Software developer. Love bees and nature.

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I've always said that if I ever walked in on a partner cheating. I wouldn't be mad or upset. I wouldn't storm off or start shouting.
Might as well make the best of a bad situation and join in.
The cheating has been done, no emotion can reverse it.
Is that weird or stoic?
#Philosophy #infidelity #RandomThoughts #stoicism

2026-06-12 09:35:25 CEST

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the website in the screenshot looks awful 😱

2026-06-06 13:15:21 CEST

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that obviously doesn't help with the stuff other kids will say or even watching "despicable me" right now and the kids in that are like "Margot has a boyfriend!" And it's a form of ridicule.

2026-06-06 13:08:31 CEST

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all I can do now, is be aware of my own thoughts when socialising and ensure that I do not inflict the same kind of immaturity on my own kids.
I've told my family members that we are not going to make a big deal out of it when my kids are going through the same thing.
It came up recently because my son's current best friend is a girl and they are really cute and cuddly together. I'm not going to mention it at all.

2026-06-06 12:37:04 CEST

"oooo Shem has a girlfriend"
Adults would often say shit like that when I was a kid and would hang out with girls my age. Thinking back, I realise that probably caused a lot of issues.
It was embarrassing, and it stopped me from wanting to hang out with girls, they became "other" so even until recently, I wouldn't really be able to be friends with a woman without thinking about the possibility of romance 🤔
I wonder if that's a common thing.
Anyway just my thought of the day, as I self analyse my thoughts, opinions and trace them to their roots.
#therapy #sexism #Childhood #SelfDevelopment

2026-05-28 08:56:23 CEST

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I inherited a box of stuff from my dad and found this inside.
I don't want to open it 😅
https://social-cdn.vivaldi.net/system/media_attachments/files/116/650/890/945/876/852/original/3ad2e5aa8ba10f5f.jpg

2026-05-26 16:21:12 CEST

Does anyone know of anything I can put in my garden to keep the neighbourhood cats out?
They are so annoying and keep trying to get the little bunny and birds we get in the garden.
Cats should be banned from being let out tbh.
#Cats #gardening #Rabbit
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2026-05-10 15:24:50 CEST

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but they save money not having to do the work up to that point?
I need an MRI, it will be covered by my private healthcare but depending on the result I may have to go to the NHS as my cover is only good up to a certain amount 🤷‍♂️

2026-05-09 17:47:21 CEST

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I think reform voters are mostly just people who are scared and choose the party they feel will keep their kids safe. Rightly or wrongly. They think the Green party will open the borders and that scares them.
But everyone imagines Reform voters their own way. Some people say racist/fascist, I think they are just scared normal people.

2026-05-07 12:15:04 CEST

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the home office definitely needs a review because the people there seem to be causing a lot of issues.
I don't know much about the dual nationality issue, is it a new thing? My kids have dual nationalities.

2025-07-10 23:34:11 CEST

Anyone know of wash products like body wash and shampoo that allow the water to be used in the garden?
I'm thinking about saving bathwater for the plants but obviously not going to cover them in chemicals.
#gardening #Hygiene #EcoFriendly

2025-07-02 12:26:16 CEST

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same thing really. I'm going through my healthcare instead of the NHS which means they can see other people sooner. Less pressure on the NHS is the same as more money.

2025-07-02 12:08:30 CEST

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I've recently started using a private service through work. Video calls with GPs in a few minutes and specialist treatment within weeks. It has been handy and pretty nice knowing I am taking pressure off the NHS. I think we need more companies to offer healthcare packages.