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Pretty much just my shower thoughts 🚿🧠 But I do other things like... Developer Advocate at Lightning Labs | Organizer of San Juan Bitdevs | Founder of Velas Commerce

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2026-05-20 19:37:03 CEST

I do worry that the pro-natalists are motivated by eugenics. They will say things like "we're losing population", but that's not true. the global birth rate has slowed but we are still gaining people every year. You know how many babies they are making in India and Nigeria??? ...but we didn't want those babies did we?

2026-05-17 22:46:22 CEST

Empathy is the foundation of human civilization.
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2026-05-16 19:01:55 CEST

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2026-05-11 19:09:21 CEST

I typed up my complete thoughts on abortion. It's here https://hannahmr.com/the-very-revealing-topic-of-abortion/
But I'll also paste it below...
The very revealing topic of Abortion
We love for things to be simple. A clear yes or a clear no. One clear line in the sand. But life is messy and complicated and doesn’t often lend itself to clear answers. A sign of maturity and intelligence is the ability to wrestle with a very complex issue and resist the urge to lean on a simplistic answer.
If you’d like to test someone’s ability to wrestle with complex issues, ask for their opinion on abortion. Rarely is there an issue that fits this test better. It is complex and for most people it stirs very deep and difficult to manage emotions.
Abortion fits this test so well as you have two things that very much matter, a fetus and a woman, and in the scenarios that we debate, their interests are at odds. For every simple and clear answer that you think you can find, once you change the assumptions or scenario, that simplicity evaporates.
The question of abortion also reveals someone’s ability to exhibiting care and understanding for others whether that other is an unborn fetus or a living woman. The language that someone uses, the examples that they chose… reveals a lot.
If you are of the mind that abortion is a simple matter, then I hope that the below walk through of my take on the topic reveals many aspects that you had not been consciously considering. This topic is one where we can very quickly see that the answer will always be context dependent and a constant weighing of the relative importance of conflicting needs.
A fetus
Let’s start before conception and imagine an IVF clinic. Here is a classic thought experiment:
You are in a building when suddenly the fire alarm goes off and you realize the place is engulfed in flames. As you run to safety you pass an IVF clinic. Inside the open door to the IVF office you see a container holding hundreds of frozen embryos and next to it a crying 2 year old child. You only have the strength and time to save one. Which do you chose?
Nearly everyone will chose to save the child. Why? Because while an embryo certainly does have value, it’s value is far less than that of a living child. That child has thoughts, and feelings, a fully functional nervous system that can experience pain, that child has attachments, and has begun forming an identity, a story. While the embryo’s have none of that.
This thought experiment illustrates that the value of an embryo grows as it does. Most of us would agree that abortions are less objectionable the earlier in a pregnancy that they happen, and many of us would find a late term abortion to be similar to that of murdering a baby. So let’s move to the very difficult topic of late term abortions.
If you were thinking that this one is quite clear, then I’ll tell you about one line that changed my whole perspective on this topic. Years ago I read an article written by a doctor who performs late term abortions, the line that changed my mind was simply “the people who come to me are people who have already painted the nursery.”
The stories she preceded to tell about why prospective parents ended up in her office were absolutely gut wrenching stories of medical tragedy. Situations where the baby won’t make it, and the mother might not either. Stories where the options are let the baby slip away in peace now, or force the parents to watch their child live in pain and cry in gasps for it’s last breath of air.
The abortions she performed were not done out of revenge or regret, they were a tragedy management tool that saved lives and eliminated certain suffering.
With these examples we can see that the bar for when abortion is a decent thing to do raises as that fetus develops. But thus far we’ve only thought about one end of the equation, the fetus, but we can’t forget that women also matter. The life and the well being of a woman also has value.
A woman
Thus far in my life I have had two pregnancies. Both well planed and both that resulted in the birth of a healthy child. I have been responsible, but I have also been lucky.
Being pregnant was an amazing experience. I had uncomplicated pregnancies and it was mind blowing to feel these new people develop and grown inside my body. They had distinct personalities while still in the womb.
I have not been faced with having to make a difficult decision about terminating a pregnancy, and I hope that I never have to make those choices. It would be gut wrenching to end a pregnancy. It is a death of sorts, certainly it is a great loss and a tragedy. But when it is my body, my fetus, without a doubt it is my decision.
Burden and choice are flip sides of the same coin. Those with the skin in the game are those that are best suited to make the choices. Someone in a fancy suit hundreds of miles away who will not have to live with the outcome of the situation is wildly unfit to make difficult reproductive choices for others. No one has more of a right to make to make reproductive choices than a pregnant woman.
Giving someone else the rights to make these difficult choices is to disrespect the rights of women. It is to remove bodily autonomy and make women slaves.
While childbearing is certainly natural, it is never easy, and quite often it is very dangerous. Statistically speaking, being pregnant is currently the 6th most dangerous job in the United States. Some years it’s more dangerous than being a police officer.
In parts of the world without modern health care, complications from pregnancy and childbirth is the leading cause of death for young women.
When a woman chooses to bear a child not only does she risk her life, she is certain to undergo a very difficult and traumatic experience. Birthing a child is incredibly gruesome work. For most of us we will have a moment of finding our selves laying in a pool of our own blood and feces wishing we could pass out. With my second child I was unable to get an epidural and I’m pretty sure I maxed out my bodies ability to feel pain.
Can you imagine what it feels like to have your body ripped apart from the inside out? No I am not being dramatic, ripped is the right word. And let’s not forget that the recovery is likely to last years.
What right does someone have to force another sovereign being through such a process?
And I will only touch on the topic of rape. I think any decent person would be appalled by the idea of a women being assaulted and then forced to risk her life in enduring childbirth.
So which one matters?
Both obviously. And that is the difficult and complicated part, that it’s both.
I imagine we’ve all seen the very publicized examples of very crass abortion supporters who have done things like throw an abortion party, etc. That’s ugly. And it says that women matter but a fetus does not matter.
I’m sure we can all also think of an example of a staunch anti-abortion campaigner who would like to see women forced to carry their rapists babies. That’s horrific. And it says that a fetus matters but a woman does not matter.
The tricky part about all of this is that it’s both, and it’s not simple at all. The life and well being of a woman matters, and a fetus also matters. In tragic times and places when the their needs are at odds, then very difficult choices about which matters most have to be made. And the ‘answer’ to that will differ in every situation. It’s a constant weighting of conflicting rights at different points in time in different situations. It’s not simple. We can’t make it simple.
If we can take a step back from our very understandably intense emotional connection to this topic, we can see that any clear and simple answer crumbles under the reality of varying situations. Having a considered and caring take on abortion requires the capacity to hold complexities. It requires maturity and intelligence.

2026-05-11 17:16:14 CEST

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both abortion restrictions and the draft are the legal loss of bodily autonomy.

2026-05-11 16:42:21 CEST

The male suicide rate is very concerning. The draft is just a moral atrocity and it shocks me that more people aren’t angry about it.
These are real issues, these are men’s issues, and they are serious issues.
A lady with a septum piercing saying a mean thing on social media. Well that’s gross. Men still being expected to pay for dates. Well that's silly.
If these things annoy you, please call them out, complain about them. But do not confuse them for serious issues.
Women having to be on guard against SA pretty much every time they leave their home is a serious issue. The rates of SA are a very serious issue. Women losing their legal bodily autonomy is a serious issue. The hundreds of thousands of untested rape kits are a very serious issue.
Complain about whatever you like, but don’t confuse your annoyance for a very serious issue.

2026-05-10 22:03:04 CEST

I think I'm having a hard time accepting that being seen, being understood, is an incredibly rare thing.
I keep expecting to find it in anyone I interact with, and that of course, is not going to happen 😕

2026-05-10 17:10:18 CEST

Being able to bear children is a super power. You can literally create life! Epic! The process of childbirth is dangerous and traumatic. It's heroic to take on that task. Cheers to the women that keep humanity going 🙌
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2026-05-07 23:16:21 CEST

It's so stupid the way dudes will use "suck a dick" as an insult. ...bro, you have a dick... don't ya think shaming people for giving that some attention might be shooting your self interests in the foot???

2026-05-07 19:55:52 CEST

SSRI’s/SNRI’s don’t cure depression, because depression isn’t caused by too little serotonin.
These drugs are essentially pain killers, and they save lives. It’s pretty damn difficult to climb out of a deep psychological hole, but these pain killers can push you out of that hole. And once out, you are in a much, much better position to do the work of fixing whatever it is that is causing that depression.

2026-05-07 17:50:45 CEST

I am constantly handing out this career/life hack and it baffles me that so few people do this.
It goes like this… you have a special interest/career focus and you see a really interesting person talking about your topic! You’d really love to just invite them out to a bar and have an hour long conversation with them and ask them all kinds of questions about their work… but that’s kinda creepy, you can’t just do that.
And so, ladies and gentlemen, what you do is... wrap that whole process in a meetup! When you’re running a meetup you can totally invite that person to a bar to give you a personalized lecture, you just have to do it in front of a bunch of other people and call it a fire side chat at an event. But this way not only will they not find your invitation creepy, they will be flattered, they will show up, and then they will thank you!!! 🙌
It’s the most genius career hack I’ve found. Why are you not doing this?!?!?!

2026-05-07 16:07:30 CEST

I’ve been on a psychology learning binge over the past ~5 yrs, at this point I’ve read over 30 books on the topic and my #1 take away is how wildly important it is to consciously manage your own mind.
We have instincts, we likely inherent some genetic memory, our early childhood shapes our brains and forms our nervous system, we absorb the values and narratives of those around us. The thoughts that we think change the hormones in our body. Often depression and anxiety are matters of deeply ingrained subconscious perspectives on life.
Consciously managing your own mind is a prerequisite to having a self directed life.
The thoughts you think and how you live changes your gene expression. Your neuropathways are not fixed and can be reformed at any point in your life. In order to change a deeply ingrained thought pattern, you first need to be aware of it.
Thankfully there are many scientifically proven methods for becoming aware of your own thoughts and updating them. Meditation, journaling, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Narrative therapy, and more.

2026-05-07 16:06:27 CEST

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Well not to brag but I birthed a few humans with fully functional brains!

2026-05-07 15:21:23 CEST

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Being pregnant is statistically the 6th most dangerous job in the US. In some years it’s more dangerous than being a police officer or being in the military.
https://www.scarymommy.com/pregnancy/how-dangerous-is-birth-in-america
Complications in pregnancy and childbirth is a leading cause of death among adolescent girls in developing countries.
https://www.afro.who.int/health-topics/maternal-health

2026-05-07 15:02:17 CEST

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Note the one’s that don’t go smoothly rarely end up on YouTube.
https://youtu.be/UkkdjzMJKaE
https://youtu.be/MtvokBLwjv4
https://www.youtube.com/shorts/bQdKPagyQbc
https://youtu.be/1Kh2Ui6JWQY
https://youtu.be/juoWp0dMJwc

2026-05-07 15:01:39 CEST

Mother’s day is and should be about honoring the heroic effort required in childbirth. Being a dedicated parent is it’s own wildly important work, but that is separate from the dangerous, traumatic, and very necessary work of birthing children.
It’s such an injustice that we hide away from the world the intensity, danger, and seriousness of this work. People not appreciating the work of childbearing causes such a lack of understanding.
If you are someone who has not experienced or witnessed childbirth, at the very least please watch some videos on it. Links in the comments below.

2026-05-04 23:50:16 CEST

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2026-05-04 19:21:48 CEST

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Ya I love the People of Walmart site! fun stuff.
But Walmart is everywhere, not just the poor places in the states. It's probably the most popular store here in Puerto Rico. Half of my stuff I got at Walmart. and so it's just the common person's store.

2026-05-04 18:55:20 CEST

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not sarcasm. I say Walmart as that is where you find normal day to day people and not social media influencers. Also any grocery store works.

2026-05-04 17:38:05 CEST

Please just walk through Walmart. You will see real people dating real people. Your algorithms are feeding you rage bait.
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2026-05-03 16:17:36 CEST

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Interesting!
I have similar thoughts. I think it's about hierarchy. Spirituality does not require hierarchy, but organized religion does.

2026-05-03 16:16:20 CEST

You can find things funny when they aren't a danger to you. And I think that is why women often get the label of "humorless". A lot more things are dangerous to women than to men, and so they don't laugh at those things.
Ya know like rape jokes. You're probably not going to laugh at a rape joke if you are on a date actively trying to make sure that you don't get raped.
There is some nuance here, sometimes humor is a way to deal with trauma. And so whether or not a joke is funny to someone who has experienced that thing depends on the punchline. But a 'ha ha that person got raped' is wildly unlikely to get a laugh out of someone who deals with that fear everyday.

2026-05-03 15:40:44 CEST

There is a positive correlation between religion and the repression of women. Why?

2026-05-01 21:33:28 CEST

Understand but don't accept.
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2026-04-30 18:36:22 CEST

The United States was founded as a secular nation.
The constitution, written in 1787, contains no mention of Christianity or any specific religion and does not establish a national church.
Article VI of the constitution prohibits religious tests for public office, “no religious Test shall ever be required as a Qualification to any Office or public Trust under the United States.”
The first amendment states “Congress shall make no law respecting an establishment of religion”
The first US coinage minted in 1792 contained no religious wording.
The 1796 Treaty of Tripoli signed by President John Adams states “The Government of the United States of America is not, in any sense, founded on the Christian religion.”
The re-branding of the US as a Christian nation happened a lot later.
1864 - “In God We Trust” was added to the currency.
1954 - “Under God” was added to the pledge of allegiance.

2026-04-29 04:16:12 CEST

Your body knows when you are in a good relationship 🫶 🥰
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2026-04-20 04:14:12 CEST

The difficult and complicated part its that it’s both.
I imagine we’ve all seen the very publicized examples of very crass abortion supporters who have done things like throw an abortion party, etc. That’s ugly. And it says that women matter but a fetus does not matter.
I’m sure we can all also think of an example of a staunch anti-abortion campaigner who would like to see women forced to carry their rapists babies. That’s horrific. And it says that a fetus matters but a woman does not matter.
The tricky part about all of this is that it’s both, and it’s not simple at all. The life and well being of a woman matters, and a fetus also matters. In tragic times and places when the their needs are at odds, then very difficult choices about which matters most have to be made. And the ‘answer’ to that will differ in every situation. It’s not simple. We can’t make it simple. And that’s why someone in a fancy suit hundreds of miles away who knows nothing of the specifics of the situation can’t be the one that makes those choices. The people directly affected by the outcome of the situation are the only people fit to make those choices.

2026-04-19 21:51:16 CEST

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It's interesting that I'm talking about sexual assault and you change the topic to money chasing. Why are these things related in your head?

2026-04-19 21:22:31 CEST

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If you are someone who has a lot of money and is public about that then it would make a lot of sense to be wary of a new woman that you are dating and try to sort her intentions. Makes perfect sense.

2026-04-19 21:10:18 CEST

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What are you talking about?

2026-04-19 20:50:23 CEST

Every woman knows that it’s not “all men.” But women don’t know WHICH men it is. Predators aren’t dumb, they present as normal dudes. Because of this, it is logistically necessary for women to be wary of all men that they don’t know well.
A situation that sucks for everyone.

2026-04-18 06:42:05 CEST

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2026-04-15 23:57:50 CEST

Does being understanding and loving actually work? I feel like I've put in an epic effort for decades to be as decent as I can to people. I've bent over backwards to be understanding. I've worked hard to hug rather than kick when someone is down. ...did any of that help anything?
If someone doesn't want to see you, if their ideology won't let them respect you, then they will just never be good to you. It doesn't matter how loving you are.
You can't make someone care.

2026-04-15 18:26:54 CEST

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Some places are better. In Australia I would bring my oldest out to the bar with me when she was a baby! ...they did kick her out as it got crowded in the evening tho.
and, in some places the pubs had a kids play grounds out on the patio!

2026-04-15 16:39:09 CEST

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ahh, ya you didn't sound genuine to me, and this proves it.
You have a lovely day now (which is passive aggressive for fuck off)

2026-04-15 04:55:17 CEST

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ya, I know a lot more than you on these topics.

2026-04-15 00:23:02 CEST

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...ahh, right. this is all my fault.
so sorry, I'll go admonish myself until others stop being shit to me.

2026-04-14 21:08:34 CEST

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This is an issue in the present moment.

2026-04-14 20:41:25 CEST

How exhausting it is to constantly have to check and test to see if those who are trying to get close to you have any respect for your basic human rights.
That has been the case for me in the past ~4 years. So, so many in the Bitcoin/Crypto community have gone down an ugly red pill path adopting an ideology which tells them that women are not appropriate to full autonomy. And these people will attempt to pull you in to their ideology. They will court you and use lovely sounding words and phrases, and once your guard is down they will try to convince you that you are a follower, inappropriate to decision making, a second class human, support staff only.
It’s so exhausting, and pathetic. They hide their ideology as they lack the courage to be honest about their convictions. They know that they will be rejected outright if they don’t hide behind flowery words and drip feed their disrespect.
What sucks most about this is that now it’s a logistically horrible idea to let anyone in at all until they have thoroughly proven their respect for my basic human rights. So tiring. And it doesn’t feel like that should be the case, that I should have to performs checks to see if someone supports my basic autonomy. What bull shit.

2026-04-13 16:48:55 CEST

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O this is interesting! So many illusions have been shattered lately! We are in some new eras.

2026-04-13 16:48:06 CEST

If you want people to have understanding for you, and you should, then you need to practice having understanding for others.
And once again, we’ll look to the red pill crew for an example of how not to do it 😉
The red pill crew, or those sympathetic to them, will explain to you that the “male loneliness epidemic” and young men falling into extremism is a symptom of them being treated badly by the very “woke” lefties, and the extreme feminists, and by the confusing messaging to young men about where their value comes from. And I totally agree, that’s a problem and we should have some understanding for it.
However, the same set of people who will expect you to have understanding for young angry misogynist men will fail to understand the angry feminists. Don’t ya think that maybe extreme feminism is a reaction to centuries of legal, social, and at times physical repression of women? Might those things cause some backlash that we should have some understand for?
And these same people that want you to have sympathy for young angry misogynist men will also talk about gang violence and “black on black” crime. They also fail to understand where that might come from. They will reject any discussion of the down stream effects of centuries of brutal legal repression and systematic segregation and impoverishment. Might it be that some young black men fall into gangs as they were a born into a difficult situation that doesn’t give them as many options as others get? Should we have some understanding for that?
You can’t have it both ways. If you want others to have understanding for you, and you should, then you need to practice understanding for others.

2026-04-11 02:52:11 CEST

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O no big story, just thousands of small ones. I ran out of tolerance for those not willing to put in any effort to understand others. I've just had enough of that for a lifetime. I am now done.

2026-04-11 02:06:31 CEST

O the amount of times I’ve been told that my concerns are paranoid, illogical, hysterical. I’m always being told to shelve my concerns so that I can consider other people’s perspectives. I can’t do it any more.
There is quite a lot to be learned from listening to others perspectives. I’d go so far as to say you can’t learn or grow if you don’t. But it has to be mutual. Continuing to do the hard work of putting yourself in someone else’s shoes when they won’t do the same for you just degrades your respect for yourself.
If you can’t be kind, if you can’t be understanding, if you can’t take a moment to consider how a situation impacts someone else…. Go fuck yourself and good bye.

2026-04-10 16:39:58 CEST

What's the best most effective way to control a person over the long run?
Give me your theories! But I'll tel you mine...
via their self concept.
If you can manage to convince someone that they are XYZ, and their values comes from being/doing XYZ, then they will carry out XYZ enthusiastically for decades without you having to direct them at all.
This is hard to pull off tho. You have to get them young, or when they are down and out, or you have to slowly change a whole culture to adapt the collective unconscious to the self concept that you want.

2026-04-09 17:54:07 CEST

Understanding is not the same as agreeing or condoning.
One of the most frustrating things about being on social media is watching the sea of posts and memes and “debates” which are just people intentionally misunderstanding each other. People purposely being obtuse and twisting others words in attempts to “dunk” on others and score a few likes.
It’s not just ugly or childish, it’s wildly lazy. What a cheap easy way out of actual thought.
“It's the mark of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it.”

2026-04-09 02:01:14 CEST

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Do you think there is an objective definition of terrorism? If so, what is it?

2026-04-09 00:04:50 CEST

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2026-04-07 19:25:51 CEST

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2026-04-07 19:25:02 CEST

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2026-04-07 02:53:21 CEST

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2026-04-06 05:24:46 CEST

One of the most intellectually lazy things you can do is decide that if someone disagrees with you it’s simply because they are an idiot.

2026-04-05 20:28:37 CEST

Here is some discrimination against men. This is what the red pill crew should be mad about.
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2026-04-03 21:51:51 CEST

Today is my last day of being 42, my last day of being the answer to life the universe and everything 😭 Really I can’t say I pulled that off, but I sure did give it a go!
In the past year I made 12 trips to 5 different countries. I did two talks en español!
I definitely prefer the messier moments and the messier photos. Life just is messy, you make yourself miserable trying to be perfect and polished.
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2026-04-01 20:19:39 CEST

Evergreen April Fools meme
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2026-04-01 16:00:40 CEST

Buen dia. I already fell victim to one cruel April Fools joke 😢
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2026-03-31 23:52:46 CEST

The biggest way in which men fail to protect is by not believing that there is a threat to protect against.

2026-03-31 18:06:01 CEST

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2026-03-31 16:39:53 CEST

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2026-03-30 23:08:40 CEST

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2026-03-30 22:06:00 CEST

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2026-03-30 22:05:46 CEST

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you control your behavior. You don't control others, you don't control the circumstances of your life, you don't control mother nature, etc.
And so it only makes sense to focus on your responses to the circumstances around you. You can decide to attempt to influence the world, but the world will surprise you, and do things that you didn't want it to and that you can't control, and you have to focus on your decisions on how to respond. As that is the only thing you control.

2026-03-30 20:59:02 CEST

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No? Have you ever read a US history book?

2026-03-30 19:57:36 CEST

Affirmative action for white men has been a part of the states for the entirety of it’s existence.
That has been fading a lot in my life time, but it amuses me how people get so angry about the evil “DEI” and don’t realize that in a lot of places DEI is simply a process for removing the affirmative action for white men. It’s a process for making the hiring process more fair… making it more of a meritocracy.

2026-03-30 19:53:48 CEST

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No you can't. You can influence a lot of things, but in the end you control nothing but yourself.
If you take on responsibility for things outside your control you will make yourself miserable. Fewer things in life I am more sure of. This is just the way it is.

2026-03-30 18:14:12 CEST

The key to the whole inner peace thing is to not have any desires or attachments that your sense of self is dependent upon.
20+ years ago I spent a few weeks studying Buddhism in a world religions class at Oakton Community College. I don't remember a lot accept that I didn't like it. I'm not supposed to desire anything? What's the point of being alive then?
Years latter I came to understand the concept more as you're not supposed to be attached to things and that made a lot more sense to me.
...But I am attached to things! I have to un-attach from my kids in order to have inner peace? Nah that's BS
But now I get it. It goes back to this 'outcome pressure' thing that I deal with a lot and the idea of not taking on responsibility for things outside my control. It's about a sense of what you are and are not responsible for.
The attachment thing is mostly right. But it doesn't mean don't care, or don't strive, it means don't lose your sense of self to an attachment to something external.

2026-03-28 18:44:58 CET

“Only the people can save the people” 🫶 #NoKings
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2026-03-27 19:59:10 CET

I'm such a middle aged bitch.
It's fabulous✨

2026-03-27 19:38:48 CET

Someone: "how do you do it all?"
Me: "I don't, I have a partner who does it all with me."
Ladies, don't marry a man that wants a wife and kids. Marry a man that wants to be a husband and father!

2026-03-26 20:01:21 CET

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2026-03-25 20:15:43 CET

Sometimes I hear that macaroons are confusing, and that bums me out as I find them to be so elegant and simple. So let me see if I can effectively communicate how beautiful this little piece of tech is…
Let’s imagine that you have a server that has some data to serve up and you want to gate your content and perhaps charge for it.
Step one, create a secret. Here we’ll use just the word “secreto”, which is of course “secret” in Spanish. The tricky part for you is that you have to know what a hash function is, and the tricky part for your server is that it has to hold on to and protect this secret.
Now perhaps you want to give your users ID’s. Something complex and official looking like “id12345678id”.
To make a very simple macaroon for your user you simple hash “secreto” together with that ID “id12345678id”. You can try this yourself on the command line if you like.
$ echo "secreto;id12345678id" | sha256sum
The result is “55413cca2fbc3a31f5ef5ab7b18390c926dd7f9d466034ea8ec2a0867e19e26d” and congratulations you created a macaroon! (Kinda)
You then hand your user this data:
id12345678id
55413cca2fbc3a31f5ef5ab7b18390c926dd7f9d466034ea8ec2a0867e19e26d
You don’t have to hold on to any data at all besides that secret. You can hold on to that ID data if you like. But tomorrow when the holder of this macaroon shows back up to access your services, how can you validate them?
Very simply as you know the secret!
You take that ID “id12345678id” and hash it together with your secret [$ echo "secreto;id12345678id" | sha256sum] to see if you get the hash that they showed up with, “55413cca2fbc3a31f5ef5ab7b18390c926dd7f9d466034ea8ec2a0867e19e26d”. If you do, then you know that your server created that macaroon and you can let them right in.
Easy peasy lemon squeezy.
Well, ackchyually 🤓 ...
What I’ve described above is really more of an HMAC(Hash-based Message Authentication Code) than a macaroon. What macroons are really for is chaining hashes and adding attenuations. So let’s add in one more step.
You don’t want this user to have access to your server forever, so you want to add an expiration date to this authentication token. Let’s say April 27th 2027.
So let’s add that to our HMAC thus turning it into a proper macaroon! Right now we have:
id12345678id
55413cca2fbc3a31f5ef5ab7b18390c926dd7f9d466034ea8ec2a0867e19e26d
How do we add our new attenuation? With another hash of course!!! We take our existing hash, and hash it with our new data, “expires:2027-04-27”.
$ echo "55413cca2fbc3a31f5ef5ab7b18390c926dd7f9d466034ea8ec2a0867e19e26d;expires:2027-04-27" | sha256sum
We now have a new hash! “bf41dee1dacfe63e1d917c46d024e6ceb13506632e092fa218bd96df041f7b0e”
This is now the macaroon that we give our user:
id12345678id
expires:2027-04-27
bf41dee1dacfe63e1d917c46d024e6ceb13506632e092fa218bd96df041f7b0e
And still, only we know the secret. And so, this user can’t change this macaroon as doing so would alter that hash thus making our validation of it fail.
So how can we validate it? Also, very, very simply with just that secret and a few hash functions!
As we have the secret, all we need to do is recreate the macaroon and see if we get the final hash that the user showed up with.
Hash together the secret with the ID. Take that result and hash it together with the expiration data. If the result is the same hash as the user presented to us then we know that macaroon was created using our secret. So either someone has stolen our secret, or we created that macaroon!
Don’t trust, verify. Try it yourself on your machine.
$ echo "secreto;id12345678id" | sha256sum
This produces 55413cca2fbc3a31f5ef5ab7b18390c926dd7f9d466034ea8ec2a0867e19e26d. Then…
$ echo "55413cca2fbc3a31f5ef5ab7b18390c926dd7f9d466034ea8ec2a0867e19e26d;expires:2027-04-27" | sha256sum
Which produces bf41dee1dacfe63e1d917c46d024e6ceb13506632e092fa218bd96df041f7b0e.
The hashes match, authentication complete!
...one more ackchyually. A real HMAC function is slightly more complicated than demonstrated above. HMAC functions handle the data more carefully than just taking a string, and there lots of details in formatting, and there are details on how third party caveats are added, etc.
However, if you’ve made it this far, congratulations, you understand macaroons! 🥳

2026-03-25 16:24:29 CET

The relationship is the prize.
It’s my sincere guess about the universe that the most important things in life are…(in this order)
1. Who you are. What you chose to be. Your values.
2. Your loving connections with others. Your relationships.
3. How you impact the world. The ripple effects that your behavior has.
When deciding who to deal with, who to be close with, you gotta get an idea of what they think to be the most important things in life. If fame, power, fortune, etc. are on their list then you are at risk of being used for those ends.
If whoever you’re dealing with doesn’t see the relationship as the prize, then you are a tool to achieve a different prize.

2026-03-24 15:33:50 CET

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It wouldn't bother me so much if I were paying for schools and firetrucks. But it really does bother me to know that I'm paying for bombs that get dropped on schools.

2026-03-24 15:32:51 CET

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2026-03-24 13:25:46 CET

There is no utopia, everywhere has it's problems. You gotta pick the set of problems you prefer.
...like today, my office in San Juan is far too sunny. So sunny I put sun glasses on over my computer glasses.
These are my kind of problems ☀️😎😉

2026-03-22 14:25:25 CET

There is a variety of misogyny that I run into a lot in the crypto community. It's very nice sounding hippie dippie misogyny and it goes like this... male leadership is simply natural, it's what we see all throughout the animal kingdom. That's just the way nature is.
Two things here:
1. This is just plain false. For example, Bonobos are one of humans closest relatives in the animal kingdom, and Bonobos are matriarchal.
2. Let's say that the animal kingdom were entirely patriarchal, do we want to be like the animals? Do we aspire to be like Chimpanzees, or do we aspire to be more enlightened creatures? And I'd argue that more enlightened creatures aren't interested in suppressing half of their species.

2026-03-20 23:59:33 CET

“SaaS is dead” they say. AI killed it, we’ll all just use Claude to write our own custom apps.
*ahem* Claude is SaaS.

2026-03-20 20:09:49 CET

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2026-03-20 18:12:51 CET

Ahh the grotesque state of the world.
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2026-03-20 16:09:08 CET

Chuck Norris' email was [email protected]

2026-03-20 15:00:10 CET

Ooo, I found the official music video, and it's stunning.
Not sure why flowers and flowing fabric are so sensual, but they really, really are!
https://youtu.be/qKFMK2eDWeQ

2026-03-20 14:40:01 CET

Wow I need a bottle of wine and an evening that inspires me to dance to this 🍷💃🎶🥰
I must be overdue for date night… or maybe I’m ovulating. Who knows. Just dance.
https://youtu.be/Tyu8yRPlyIw

2026-03-20 14:38:37 CET

"The unexamined life is not worth living" - Socrates ~400BC

2026-03-20 14:33:41 CET

I think most of us know it on an intellectual level. If you’ve read a shit ton of books, if you’ve done a bunch of shrooms(so I’m told), if you’ve been to therapy, then you know…
You control nothing but yourself. You are not responsible for the behavior of others. You are not responsible for the outcome of a complex situation. The only things it makes sense to worry about are your own choices. Life is mostly just about deciding who you are and connecting with others.
We know this intellectually, but we were born in a world that sold us a very different perspective on life. One where you must feel shame if the outcome is not what you hoped. One where life is about being above others, and having more. And removing that programming from the back of your head takes years and years of work.
But everyone once in a while, I don’t just know these things, I feel them. Every once in a while I have a morning where I forget to feel shame and forget to try to be above others. And on those mornings, life really feels pretty fun.

2026-03-19 19:23:40 CET

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2026-03-19 18:52:13 CET

Both "woke" and "based" are cringe. Flip sides of the same political bullshit coin.

2026-03-19 18:39:26 CET

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2026-03-19 17:19:20 CET

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2026-03-19 17:15:28 CET

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2026-03-19 15:49:19 CET

Violence is the last refuge of the incompetent.

2026-03-17 20:27:14 CET

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okay, but don't you think that you matter? When do you get to be the priority?
I'd argue that in a healthy relationship two people are supporting eachother. At times one may get prioritized, but balance is pursued. Your goals, your ambitions, your development shouldn't be ignored.

2026-03-17 16:56:50 CET

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Giving up autonomy is not a path to self realization.

2026-03-17 16:26:59 CET

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Agreed, there is a difference. But I see submission as taking someone away from full self realization. ...which I view as a big part of the purpose of life.

2026-03-17 16:21:08 CET

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...there is a video of him with 6 fingers? I missed that. Links?

2026-03-17 16:20:39 CET

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2026-03-17 16:12:10 CET

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I think that dynamic frightens people as they don't perceive it to be healthy. ...I'm one of those people.

2026-03-17 16:10:58 CET

So what do y'all think about the Internets new fav conspiracy theory that Netanyahu has been dead for like a week now???

2026-03-17 16:08:26 CET

I flew past Cuba last night and there were lights on.
The big red light was another airplane, but the smaller white lights seemed to be in and around Havana.
https://blossom.primal.net/b7644a450ca67040cfad14f43d68dc18f825ee25dea5bb4366818daa619946a1.jpg

2026-03-17 15:56:06 CET

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But gents, please do braid your beard and wear cologne!

2026-03-17 15:54:22 CET

It always blows my mind how people will speak like an authority on a topic that they haven't even researched for 5 mins.
https://blossom.primal.net/675020da82263308781bd5ceafbdb1bcb19a705edd59fc42202e324e9006ef0a.jpg

2026-03-12 21:33:43 CET

If I ever quit tech I think I'd run one of those hippie dippie wellness retreats, but like with science. So you can totally bring your crystals and do sound baths if you like, but we also have Congnative Behavior Therapy and anti-inflamitory food. Chant whatever you want but you have to do your EMDR session!
And it won't cost an obscene amount cuz it's just some shack on the side of a mountain in Peru. So you just have to get down there then it's like $250!