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2026-07-18 00:37:59 UTC

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https://www.yahoo.com/entertainment/celebrity/articles/adam-carolla-co-host-pushes-175617982.html

2026-07-18 00:36:09 UTC

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2026-07-15 14:38:23 UTC

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For a few of them it was a good decade since I'd last been in the same room with them.

2026-07-15 00:10:57 UTC

BIP110 is a study in social contagion.
But if you’re not a supporter, don’t go congratulating yourself just yet. Humans exist in a state of perpetual social contagion. You, yes you, are caught in a few yourself. And if you don’t know which types you’re susceptible too, and in which ways your mind is warped by the egregore… lo siento, you got it bad.

2026-07-14 21:39:22 UTC

I keep hearing the Freud was a pedo and not really, it's complex.
So Freud was a psychiatrist when that field was very new. His big breakthrough work came when he decided to study the phenomenon of "hysteria" which was effecting young women in Austria. He invented a sort of talk therapy and after spending month and months listening to these women he discovered that quite a lot of them had been sexually abused by older male relatives and that listening to these women and believing them and helping them worked wonders in eliminating their “hysteria”.
He published his findings and the results of his very successful therapy and became well known for this. ...but there was a problem. He was a part of high society in Vienna and he was treating a lot of young women from high society families in Vienna. Long story short, his findings implicated his neighbors and they didn’t like that.
After some pressure from his high society friends he came up with an adaptation to his theories. All these young women that reported sexual abuse, well that wasn’t real because of course they were just fantasies. You see all young people fantasize about sexual interaction with their parents. It’s just a part of human nature. No one was actually abusing anyone, it was all just fantasy. And so he was let back into Vienna high society.
So Freud wasn’t so much a pedo as a sell out that enabled pedos and prevented justice so that he could keep his social status.
Not sure if that’s better or worse, but now you know!

2026-07-14 00:03:30 UTC

I've been back in Chicago visiting with friends and family and went to an old friend's birthday party and it messed with my head a bit.
Hanging out with people that you've known for 20-30 years is a trip. The perspective change is wild. Same place, same people, different time, different set of eyes.

2026-07-14 00:01:42 UTC

It’s weird how people have such disrespect for and try to avoid the ‘soft skill’ of relationship management. I wrote out my todo list for this week and 100% of my urgent tasks, and 60% of my overall tasks are all relationship management.
Even when you work in tech, you can’t get away from humans. Sooner or later you are always going to have to get good at managing relationships with real and complex humans.

2026-07-09 17:44:22 UTC

If you're in the Psychology is BS camp, give me 5 mins to change your mind.
This is a thing that I wrote back in December:
Two years ago it was difficult for me to just be in a car, and driving one was a gut wrenching experience. I was struggling just to drive two blocks away to the shops via side streets and parking lots. But this morning I woke up early, made a cup of tea and decided to head out for a nice relaxing drive. I got in the car and drove to the shops 30mins away on roads going 45 mph. And it was relaxing.
How did I pull off that transition? Therapy. And this is why the chronic misunderstanding of therapy and mental health practices in general rather irks me. It is not self indulgent victim cosplay where we absolve ourselves of responsibility for the state of our lives. What kind of insanity would that be? Instead it is the intentional management of our mind and our thought processes. It is simply necessary maintenance for optimal health. You eat a decent diet, you try not to drink too much, you get good sleep, you stay close to your friends and family, and you consciously manage your mind. That’s some proper adulting.
When I say “mind” I mean your thoughts, your ideas, your “mindset”, your perspective on yourself and the world. It’s what happens in your brain that impacts your experience. We are only consciously aware of a small percent of what’s happening in our brain. The vast majority of what we “think” throughout the day we are not consciously aware of and this creates an interesting challenge. That one weird thing your uncle said to you about relationships when you were 7 might have formed some sturdy neuropathways in your head… and still be there to this day without you being consciously aware of it! So let’s hope your uncle was a wise and loving man otherwise that old thought pattern might be causing you some trouble.
You can think of your subconscious mind as the operating system that you are running. The issue is that updates don’t happen automatically. If you want to run a new and improved operating system, you have to painstakingly install a new one yourself. Sometimes one line of code at a time.
There is an interesting thing about humans, we are born too early. Now this has to do with complex evolutionary things like humans learning to walk upright and the size of our hip bones and what’s optimal for walking vs what’s optimal for childbearing. It’s complex, but long story short, we are born too soon. Most babies in the animal kingdom emerge capable of independent mobility and communication. But humans, wow are we helpless babies. And for that first year or two of our life, our operating system is still being installed. Our nervous system is still forming. And this brings us to a very popular therapy trope… Tell me about your mother!
That’s the cliche right? You walk into a therapist’s office, lay down on the couch, and the first thing your therapist says is “tell me about your mother.” Then you describe in detail everything your mother has ever done wrong, your therapist absolves you of any responsibility for any of your errors and you both toast your success with some champagne! Right? Of course not.
Questions about your early childhood, or your upbringing, and questions about your mother, or whoever raised you, are indeed very common. But here your therapist isn’t looking to find the person to blame, they are asking you, “what operating system are you running?” You see most of us get an operating system installed that is rather optimal for the environment that we were in during our early childhood. But decades later when we wind up on a therapist couch, or zoom meeting schedule, it’s almost certainly because that operating system is wildly outdated and no longer helping us. So it may very well be that you are having a problem with workplace anxiety and your therapist asks you about your mother. But of course none of this is about your mother, it’s about the operating system that your mother installed in your brain 40 years ago that desperately needs an update.
This stuff is of course complex and I don’t want to do it a disservice by over simplifying it, but, I do think it’s fair to say a very big factor, and for a lot of people, the primary factor in depression and anxiety are damaging old subconscious thought patterns. Our perspective on life and ourselves, our “mindset”, our damaging old operating system.
This is how “therapy” helps us improve ourselves. It is the work of determining what operating system you’re running, sorting out which parts of that are now holding you back and in need of an update, and going about updating that software.
Unfortunately, most of us don’t wind up “in therapy” until something has gone very wrong in our life. Therapy is expensive, it’s time consuming, it’s difficult, and there is still some stigma around it. And so we don’t make that call until we are really suffering and desperate for a solution. And when we do finally make that call we generally have no idea what we are doing and have no idea what kind of help we need, and so we start with some good old fashioned talk therapy.
Talk therapy might not be what you wind up needing, but it’s a great place to start to get an education. Comedian Vidura Bandara Rajapaksa has a great bit about going to therapy. He says he thought that a therapist would fix him like a mechanic fixes his car, but instead he found that therapy is much less like going to a mechanic and much more like Ikea for your emotions, “where you are given some tools and materials but you have to put your sh*tty table of a personality together all by yourself.” Because talk therapy is a great place to get an understanding of which operating system you are running and in which ways it’s erroring out, but you still have to do the work of updating that operating system.
For some people their operating system isn’t in need of that many updates and just talking to a therapist and installing a few new insights and perspectives will be enough of a solution. But for many others, a full upgrade may be needed, perhaps even some database migrations, and that requires some serious upgrade tools!
Thankfully there are many, many options these days. Deep journaling work like the Neurocycle process, Cognitive Behavior Therapy (CBT), Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR), psychedelic assisted therapy, and many more. While all of these have their own approach, they are all essentially tools for a serious operating system upgrade.
And this upgrade is hard work! This isn’t about blaming grandpa, this is about re-wiring your mind, on a physical level, one neuropathway at a time.
You keep an eye on your blood pressure, you step on the scale to check your weight, maybe you use a sleep tracker! And, if you are being a responsible adult, you monitor your mind. When your blood pressure is too high you call your doc and take some pills and change your diet. And when your anxiety starts to kick up, you call your therapist, maybe take some pills, and update your operating system.
Therapy isn’t a pity party, it’s not about who to blame, it’s the conscious management of your mind. It’s hard work, and it’s proper adulting.

2026-07-09 16:10:53 UTC

This is one of the most disgusting things one human can say to another. This says I don't give a shit about who you are, I don't give a shit about your dreams, I don't give a shit about your accomplishments. All I care about is how you can service me.
Absolute fucking trash.
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2026-07-09 15:51:46 UTC

If you don't see the egregore, if you don't think it exists, you are still caught in it.

2026-07-09 15:50:34 UTC

A lot of people hate psychology. I used to as well. I was very wrong.
Now I know why I hated it and I understand why I was wrong about it. But I'm curious, if you have a bad impression of psychology, why? An experience you had? The experience of a loved one? A common trope about psychology? something someone said to you? Please tell me about it!

2026-07-09 15:49:50 UTC

One of the tragedies of our current patriarchy hangover is that most men have no idea how wanted they are.
Men are still being taught to get their sense of value from logistical utility, and most women have been taught to feel intense amounts of shame for any sexual desires. The mix of these two things means that women generally don't express desires out loud and men rarely think of themselves as desirable.
This is changing, but currently, most men don’t know how to be wanted, they only know how to be needed. And so they panic when they don’t have a sense of being logistically needed.
Dudes, stop it. You’re a bunch of hotties, act like it! 😉

2026-07-09 14:16:13 UTC

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2026-07-07 23:30:52 UTC

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2026-07-07 16:34:49 UTC

The rise of Christian nationalism terrifies me.
I was born into a Christian fundamentalist cult. And of course Christian fundamentalism and Christian nationalism aren't the same things, but there is a lot of overlap there.
Intense Christianity is a lot like extremist Islam. Hierarchical, patriarchal, racist, brutal. An ideology of obedience and punishment.
Thankfully we left that cult when I was 7. If we had stayed I would have been married off as a teenager and had lots of kids very young. I would have grown up and been miserable but unable to leave as no way could I abandon my children.
I would have hung myself off a tree branch in the back yard, as a number of my peers in that community did.
I don't want that life for anyone. It is a tragedy.

2026-07-06 04:24:32 UTC

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🤔 Sorry, struggling with the UX on this app. Not sure what you are replying to.... And this is a note to your OF subscribers?

2026-07-06 00:22:26 UTC

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2026-07-05 23:59:35 UTC

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2026-07-05 01:02:53 UTC

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O fuck, you're like a proper sociopath!
So 🖕 and stay the hell away from me.

2026-07-05 00:37:10 UTC

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Facts don't care about your feelings. Atrocities happened and you need to look reality in the eye.

2026-07-05 00:29:12 UTC

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O look another atrocity apologist. ...truly grotesque.

2026-07-05 00:01:15 UTC

It’s the 4th of July 🎇 and our 250th birthday 🥳 and so people keep asking me if I’m feeling patriotic… and no, no I’m not.
Now before you accuse me of hating my country… I kinda do! But also kinda don’t. You see just having been born in the US gave me access to more money, and more opportunity than nearly 99% of the rest of humanity. I was born in the global elite. I am wildly lucky to be an American!
But here is the thing, I’m mad at how much I’ve been misled.
I was taught all about the founding fathers, and they certainly got the spirit of the thing right! “We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness.” 👏👏 Fuck ya! They nailed the vibe. ...but then interpreted “all men” to mean rich white European males. Ugh.
Do you remember manifest destiny? I sure do. This was the idea that white Americans stealing land from and often killing Native Americans was totally fine, cuz that land was divinely ordained to belong to the white Americans. "our manifest destiny to overspread the continent allotted by Providence for the free development of our yearly multiplying millions."
The story was taught to me with glory. We set out and conquered the wilderness and banished the savages! ...also known as theft and murder, which I later learned about as the “Trail of Tears”.
I was taught that yes slavery is wrong, but you know it wasn’t that bad, and we ended it ages ago, so all is well and forgiven now. I had this idea in my head that the slaves were generally just farm hands that couldn’t leave. They were given houses, and they raised families and had happy little lives. Later I learned about a number of diaries from slave owners or those on their plantations that contain detailed documentation of their systematic mistreatment of slaves, including notes on just how much abuse slave populations would withstand before potentially revolting. I won’t repeat some of the stories from them here, they are as you might imagine just about as cruel and horrific as it is possible to be.
And no doubt conditions were very different on different plantations, but with how many of these diaries we have, it’s very clear that how horrific this phase of history was has been intentionally hidden.
In my own lifetime we’ve gone to all kinds of wars under the guise of “liberating” others, or because it was totally necessary to protect ourselves from imminent danger, etc. And when you look closer and closer, it becomes abundantly clear that it was never about anything besides power.
I have been consistently lied to about what this country has been and is.
We were founded on some great principals. And that whole balance of power thing has really done wonders for us and taken us a long, long way. With those principles and with the political inclusion that we have had, we’ve made a lot of progress! However, psychopaths gunna psycho and we seem to be good at enabling them.
We are the evil empire. To this day the abusive elite are out here holding the positions of power in our country and directing thefts and murders of all sorts of varieties and they do it all with my tax dollars and in my name. And I feel pretty fucking gross about that.

2026-07-03 00:01:33 UTC

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I don't know. She posts a lot about political things. Are you into that?

2026-07-02 23:48:46 UTC

Yup
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2026-07-02 23:43:33 UTC

Modern day motherhood is miserable and that's why fewer women are choosing it.
If you want women to chose it, make it less miserable.
Why is it miserable? Because we are doing it all wrong. One woman alone in a house with small children all day is torture. That’s not how humans work. Humans are designed to live in a pack and raise children communally. If we want women to not be miserable raising kids, then we need to bring that community back. We need to take all that burden off them and share it around so that they can continue to be normal humans.
If women have to give up all that they are to have kids, then a lot of them will chose not to have kids.

2026-06-28 15:52:53 UTC

This morning I was out for a walk in the park and as I turned a corner I spotted an Iguana on the sidewalk up ahead. When it spotted me it freaked out a bit and scurried up a tree to get away from me. That bummed me out a bit. It was really cool looking and I wanted to get closer to it and maybe take a picture of it. But it’s behavior was totally understandable. I am a lot bigger than it. I’m capable of harming it. And while I know that I have zero interest in doing that and only wanted to admire how cool it looks, that creature has no way of knowing that I mean it no harm. There are people in Puerto Rico that hunt and eat Iguanas and I’ve seen people attempt to run them over with their cars. So given the limited information that Iguana had about me personally, it was of course making the wise decision to run away from me.
I did not take it’s behavior as a personal insult. I did not declare that Iguanas are waging a cultural war against humanity, I did not shout “Not all humans!” at the Iguana. I just gave it some space and went on with my day.

2026-06-26 23:08:15 UTC

I think I've been to 20 different countries. Is that impressive or are those rookie numbers?

2026-06-24 21:18:40 UTC

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no you know what I mean. Opposite sides of the same coin.

2026-06-24 14:54:37 UTC

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Based and woke are the same things. Not a fan of either.

2026-06-23 18:47:34 UTC

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sure, one recent example is a post on Facebook that said "Ladies, if you were a man for a day, what would you do?" And I said "Go for a walk by myself at night." and that then kicked it off. Then I get all the "You're paranoid", "stop hating on men", "men have to deal with danger too", on and on.

2026-06-23 16:04:47 UTC

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Do you think women are people who have inherent rights?
Those who are committed to their righteous anger will not see reason. Politics will bind people to their righteous anger. You will not see that you are caught in that trap for an long as your anger brings you comfort.

2026-06-23 15:32:25 UTC

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2026-06-18 23:01:38 UTC

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Huh, no I haven't noticed that. Sometimes its the other way. For example el problema = "the problem" and is masculine lol
But I don't know a lot of slang. What is an example?

2026-06-18 19:30:36 UTC

Sometimes when someone says something atrocious I’ll call them on it and be like “that’s not cool” and then they’ll get all pissy and be like “well you’re not any fun”. And I’m just like, bro, do you not know how to have a good time with out doing some gay bashing? Is homophobia a prerequisite to your enjoyment?

2026-06-18 16:41:32 UTC

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2026-06-18 15:30:56 UTC

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2026-06-15 14:22:02 UTC

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so if they deny that the problem exists then they don't have to do the protecting and risk the consequences of that?

2026-06-15 13:44:06 UTC

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so ... men don't want to protect cuz they don't want to end up in jail?

2026-06-15 13:35:18 UTC

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2026-06-15 13:33:07 UTC

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Netanyahu is a fucking monster. You gotta have some understanding for civilians who are caught up in fear and making poor choices to support this monster.

2026-06-15 13:26:52 UTC

I love the idea of men as protectors, it’s a task that they are generally well suited to. Men in general are taller, have more upper body strength, etc. And a very honorable thing to do with physical strength is to protect others.
However, men actually doing protecting is pretty rare, at least in my life experience. The most common way that a man, who in theory wants to be a protector, fails to protect, is by not believing that there is a threat to protect from.
I have known so many men in my life that I’m pretty sure are not predators themselves, and who in many areas of life are decent and reasonable people, that for some reason shut down on this topic.
Unfortunately, being sexually assaulted is very much the norm for women in the world. It has certainly been my experience in life, and also the experience for nearly 100% of the women that I know. And it’s not just anecdotal data here, there are just mountains and mountains of studies that all tell this story as well. The evidence is overwhelming.
When I talk to these men about these things I do not accuse them personally of any wrong doing. I do not say ugly things about men in general. I do not advocate the removal of any rights from men. When I am talking to these men I am looking for understanding, but that seems to be the one thing they can’t give. They just shut down and go into defense mode and I don’t know why.
So if you have any idea, please please tell me, why are there so many seemingly decent men out there who can not/will not see this reality? What is going on here?

2026-06-14 14:31:18 UTC

I hate the phrase "nothing good happens after midnight."
My dear, do you have any idea how many of the most amazing moments of my life happened after midnight!?!?!

2026-06-14 14:27:02 UTC

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This is also a reference to unpaid domestic labor. Dishwashing, laundry, cooking, cleaning, event planning, etc. etc. And we have to remember that just a few generations back this work was very difficult, no dish washing machine, no clothes washing machine, clothes were mended and washed by hand, a garden wasn't for flowers it was for food, food that then had to be canned, on and on. women and mothers have always been working women and mothers.

2026-06-14 12:36:13 UTC

I don't like the collectivist language here. I didn't fight to get paid, at least not in this life, that happened well before my time. But I am so very grateful to the women that did fight to get paid, cuz yes, women and mothers have always worked.
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2026-06-13 14:34:14 UTC

What does the word "capitalism" mean to you? And I don't need a dictionary or text book definition here, I'm looking for the associations that the word holds for you.
So let's do word association! When I say "capitalism", what 5 other words come to mind?

2026-06-13 14:01:58 UTC

This is not what a man looks like. This is someone who has intentionally, with all consuming dedication, cartoonified themselves for the entertainment of others.
No doubt it’s impressive, and very eye catching! 👀
But very likely, for most women, not really that attractive. This dude is no fun. This guy will not join you on a wild night out and do shots and then have tacos. This guy will make your child together cry on their 5th birthday when he refuses to eat a piece of the birthday cake. You’ll never see this guy as he’s at the gym 3 hrs a day. He’s pretty miserable.
Most women are going to want men that look like real men.
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2026-06-12 20:00:10 UTC

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Humans do not naturally want to abuse or be abused. I think most BDSM is a symptom of something having gone wrong.
but ya know that happens, so let people cope however they want to.

2026-06-12 19:38:07 UTC

86 47 is a threat. It's fair to investigate that.

2026-06-12 19:03:26 UTC

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But do tell, what about "the female mind" is heavily guarded by denial and secrecy?

2026-06-12 17:24:05 UTC

For a while the BDSM scene has been confusing to me, and a bit concerning. But, after many books and conversations, I think I understand why this exists.
But first, a few very important disclaimers: Consenting adults can do whatever the fuck they want in the bedroom. I am not trying to say that people shouldn’t do these things, or even that they are unhealthy things to do. There clearly seems to be some therapeutic benefit. And I am of course speaking in broad generalities here. Humans are complex, people do these things for a wide variety of reasons.
So let’s go with a typical setup here, a heterosexual pairing with a woman playing the sub role and a man playing the dom role. Alice and Bob.
Alice was brought up in a time and place that taught her that women’s sexuality either didn’t exist, or was very shameful. Because of this sex and shame became fused in her head. Not at all helping this situation is her experiences with sexual abuse. Alice was sexually abused by a close male family member for a time during her adolescence. So not only are sex and shame fused in her head, she also has a hard time differentiating between sex, violence, and love. For her sex is difficult to experience without the themes of violence and shame and a power imbalance.
When dealing with trauma people often do ‘reenactment’ where they attempt to recreate the stories, but this time with a different ending. Or sometimes they recreate in an attempt to process what happened and change their relationship to it.
Alice seeks out interactions with BDSM doms and presents them with a list of her boundaries. A 3 page detailed list of things that are a hard no, things that are a soft no, and things that she’s comfortable with. This formality helps her to regain a sense of control over sexual interactions.
Bob was an awkward and sensitive kid. His mother was erratic, at times manipulative or even abusive. She terrified him, he had no idea how to interact with her let alone connect to her. And as he entered adolescence this fear of his mother extended to women in general.
Bob has generally not done very well with the ladies. He doesn’t know what to say or to do, he has no idea what they do or don’t want from him. He desperately wants them, but has no idea how to go about connecting with them. He feels as if he is a cocaine addict and women are people who unknowingly walk around all day with a briefcase of cocaine handcuffed to their wrist and ignore him.
After a long dry spell Bob began to dabble in the BDSM world. He seeks out women to play the sub role. The formality of these relationships gives him some clarity in a situation that otherwise baffles him. And playing the dom role gives him a sense of control over an act whose absence has felt like constant humiliation.
A BDSM interaction gives them both space to work through these things.

2026-06-12 14:29:02 UTC

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2026-06-12 00:39:46 UTC

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2026-06-10 13:58:11 UTC

The internet can be an ugly place. Sometimes I'm scrolling and its all just...
"XYZ is all the fault of women!"
"ABC is caused by the Jews!"
On and on.
Sometimes it gets to me, but sometimes it's wildly flattering.
Don't know if you knew, but apparently, I run the world 💅✨

2026-06-09 14:52:28 UTC

A lot of people think they like direct communication, but what they actually like is not having to do the work of being considerate, and they don't like it when someone hands them the raw truth without consideration.

2026-06-08 22:21:13 UTC

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😬

2026-06-08 21:36:20 UTC

On a scale of 1-10, how would you rate your interpersonal conflict resolution skills?

2026-06-07 16:54:51 UTC

You are a slave to the “Egregore” until you have learned to see the egregore.
I am so sorry, humans are not the independent creatures that you want them to be. You are not the independent creature that you want to be. I am not the independent creature that I want to be.
And it gets worse! The less aware of this issue we are, the more it controls us. The more you think you are above the impacts of “culture” the more susceptible to it you are.
Now at this point you might be feeling what I’ve often felt when wrestling with this issue, perhaps you’re thinking “Hey, I’m not an automaton, I have free will!” And of course you are right. But you are a limited creature, very effected by and formed by your surroundings, that is developing free will. And the less you are aware of the limits of your biology, the more you are chained to it.
Humans are, fundamentally, inseparably, at our very essence, down to the neurons in our brains, social creatures. This is fact. I could send you a library of evidence. We literally absorb and mirror some of the thought patters of those we spend a lot of time with, for example depression is contagious. The ideas we are surrounded by and the things we experience as a child literally forms the structure of our brains.
Our social-ness, our ability to form tribes, this is the human survival technique. We are not bigger, we are not stronger, we are not faster. In some ways we are more intelligent, but not in other ways. We have survived by forming groups. One human vs one tiger and the human is lunch. Ten humans vs one tiger and the tiger is lunch. This is essential to the human species. The egregore, the collective unconscious is our survival technique. Our ability to do this is why we still exist.
Only through the understanding of this reality do we gain independence from it. We become independent creatures when we realize that we have not been. We gain independence from the egregore when we learn to see it.
So it’s not a question of if culture comes from people or people come from culture… it’s a dance between the two. And the more we are aware of the dance, the more we can lead it.
And it's so, so important that we see this reality as it is very much used against us. Language triggers tribal feelings. We all, yes even you, have exclusion panic baked deep into our brains. Seeing this and knowing how to use it is the special skill of politicians and marketeers. We will not be free from this manipulation until we have learned to see the egregore. So this is really a massive, MASSIVE, issue. It's the next phase in human evolution! The egregore got us to where we are now, and now we need to evolve past it.

2026-06-05 22:04:01 UTC

"I myself have never been able to find out precisely what feminism is: I only know that people call me a feminist whenever I express sentiments that differentiate me from a doormat." - Rebecca West
I think about this quote nearly everyday. It's so true. I'm really bummed that I didn't come up with it.
Quite often when I call someone out on their disrespect they shout "feminist!" at me as if that would hurt my feelings 🤷‍♀️

2026-06-05 21:59:37 UTC

Bitcoin isn’t a revolution, it’s evolution.
Revolution is changing one figure head at the top of the power structure for another. Evolution is removing the need for the power structure.

2026-05-30 19:19:17 UTC

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I can't tell you 🤫

2026-05-30 19:14:25 UTC

I’m done with the trying to prove myself in life. I am very much the weird bitch that I set out to be. Now I’m just amusing myself with random sidequests.

2026-05-30 16:05:44 UTC

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2026-05-25 14:20:31 UTC

Guilt is an individual thing and not a group project. It is incorrect and very counter productive to try to give the weight of guilt to someone who shares some group identity with a guilty party. And I refuse to carry the weight of any guilt that does not personally belong to me.
And also, the world will place these things on you and others. You will be handed the benefits or burdens of other people’s crimes. And I have very little respect for those who can not see that, for those who are blind to the benefits and burdens that they and others have been handed.

2026-05-23 14:15:12 UTC

“Traditional values” and “Family values” are most of the time just a quiet way to say “I want the return of patriarchy”.
When I hear a man say that he wants a return to "traditional values" what I hear is... "I have a hierarchical mindset. I don't know how to value myself unless I can think of myself as above others. I need to be above women so that I can have a sense of value."

2026-05-23 14:13:02 UTC

"The strength of a relationship is in the repair." – Terry Real
All relationships will have "ruptures". That's just the nature of this life, we are limited creatures with imperfect data, we will step on each others toes. And so all relationships of any variety require repair.
If a difficult conversation about "hey you stepped on my toe" can not be had, then that is a very weak relationship. And really strong relationships are not ones where no ones toes are stepped on, but one's where toe stepping can be discussed and resolved.

2026-05-22 19:06:15 UTC

Some people wish to use Bitcoin as a means of flatting power structures.
Some people wish to use Bitcoin as a means of accumulating power.
Which are you?

2026-05-21 14:53:32 UTC

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2026-05-21 13:44:02 UTC

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2026-05-20 17:37:03 UTC

I do worry that the pro-natalists are motivated by eugenics. They will say things like "we're losing population", but that's not true. the global birth rate has slowed but we are still gaining people every year. You know how many babies they are making in India and Nigeria??? ...but we didn't want those babies did we?

2026-05-19 23:11:25 UTC

Blaming the popularity of socialism on laziness or envy is intellectually lazy.
You can't fix a problem that you don't understand.
If you want to ponder what actually drives people to these systems, I got a link for you! 👇
https://hannahmr.com/a-libertarians-guide-to-understanding-the-popularity-of-socialism/

2026-05-17 20:46:22 UTC

Empathy is the foundation of human civilization.
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2026-05-17 00:14:23 UTC

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...there is an Elon Musk community on reddit? That's not healthy.

2026-05-16 17:01:55 UTC

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2026-05-11 17:09:21 UTC

I typed up my complete thoughts on abortion. It's here https://hannahmr.com/the-very-revealing-topic-of-abortion/
But I'll also paste it below...
The very revealing topic of Abortion
We love for things to be simple. A clear yes or a clear no. One clear line in the sand. But life is messy and complicated and doesn’t often lend itself to clear answers. A sign of maturity and intelligence is the ability to wrestle with a very complex issue and resist the urge to lean on a simplistic answer.
If you’d like to test someone’s ability to wrestle with complex issues, ask for their opinion on abortion. Rarely is there an issue that fits this test better. It is complex and for most people it stirs very deep and difficult to manage emotions.
Abortion fits this test so well as you have two things that very much matter, a fetus and a woman, and in the scenarios that we debate, their interests are at odds. For every simple and clear answer that you think you can find, once you change the assumptions or scenario, that simplicity evaporates.
The question of abortion also reveals someone’s ability to exhibiting care and understanding for others whether that other is an unborn fetus or a living woman. The language that someone uses, the examples that they chose… reveals a lot.
If you are of the mind that abortion is a simple matter, then I hope that the below walk through of my take on the topic reveals many aspects that you had not been consciously considering. This topic is one where we can very quickly see that the answer will always be context dependent and a constant weighing of the relative importance of conflicting needs.
A fetus
Let’s start before conception and imagine an IVF clinic. Here is a classic thought experiment:
You are in a building when suddenly the fire alarm goes off and you realize the place is engulfed in flames. As you run to safety you pass an IVF clinic. Inside the open door to the IVF office you see a container holding hundreds of frozen embryos and next to it a crying 2 year old child. You only have the strength and time to save one. Which do you chose?
Nearly everyone will chose to save the child. Why? Because while an embryo certainly does have value, it’s value is far less than that of a living child. That child has thoughts, and feelings, a fully functional nervous system that can experience pain, that child has attachments, and has begun forming an identity, a story. While the embryo’s have none of that.
This thought experiment illustrates that the value of an embryo grows as it does. Most of us would agree that abortions are less objectionable the earlier in a pregnancy that they happen, and many of us would find a late term abortion to be similar to that of murdering a baby. So let’s move to the very difficult topic of late term abortions.
If you were thinking that this one is quite clear, then I’ll tell you about one line that changed my whole perspective on this topic. Years ago I read an article written by a doctor who performs late term abortions, the line that changed my mind was simply “the people who come to me are people who have already painted the nursery.”
The stories she preceded to tell about why prospective parents ended up in her office were absolutely gut wrenching stories of medical tragedy. Situations where the baby won’t make it, and the mother might not either. Stories where the options are let the baby slip away in peace now, or force the parents to watch their child live in pain and cry in gasps for it’s last breath of air.
The abortions she performed were not done out of revenge or regret, they were a tragedy management tool that saved lives and eliminated certain suffering.
With these examples we can see that the bar for when abortion is a decent thing to do raises as that fetus develops. But thus far we’ve only thought about one end of the equation, the fetus, but we can’t forget that women also matter. The life and the well being of a woman also has value.
A woman
Thus far in my life I have had two pregnancies. Both well planed and both that resulted in the birth of a healthy child. I have been responsible, but I have also been lucky.
Being pregnant was an amazing experience. I had uncomplicated pregnancies and it was mind blowing to feel these new people develop and grown inside my body. They had distinct personalities while still in the womb.
I have not been faced with having to make a difficult decision about terminating a pregnancy, and I hope that I never have to make those choices. It would be gut wrenching to end a pregnancy. It is a death of sorts, certainly it is a great loss and a tragedy. But when it is my body, my fetus, without a doubt it is my decision.
Burden and choice are flip sides of the same coin. Those with the skin in the game are those that are best suited to make the choices. Someone in a fancy suit hundreds of miles away who will not have to live with the outcome of the situation is wildly unfit to make difficult reproductive choices for others. No one has more of a right to make to make reproductive choices than a pregnant woman.
Giving someone else the rights to make these difficult choices is to disrespect the rights of women. It is to remove bodily autonomy and make women slaves.
While childbearing is certainly natural, it is never easy, and quite often it is very dangerous. Statistically speaking, being pregnant is currently the 6th most dangerous job in the United States. Some years it’s more dangerous than being a police officer.
In parts of the world without modern health care, complications from pregnancy and childbirth is the leading cause of death for young women.
When a woman chooses to bear a child not only does she risk her life, she is certain to undergo a very difficult and traumatic experience. Birthing a child is incredibly gruesome work. For most of us we will have a moment of finding our selves laying in a pool of our own blood and feces wishing we could pass out. With my second child I was unable to get an epidural and I’m pretty sure I maxed out my bodies ability to feel pain.
Can you imagine what it feels like to have your body ripped apart from the inside out? No I am not being dramatic, ripped is the right word. And let’s not forget that the recovery is likely to last years.
What right does someone have to force another sovereign being through such a process?
And I will only touch on the topic of rape. I think any decent person would be appalled by the idea of a women being assaulted and then forced to risk her life in enduring childbirth.
So which one matters?
Both obviously. And that is the difficult and complicated part, that it’s both.
I imagine we’ve all seen the very publicized examples of very crass abortion supporters who have done things like throw an abortion party, etc. That’s ugly. And it says that women matter but a fetus does not matter.
I’m sure we can all also think of an example of a staunch anti-abortion campaigner who would like to see women forced to carry their rapists babies. That’s horrific. And it says that a fetus matters but a woman does not matter.
The tricky part about all of this is that it’s both, and it’s not simple at all. The life and well being of a woman matters, and a fetus also matters. In tragic times and places when the their needs are at odds, then very difficult choices about which matters most have to be made. And the ‘answer’ to that will differ in every situation. It’s a constant weighting of conflicting rights at different points in time in different situations. It’s not simple. We can’t make it simple.
If we can take a step back from our very understandably intense emotional connection to this topic, we can see that any clear and simple answer crumbles under the reality of varying situations. Having a considered and caring take on abortion requires the capacity to hold complexities. It requires maturity and intelligence.

2026-05-11 15:16:14 UTC

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both abortion restrictions and the draft are the legal loss of bodily autonomy.

2026-05-11 14:52:32 UTC

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2026-05-11 14:42:21 UTC

The male suicide rate is very concerning. The draft is just a moral atrocity and it shocks me that more people aren’t angry about it.
These are real issues, these are men’s issues, and they are serious issues.
A lady with a septum piercing saying a mean thing on social media. Well that’s gross. Men still being expected to pay for dates. Well that's silly.
If these things annoy you, please call them out, complain about them. But do not confuse them for serious issues.
Women having to be on guard against SA pretty much every time they leave their home is a serious issue. The rates of SA are a very serious issue. Women losing their legal bodily autonomy is a serious issue. The hundreds of thousands of untested rape kits are a very serious issue.
Complain about whatever you like, but don’t confuse your annoyance for a very serious issue.

2026-05-11 14:27:46 UTC

I’ve never had an abortion, I don’t ever want to, it’s a tragic thing to have happen.
But the decision to do so or not needs to be mine. Always. If that decision should ever belong to someone else then I do not own my body. Should that decision belong to the state, then I am a slave of the state.

2026-05-10 20:03:04 UTC

I think I'm having a hard time accepting that being seen, being understood, is an incredibly rare thing.
I keep expecting to find it in anyone I interact with, and that of course, is not going to happen 😕

2026-05-10 15:10:18 UTC

Being able to bear children is a super power. You can literally create life! Epic! The process of childbirth is dangerous and traumatic. It's heroic to take on that task. Cheers to the women that keep humanity going 🙌
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2026-05-07 21:16:21 UTC

It's so stupid the way dudes will use "suck a dick" as an insult. ...bro, you have a dick... don't ya think shaming people for giving that some attention might be shooting your self interests in the foot???

2026-05-07 17:55:52 UTC

SSRI’s/SNRI’s don’t cure depression, because depression isn’t caused by too little serotonin.
These drugs are essentially pain killers, and they save lives. It’s pretty damn difficult to climb out of a deep psychological hole, but these pain killers can push you out of that hole. And once out, you are in a much, much better position to do the work of fixing whatever it is that is causing that depression.

2026-05-07 15:50:45 UTC

I am constantly handing out this career/life hack and it baffles me that so few people do this.
It goes like this… you have a special interest/career focus and you see a really interesting person talking about your topic! You’d really love to just invite them out to a bar and have an hour long conversation with them and ask them all kinds of questions about their work… but that’s kinda creepy, you can’t just do that.
And so, ladies and gentlemen, what you do is... wrap that whole process in a meetup! When you’re running a meetup you can totally invite that person to a bar to give you a personalized lecture, you just have to do it in front of a bunch of other people and call it a fire side chat at an event. But this way not only will they not find your invitation creepy, they will be flattered, they will show up, and then they will thank you!!! 🙌
It’s the most genius career hack I’ve found. Why are you not doing this?!?!?!

2026-05-07 15:25:58 UTC

Buen dia a todas. We have an epic @nprofile…qxte this month.
Janusz will be discussing his research into the privacy of Spark payments and then Isabel Foxen Duke will be taking us on a deep dive into BIP360 & Bitcoin’s quantum issue!
As always RSVP below or we won’t have the right amount of beer!
https://www.meetup.com/san-juan-bitdevs/events/314676183/

2026-05-07 14:07:30 UTC

I’ve been on a psychology learning binge over the past ~5 yrs, at this point I’ve read over 30 books on the topic and my #1 take away is how wildly important it is to consciously manage your own mind.
We have instincts, we likely inherent some genetic memory, our early childhood shapes our brains and forms our nervous system, we absorb the values and narratives of those around us. The thoughts that we think change the hormones in our body. Often depression and anxiety are matters of deeply ingrained subconscious perspectives on life.
Consciously managing your own mind is a prerequisite to having a self directed life.
The thoughts you think and how you live changes your gene expression. Your neuropathways are not fixed and can be reformed at any point in your life. In order to change a deeply ingrained thought pattern, you first need to be aware of it.
Thankfully there are many scientifically proven methods for becoming aware of your own thoughts and updating them. Meditation, journaling, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Narrative therapy, and more.

2026-05-07 14:06:27 UTC

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Well not to brag but I birthed a few humans with fully functional brains!

2026-05-07 13:21:23 UTC

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Being pregnant is statistically the 6th most dangerous job in the US. In some years it’s more dangerous than being a police officer or being in the military.
https://www.scarymommy.com/pregnancy/how-dangerous-is-birth-in-america
Complications in pregnancy and childbirth is a leading cause of death among adolescent girls in developing countries.
https://www.afro.who.int/health-topics/maternal-health

2026-05-07 13:02:17 UTC

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Note the one’s that don’t go smoothly rarely end up on YouTube.
https://youtu.be/UkkdjzMJKaE
https://youtu.be/MtvokBLwjv4
https://www.youtube.com/shorts/bQdKPagyQbc
https://youtu.be/1Kh2Ui6JWQY
https://youtu.be/juoWp0dMJwc

2026-05-07 13:01:39 UTC

Mother’s day is and should be about honoring the heroic effort required in childbirth. Being a dedicated parent is it’s own wildly important work, but that is separate from the dangerous, traumatic, and very necessary work of birthing children.
It’s such an injustice that we hide away from the world the intensity, danger, and seriousness of this work. People not appreciating the work of childbearing causes such a lack of understanding.
If you are someone who has not experienced or witnessed childbirth, at the very least please watch some videos on it. Links in the comments below.

2026-05-04 21:50:16 UTC

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2026-05-04 17:21:48 UTC

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Ya I love the People of Walmart site! fun stuff.
But Walmart is everywhere, not just the poor places in the states. It's probably the most popular store here in Puerto Rico. Half of my stuff I got at Walmart. and so it's just the common person's store.

2026-05-04 16:55:20 UTC

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not sarcasm. I say Walmart as that is where you find normal day to day people and not social media influencers. Also any grocery store works.

2026-05-04 15:38:05 UTC

Please just walk through Walmart. You will see real people dating real people. Your algorithms are feeding you rage bait.
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2026-05-03 14:17:36 UTC

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Interesting!
I have similar thoughts. I think it's about hierarchy. Spirituality does not require hierarchy, but organized religion does.

2026-05-03 14:16:20 UTC

You can find things funny when they aren't a danger to you. And I think that is why women often get the label of "humorless". A lot more things are dangerous to women than to men, and so they don't laugh at those things.
Ya know like rape jokes. You're probably not going to laugh at a rape joke if you are on a date actively trying to make sure that you don't get raped.
There is some nuance here, sometimes humor is a way to deal with trauma. And so whether or not a joke is funny to someone who has experienced that thing depends on the punchline. But a 'ha ha that person got raped' is wildly unlikely to get a laugh out of someone who deals with that fear everyday.

2026-05-03 13:40:44 UTC

There is a positive correlation between religion and the repression of women. Why?

2026-05-01 19:33:28 UTC

Understand but don't accept.
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2026-04-30 17:56:55 UTC

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When do you suppose the swearing on a bible started? And I have no idea, I'd just bet it was the mid 1800's or later.

2026-04-30 16:36:22 UTC

The United States was founded as a secular nation.
The constitution, written in 1787, contains no mention of Christianity or any specific religion and does not establish a national church.
Article VI of the constitution prohibits religious tests for public office, “no religious Test shall ever be required as a Qualification to any Office or public Trust under the United States.”
The first amendment states “Congress shall make no law respecting an establishment of religion”
The first US coinage minted in 1792 contained no religious wording.
The 1796 Treaty of Tripoli signed by President John Adams states “The Government of the United States of America is not, in any sense, founded on the Christian religion.”
The re-branding of the US as a Christian nation happened a lot later.
1864 - “In God We Trust” was added to the currency.
1954 - “Under God” was added to the pledge of allegiance.

2026-04-29 02:16:12 UTC

Your body knows when you are in a good relationship 🫶 🥰
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