:07 UTC

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Yeah, I have no experience, except a little impact play and violet wand play a few years ago. I'm interested in exploring, but I also don't really feel the need to, if I find someone to be with who isn't interested in it.

2025-05-25 15:43:27 UTC

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Oh, duh, now I get the 38 or more comment. Yeah, she's over 30. And the club apparently cards (looks at ID cards) pretty heavily. She's really just a friend, though I did meet her through WYP.
I don't know how active it is where you are, but there's a dating app called Feeld that is all about kink, BDSM, that sort of thing. I've had absolutely zero luck on there, but I'm an average looking older dude, so I wouldn't be surprised if you could set up a scene of the sort you often talk about on here via that app.

2025-05-25 14:55:05 UTC

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And I don't know much about the BDSM club, ask me again in mid to late July.

2025-05-25 14:53:48 UTC

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I'm a little over 10 years older than you. I don't really know what middle aged means, either, but I know I'm it.
Sugar daddy experiences. I had a Sugar Baby who I was with for 4 years. It felt pretty much like a normal relationship to me, but she was 24 to my 45 when we met. Super hot, super fun, super giving in bed. Some of the best sex I ever had. We broke up earlier this year, mostly because her work stopped bringing her to my area regularly, and are still friends.
I don't really know how the whole Sugar Relationship works for older women. I had a date not too long ago with a woman who was only about 5 years younger than me. She was cute, sweet, we got along. But she was asking near the high end of the average sugar range ($1,000-$2,000 a month) and I couldn't help thinking, I could give it to her, and have fun, but I could also find someone much younger, with a much younger body, who would be much more appreciative of the money. I'm not proud of that, but it was what I thought.
I also went out with two bisexual girls recently. We've had two dates, it's not going anywhere, but they're very hot, very sweet, and I enjoy their company, so I'm taking them out about once a month until either of us finds something better. We both know we're seeing other people.
The sites I've used are Seeking.com and WhatsYourPrice.com I hate the name of the last one, but it's more for setting up a first date. It's where I've met most of the people I have this time, though I think it may be mostly US-based. I did look around Nice, France, because I'm going to be there in a few months, and it might be fun to have a local to take to dinner, and there are a few people there.

2025-05-25 13:03:34 UTC

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I'm a middle aged dude, divorced, I work with computers, in software development. My ex-wife cheated on me. I've been dating using sugar daddy sites since 2021, and this latest time around, I've mostly been just going on dates. I have a date planned to take a girl 20 years younger than me to the intro night at a local BDSM club in a month or so.
Is that enough?

2025-05-24 15:45:00 UTC

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HA! No, voyeur, yes, stalker, not at all.

2025-05-24 00:08:09 UTC

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I'm more of a lurker than a talker so I only said something when I saw the third one.

2025-05-22 22:54:40 UTC

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You keep repeating yourself. 😘

2025-05-20 02:05:56 UTC

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https://theonion.com/internet-archaeologists-find-ruins-of-friendster-civili-1819594871/